Mind Your Mind - Joseph Tropper

Summary: In this episode, Joseph explains the defense mechanisms that are built into us as human beings. Though they are intended to protect our ego and state of mind, they often end up damaging our relationships and pulling us further into blame and anger. Tune-in as Joseph uncovers the 7 most common defense mechanisms we all use to protect ourselves. His greatest hope in opening this discussion is that we become aware of our defenses and understand our ability to develop healthier ways to respond or deal with emotions, especially when involved with difficult interactions. Time Stamped Show Notes: ● 00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast ● 00:22 – Today’s episode is about the 7 defense mechanisms we all use ● 00:45 – Defense mechanisms are ways to protect our ego ● 01:00 - “Defense mechanisms protect us but also blind us at the same time” – Joseph Tropper ● 01:11 – Defense mechanisms tend to blind us from our own parts ● 01:51 – The 7 defense mechanisms we all use: o

Summary:Trauma, unfortunately, is an experience had by most. Each of us have traumatic events that have happened either in childhood or in our adult life that form or shape part of who we are. The key is to not let our traumatic experiences and feelings dictate the rest of our lives. Tune in to hear how the treatment for trauma is NOT one-size-fits-all and how talk therapy can even present negative consequences for your overall healing and treatment. In this episode, Joseph shares four steps that can help you recover from your trauma and explains how your healing only begins with a willingness on your behalf.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:22 – Trauma Part 2 – Recovery01:00 – “Trauma is a fact of life … but it doesn’t have to be a life sentence” – Dr. Peter Levine01:08 – We all have experienced trauma01:34 – There is so much help that can be given to you and there’s so much that you can do about how you feel02:31 – Selecting a therapist and modalityo02:47 – A lot of th

Summary:In this episode, Joseph opens the first installment for the 2-Part Series for Trauma. Joseph defines trauma, discusses the importance of conceptualizing what it is to us, and expresses just how common it is to experience trauma. He refers to the work of Dr. Peter Levine, an expert in the field of trauma, to describe the symptoms one may experience if one has experienced trauma. Tune-in to see if you can relate to having any of these symptoms and how acknowledging your own trauma is the best way to face it head-on to get the help you need.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:23 – Today’s episode is the first installment of the 2-Part Series for trauma00:41 – Trauma is a word that is very stigmatized01:22 – Disclaimer: trauma work can be a real trigger for people02:08 – 1.9 out of 2 people experience trauma02:11 – Trauma can be described as so many things02:20 – It could be a feeling of overwhelm mixed with a feeling of helplessness03:04 – It’s important to conceptual

In this episode, Joseph teaches usDr. Bernie Siegel’s 4 Self-Healing Lessons. Not everyone would agree that mind and body connection is considered a mental health topic, but it truly is. The state of your mind and what you believe often precedes what your body will do. This is precisely why healing begins in the mind. Tune-in as Joseph discusses Dr. Bernie’s self-healing lessons and the RIGHT way healthcare givers can advocate and encourage their patients in their healing process.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:23 – Today’s episode is 4 Self-Healing Lessons byDr. Bernie Siegel01:05 – “We all know that there’s a mind and body connection”01:51 –Dr. Bernie Siegelwas born in New Yorko02:03 – He retired from his practice in 1989 and since then, he’s talked to patients and caregivers about mental healtho02:20 – In 1978, he originated what he called the Exceptional Cancer Patients, which he still runs in parto03:01 – One of his famous books isLove, Medicine & Miracleso03:

Summary:In this episode, Joseph talks about trip planning. Trips are highly anticipated events in our lives. They bring promise of adventure, exploration, or just rest and relaxation. What people often forget though are the stress and hassles that come along with a trip. These can include entering a new culture and language, different people’s travel styles and/or expectations of the trip itself, and family or individual needs while traveling. Listen as Joseph lists ways you can cut down these potential stressors in order to have that vacation you’ve hoped for.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:23 – Today’s episode is the trip planning session00:31 – “A lot of people run into problems when they travel”00:40 – Couples and families have these issues00:52 – Frustration comes from different agendas each person may have01:31 – You can get this episode’s printout atMind Your Mind01:52 – “To travel is to take a journey into yourself” – Danny Kaye03:18 – Write down your planso03:

Summary:In this episode, Joseph ends the hypnosis series with 3 hypnosis superscripts, including one that helps cure a headache. Joseph invites you to participate in these exercises so that you can experience deep relaxation and rest. These superscripts will encourage you to clear your mind and expel any negative energy and stressors—bringing you to a whole new place of peace and relaxation.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s episode is Part 2 of the hypnosis series – 3 Hypnosis Superscripts00:49 – Joseph encourages you to be in a quiet place to participate in the exercise01:46 – Don’t operate any heavy machinery during the session02:10 – Let your brain and body relax02:30 – First superscript – Imagine yourself standing on top of a staircaseo02:42 – There are 10 steps leading down and as you walk down, you notice these sensations in your bodyo03:09 – As you continue to walk down, you go into a deep sleep, feeling relaxation and comforto03:17 – At zero, you wil

Summary:In this episode, Joseph teaches us about hypnosis and dispels the myths around its practice. What is hypnosis? Does it work? If I get hypnotized, am I still in control? Listen to find out the origins of hypnosis and how hypnotherapy can help those who struggle with smoking, alcoholism and phobias to name a few. Joseph also discusses the myths of hypnosis including whether or not you can control someone in a state of hypnosis and if one can get “stuck” in hypnosis.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:31 – Today’s topic: Hypnosis Part 100:35 – Send your questions toMind Your Mind00:46 – This will be the introduction on hypnosis01:05 – Part 2 will provide a demonstration of three Hypnosis Superscripts01:30 – Hypnotherapy has been around for hundreds of years01:37 –Dr. Franz Mesmermade hypnosis famouso01:51 – In his time, hypnosis was called animal magnetismo02:09 – He mastered this art and passed on his own development of hynosis02:28 – Many psychologists use hypnother

Summary:In this episode, Joseph gives us 5 ways to financial sanity. Our everyday lives are riddled with expenses—some planned, some not. So, it’s no surprise that one can easily find oneself in a hole of debt without much recollection of how one ended up there. This needs to change. The average American has $18K in debt, and living in a state of financial strain can directly affect our state of mind. Listen as Joseph encourages us to take control and responsibility over our finances and offers some practical tips and advice that will help us work toward living a debt-free life.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s topic: 5 Ways to Financial Sanity00:57 – Difficulties in finances lead us to depression and anxiety01:32 – The average American has $18K in debt01:53 – A $10K debt can double your chance for divorce02:12 – This segment is in response to Chris’s question – send your question or comment toMind Your Mind○02:36 –Joe, I can’t seem to get on top of my finan

Summary:Self-esteem and self-love is an undeniable, human need. How well we perceive and much we value ourselves affects all aspects of our lives, including our mental health. A low self-esteem can result in depression, anxiety, and essentially get in the way of us living our lives. So how do we “work on” our self-esteem? In this episode, Joseph lists 5 Tips for Loving Yourself. If we can learn to appreciate and accept who we are—our values and what we have to offer—this can pave the way to a positive self-esteem and a healthier life.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s topic: 5 Tips for Loving Yourself00:51 – At the core of mental health concerns is a lack of self-esteem01:32 – We all need self-esteem and self-love02:01 – People with anxiety or depression often have low self-esteem02:14 – Learn how to love yourself02:25 – Dr. Glenn Schiraldi’s book,The Self-Esteem Workbookis worth checking out03:01 – "Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand

Summary:In Episode 010, Joseph explains to us the 4 disasters of relationships and the 7 master skills to overcome them based on the work of Dr. John Gottman, an expert in the field of marriage research. Challenges in marriage and relationships are a given and can easily overwhelm us, especially if we’re left without some practical help and advice. We can all relate to feelings of contempt and times when we’ve been critical of our partners—2 of the 4 disasters that can really hurt a relationship. The good news is that we CAN change the course of our relationships. Tune in to find out Dr. Gottman’s 7 master skills that will overcome the 4 disasters and in turn, improve our marriages and relationships.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:25 – Today’s topic: 7 Relationship Master Skills to Overcome 4 Disasters00:52 – Joseph will be referring to the works ofDr. John Gottman, an expert in marriage research02:13 – “Friendship fuels the flames of romance, because it offers the bes

Summary:In Episode 009, Joseph lists the 10 tips for emotional regulation. Every day is filled with its stressors and we’re left with the question—how do we respond? Do we let our emotions guide or lead our response or do we have control over our emotions? Emotional dysregulation—like getting upset—is a very common occurrence for all of us. In this podcast, Joseph will give us a more rounded view of how to perceive our emotions and the ways in which we can better regulate them—for your benefit and for the benefit of your relationships, too.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:28 – Today’s topic: 10 Tips for Emotional Regulation00:55 – There are different levels of emotional dysregulation01:13 – “Emotions come and go, but they feel so strong”01:23 – Emotion comes from the root “motion” which means movement, they are there to guide us, push us, and motivate us to action01:48 – Be aware that emotion comes from the amygdala – the body’s alarm system02:30 – We can slow emotions

Summary:In Episode 008, Joseph discusses 5 comprehensible steps to becoming a great parent. Challenges and struggles are normal when it comes to parenting and oftentimes we are left to our own devices to figure out what works best for our child. Joseph provides parents with 5 clear steps that can help us become great parents according to the fundamental needs of our children. He also refers listeners to three key books that can assist us in this parenting journey that is a continual, learning process for us all.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:28 – Today’s topic: 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent00:42 – Parenting challenges are always there01:08 – 1 in 7 children in the US are struggling with one type of diagnosable mental, behavioral, or developmental issue01:29 – ADHD is a growing problem for many kids01:36 – Anxiety and depression are also becoming more present in children of younger ages01:57 – “A baby is born with a need to be loved – and never outgrows it.”–Frank

Summary:In Episode 007, Joseph reminds us of just how important sleeping is for our mental health and gives us 14 ways to sleep like a baby, tonight. Sleep is often one of the first things sacrificed to keep up with the day-to-day demands and tasks in life; thus, the one thing we take for granted. Joseph explains why we must value our sleep when it comes to our overall lifelong physical and mental health and lists 14 things you can do today, to help you get that much needed sleep.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s topic: 14 Ways to Sleep Like a Baby Tonight00:29 – Many of the issues people have come from sleep deficiencies00:57 – Some ideas can be implemented immediately01:17 – A study kept people awake for 24 hours straight01:31 – At the end of 24 hours, a lot of psychological issues were reported01:54 – 60M people in the US have some type of sleep disorder01:59 – 50% of people have snoring issues02:06 – 37% of people report falling asleep every day02:18 – 5

Summary:In Episode 006, Joseph teaches us The 4 Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People. Unlike the explicit lessons we learn in school, the real world calls for a more specific intelligence than book smarts—EQ. In the work environment, every single person faces social issues and challenges that only their EQ can solve. Listen as Joseph describes the 4 habits of people that are emotionally intelligent and provides practical advice on how you can begin to work on your EQ today.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s topic: The 4 Habits of Emotionally Intelligent People00:58 – Emotional intelligence is a hot topic from the ‘90s01:25 –Edward Thorndike, a famous psychologist in the ‘20s, already identified and defined social intelligence01:41 – Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligencetook social intelligence to another level02:00 – 80% of your adult success comes from EQ02:20 – 75% of careers are derailed because of emotional intelligence issues02:39 – John Mayer and

Summary:In Episode 005, Joseph lists 6 ways to let go of the past. Dealing with pain and resentment is never easy for any one person; but, you have a choice to either hold on to the resentment or free yourself from it and move on. How exactly does one do this? How do we let go of the past? Listen as Joseph teaches us the importance of acknowledging our feelings of resentment, the reasons why we need to let go, and the means by which this is possible.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:25 – Today’s topic: 6 Ways to Let Go of the Past01:01 – When people have resentment and pain, it leads to poor choices in life01:33 – Holding on to the past makes us learn from the past01:51 – The adaptive part of holding on to the past can also backfire on us02:22 – “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” – Carrie Fisher02:40 – #1 Resentment is an addiction03:21 – #2 We cannot change the past03:58 – #3 It’s an illusion of strength04:22 – Real strength com

Summary:In Episode 004,Joseph Tropperdiscusses the 13 ingredients of healthy couples. Joseph uses the analogy of baking—you wouldn’t replace tar for chocolate, or vinegar for milk in your recipe. You need to focus on choosing the right ingredients to create that sweet, final confection. These 13 ingredients have negative counterparts and just being aware of the choices you have is where it all begins. Listen as Joseph shares the 13 ingredients for a healthier relationship with your partner and the importance of evaluating what you bring to the table. Joseph will show you how you can improve your relationship now.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:25 – Episode 4 is about the 13 ingredients that create a healthy couple00:56 – This episode is for couples who want to enhance their relationship01:20 – 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce; although these statistics lean towards teen marriages01:40 – Once age at the time of marriage increases, the statistics for divorce lower02:05 –

In Episode 003, Joseph teaches us 5 Ways to Kick Anxiety. In the US, about 22% of the population is affected by anxiety. Unfortunately, it’s not only adults who experience anxiety, 1 in 4 children suffer as well. Acknowledging anxiety is always the first step to overcoming it. Listen as Joseph shares the types of anxiety expressed today, and how we can combat anxiety in other ways besides medication.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s episode is 5 Ways to Kick Anxiety00:35 – Anxiety is an uncomfortable topic01:07 – “Prevalence of anxiety in the United States population is 22%”01:17 – “4% of the population can be classified as severe”01:30 – It is common for children ages 13-18 to have anxiety01:40 – “1 in 4 kids suffer from anxiety”01:50 – “Only 1 in 3 people seek treatment for anxiety”02:10 – Unlike anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications work quickly02:27 – Check medication for addictive properties02:51 – Different forms of anxiety are:o02:55 – Panic Diso

In Episode 002, Joseph shares with us the 6 Steps to Overcoming Sadness and Depression. It’s known that 1 in 5 adults have experienced some kind of mental health issue. Specifically, when it comes to depression, only 28% of individuals are actually helped by medication. This begs the question: what are the other ways one can combat depressive feelings and thoughts? Listen in as Joseph lists 6 steps you can start doing today, to either prevent or overcome those feelings of sadness and depression.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s episode is Overcoming Sadness and Depression: 6 Step Process00:32 – “1 in 5 adults in America have some type of mental health issue they’ve experienced”01:01 – 50% of adults will not talk to their doctor01:29 – Everything is on a spectrum in terms of depressive feelings and thoughts—the question is how pervasive these thoughts and feelings are01:39 – Getting diagnosed by a qualified health professional is very important01:50 – Podcast

Summary:In Episode 001, Joseph describes “The 8 Dimensions of Wellness” and encourages us to do a self-check. What is our level of satisfaction in each dimension? How do we increase our satisfaction? How important is it to take care of ourselves first? In today’s busy world, people tend to drown in their daily tasks and responsibilities, putting aside their own personal well-being. Tune in find out what these 8 dimensions mean for you and how to take those first steps in self-care.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:26 – Today’s topic: Where do I Start? The 8 Mental Areas to Mind01:06 –The Wellness Initiative Programby SAMHSA, a US government organization, begins our list:o01:27 –Emotional—Coping effectively with life and creating satisfying relationshipso01:32 –Environmental— Maintaining good health by occupying pleasant, stimulating environments that support well-beingo01:42–Financial— Satisfaction with current and future financial situationso01:50 –Intellectual—Recogniz

Welcome to Mind Your Mind! My name is Joseph Tropper and it is so nice to meet you! This podcast was designed with you in mind. It’s meant to tackle the hottest topics of self-care and help you take the best care of yourself. I want to help you get motivated, deal with stress, and enhance your relationships.QualificationsTo begin I would like to introduce myself and explain why I am qualified to help you take the next step. I have 15 years of experience as a life coach, hypnotherapist and licensed mental health professional. I hold a Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling and have been in full time private practice as lead therapist and director for the past 4 years. I’m a proud husband and father and these two roles shape so much of my life perspective. I have specialized training in couples counseling, trauma (EMDR therapy) and anxiety and want to help you move forward in life.Why This Podcast?Clients often ask if they can record my sessions. I am concerned for their confidentiality as well as quality