Conversations With Cinthia

What happens when you think there won't be enough of something?  Chances are, it doesn't make you more generous, less selfish, more willing to share or enjoy what you have.  The fearful belief that there won't be enough is insidious, and it doesn't go away just because your net worth increases.  As we continue our series on money, Cinthia delves more deeply into what is called scarcity mindset.  Join her to explore what this means and to consider how a change in your thinking just might help you expand contentment, generosity, and ability to make sound financial decisions, even without a change to your bottom line.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

It may be true that opposites attract, but opposite values don't keep real intimacy going or growing, especially when those values are reflected in financial decisions.  Committed, long-term relationships require a shared value system for success, and money is one of the biggest areas those values tend to show up.  No wonder so many fights between couples are about money!  The good news is that we don't have to keep having the same circular conversations about this topic; we can approach it from the perspective of the deeper values we share and begin to find some common ground.   Join Cinthia to look at how to build a shared financial value system as a couple. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

What don't you want people to know about your finances?  Do you feel guilt over money-related mistakes you've made, debt you've acquired, out-of-control spending, or a smaller portfolio than your friends and neighbors might have?  Do you feel embarrassed about making as much as you do, or worry that others would make assumptions about you if they knew how much you have saved, how much someone gave you, or how much or little you had growing up?  Money shame can come in so many forms, but it all comes down to a misunderstanding of the relationship between money and identity.  Whether or not we have room for some financial improvements and changes, God doesn't look at any of us and see a bank account, a portfolio, or a credit card statement.  He sees us.  Join Cinthia to consider whether money shame might be getting in the way of your attempts to use money as a tool for accomplishing what really matters. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your

How do you feel about money?  Do you associate it with security, blessing, greed, need, stress, inadequacy, or something else?  Humans have a way of attaching to inanimate things like money, and, at some level, this is okay, even unavoidable.  Money is important.  It's a lot of things, actually -- but it's not the secret to happiness, identity, or making relationships work.  Join Cinthia today to consider your current relationship with money and what might make that relationship healthier and more effective. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Do you ever find yourself doing the same old ineffective thing because you lack inspiration to create a new solution, or neglecting to change because you are simply not motivated to move forward?  Motivation and inspiration can both be elusive.  Sometimes we treat them like pieces of magic that either fall on us or don’t.  Today Cinthia encourages us to look at what motivates and inspires us and consider how we can manage our lives in ways that make more room for the motivation and inspiration we need. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Sometimes we think of self-care as selfish -- which gives us a great excuse not to do it.  But have you ever thought of self-care as a gift you give others?  We’re not talking here about sinking yourself into debt to acquire everything you want, or about harming others in a quest to satisfy your every whim.  We’re talking about the basics here – drinking enough water, providing yourself with decent nutrition, getting enough rest, practicing some healthy body movement, facing your problems honestly, etc.  How does basic self-care impact your contribution to the world?  How does it honor the gift God made you to be?  Join Cinthia to consider how self-care could be a gift you give yourself and others in 2022. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

If feelings are normal, where does anxiety fit into the picture?  What is anxiety, and how is it related to trust, perfectionism, and survival?  Most of all, how do we deal with it so that it doesn’t run our lives and prevent us from being the best versions of ourselves?  Cinthia discusses all this and more in today’s episode. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Negative feelings tend to be uncomfortable.  As members of modern western culture, many of us have come to fear negative emotions and think that we are entitled to have positive feelings all the time.  We may try ineffectually to change ourselves or others, hoping the negative feelings will go away.  Others try to ignore negative feelings and miss the clear warning signals those feelings could send.  What are we supposed to do with these messy, uncomfortable negative emotions that we just wish would stop already?  Join Cinthia to examine your own beliefs about negative feelings and to learn how to handle them more effectively. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Stressful situations have a way of revealing what is really inside of us, and holidays can sometimes fit this description!  Sometimes we respond to stress by going into survival mode, even when our actual survival is not being threatened.    We may feel cornered, panic, and engage in some kind of fight/flight/freeze response when, in fact, we do have choices available.  Today Cinthia discusses what it means to distinguish the appropriate level of response to a situation and how to keep momentary stress from stealing the moments we have.  Is it possible that you will need to soothe yourself during some stressful situations this holiday season?  Join Cinthia to look at how to enjoy what there is to enjoy this holiday season, even while the stressors swirl around you. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Last week, Cinthia started talking about “A.N.G.E.R.”  This week, she explains the acrostic in more detail, looking at ways we know we are “doing anger well” or doing it poorly.  She then continues looking at how to manage ourselves well when family holidays are difficult or when we do not have the families and holidays we wish we did. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

How do you know when your anger is a problem?  And what can you do if it is?  Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that can be of service to us, our relationships, and the world around us.  However, it can also be handled badly, and, when it is, it can be very, very dangerous.  Sometimes we don’t even recognize our anger, and it comes out in all kinds of ways.  So how can we make sure we are recognizing our anger and managing it well?  Join Cinthia for a holiday anger check-up. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

It’s hard to get far in human relationships without running into the issue of need.  We need each other, but we don’t want to need each other in the wrong ways, wrong amounts, wrong times… Some of us wish we didn’t have to need other people at all!  As we continue the fresh 2021 version of Relationships 101, Cinthia reviews some concepts from recent podcasts and then explores the meanings and implications of our various dependencies in human relationships.  She finishes by taking a specific look at addictive relationships.  These are sometimes hard to define or understand, but, when you hear Cinthia describe them, you will find it easier to determine whether the characteristics resonate for you.  Join Cinthia to explore the crucial issue of dependency and find a step you can take toward improving the health of your own relationships today. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

It’s hard to look at relationship behaviors without talking about family, whether families of origin or the families we have created as adults.  Our relationship behaviors are often created and regularly exhibited in our family relationships.  We may form family patterns with our spouses or children based on experiences we had as children, whether by recreating the same dynamics or by reacting against them.  While there are no perfect families and there is little value in “grading” or “judging” families simply for the purpose of criticism, there is tremendous value in considering what we have experienced so that we can respond appropriately: being grateful for the good things, grieving the losses, and learning how to create healthier patterns in the future.  Join Cinthia to consider your own experiences with family relationships and to identify ways to be more intentional with this now. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guid

Relationships are one of the most important parts of life, but that doesn’t make them easy.  There may not be a standard textbook for dealing with people, but today Cinthia offers some basic concepts and skills to improve your relationships and relational functioning.  Whether you are struggling to learn these things for the first time or have taught them to others for years, these principles are important enough to learning, review, evaluation, and growth.  Join Cinthia for some practical how-to guidelines for dealing with yourself, other people, and life in relationship with others. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6    

Last episode, Cinthia discussed determining our value by starting with our Creator and the value He established in us, rather than with our own history, performance, feelings, or contributions. Today, she discusses what this means for our relationships. What happens when we relate to other people based on the value God created in us and in others? What does this mean for how we treat others and how we expect them to treat us? What does it mean for how we respond when someone does not treat us appropriately? To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6    

We expend massive amounts of money, time, and effort trying to grasp our own identities, searching desperately to figure out who we are.  We long to understand why we are the way we are, and we often try to change ourselves, hoping to increase our own value.  Today Cinthia points out that created beings cannot be understood without first considering the creator.  This means that, if you want to understand yourself, you can’t start with yourself.  To know who we are and what we are worth, we have to start with Who God is and what He does for us, not what we do for Him, ourselves, or anyone else.  This also means that He has authority over the paths we take with our lives, authority we often resist.   Do you tend to question your own value?  Resist God’s plan for you?  Join Cinthia to consider how acknowledging your status as a created being could alter your approach to issues like self-worth and the search for life purpose. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each e

Sometimes we fight to preserve what we think we need, only to find we are preserving what chokes the life out of us.  What in your life do you try to protect, even when God seems to be nudging you to let it go?  What are you afraid of losing, and what are you losing because you won't let go?  It might be a bad thing, or it might be something that seems so good, so right, so appropriate, except that God is saying, "Trust Me; I have something better for you."  If you are familiar with Cinthia's book God Wants You Truly Living, Not Walking Dead, you know that she has wonderful insights on this topic.  Today she presents it from a fresh perspective, focusing on what it means to let God deal with our sin instead of insisting on judging ourselves.  Join her to consider what needs to die in order for you to truly live.   To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6  

Today’s episode begins with why self-care is important and then branches into the territory of ritual.  What are your self-care rituals, positive or negative?  How do your daily rituals reflect and reinforce your values?  Our rituals take our habits to another level, and they can help us or hurt us, as well as others.  What rituals will you add, subtract, or continue, and how will it impact your ability to be who you were created to be?

You were uniquely created for a specific purpose.  You can (and do, for good or for ill) make a difference in yourself and the world around you.  To fulfill this purpose and effect this change well, you are going to have to figure out how to deal with pain; pain is going to be part of your experience on earth.  Do these concepts sound simple?  Profound?  Too easy?  Too hard?  Helping people understand and apply them has been foundational to Cinthia's work for three decades, but they continue to be fresh and to find new applications.  Join her today for a new take on the classic teachings that have helped so many clients, listeners, and readers move toward being the best versions of themselves.

As if we weren't excited enough to interview Josh McDowell last week, this week Cinthia talks with Ben Bennett about Free to Thrive, the book he and Josh McDowell are releasing.  Having faced his own trauma and struggles with addiction, Mr. Bennett is now the director of Resolution Movement, helping others discover tools for addressing their own struggles.  Today he and Cinthia discuss the importance of recognizing and meeting emotional needs, reducing the status of asking for help with mental/emotional issues, and understanding how unmet emotional needs and unresolved emotional trauma can feed behaviors we want to resist but keep doing.