The Terri Cole Show

I am so thrilled to have my pal Rachel Luna on the show to talk all about her new book, Permission to Offend: The Compassionate Guide for Living Unfiltered and Unafraid. Doesn't that sound like something we all need?! We chat about how to have hard conversations, handle judgment and rejection, how Rachel's life experience informed her decision to write this book, figuring out who you are and what you believe, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at http://terricole.com/525 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/524 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have Scott Jeffrey Miller on the show to talk about his new book, The Ultimate Guide to Great Mentorship: 13 Roles to Making a True Impact. I love Scott's take on mentorship and found our discussion fascinating.  Whether you are a mentor, want to be one, want to find one, or have been one, Scott has a lot of wisdom to share on the subject. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/523 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever surprised by your reactions or feelings?  Does it ever feel like you get hit by a bus of your own emotions, where you’re left wondering what the hell was that about? If you have experienced this, you are not alone.  Emotional reactions can seem kind of mysterious, and understanding our own emotional needs can be challenging.  And becoming aware of your emotional needs allows you to communicate them and get them met. This leads to more fulfilling relationships, which is why today’s episode is all about the steps you can take to uncover your emotional needs.  I walk you through a process of understanding and discovering your emotional needs and suggest what you can do when you discover the unmet needs you have in your life right now.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/522 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal, Tamsen Fadal, on the show to talk about all things mid-life: aging, botox, menopause, divorce, re-marriage, authenticity, and so much more. I've followed Tamsen's Instagram obsessively over the last two years and I love her take on these topics. I also appreciate how open she is about her experiences. If you like what you hear, be sure to check out her podcast, Coming Up Next: Honest Conversations on Midlife, Menopause and Embracing Change: tamsenfadal.com/podcast. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/521 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’re on vacation, do you actually take time off and unplug? Or do you anxiously check your phone, afraid you’ll hear from work? Worse, do you come back from a vacation feeling like you still need a vacation because you’re exhausted? It is time to take a real vacation – without work – so you can feel rested and restored instead of frazzled and drained. Below, you will find tips to help you create boundaries on vacation– because I see you, fellow recovering workaholics! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/520 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am thrilled to have my pal Dr. Daniel Amen back on the show for a third time to talk about his brand new book, Change Your Brain Every Day. Vic and I have been working through this book - and let me tell you, it’s so accessible, no matter how busy you are! In this conversation, Dr. Amen gives us some daily habits we can begin for better brain health, and offers his unique perspective on why brain health is just as important as physical health. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/519 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?  Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?  Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t?  Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?  Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/518 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, Mimi Bouchard, is the CEO and Founder of the modern meditation app, Superhuman. As Mimi tells us, she created this app after having the idea to record and listen to 'future self' meditations on the go, which quickly changed her life. Her core belief is if you can visualize the future you want, you can create it. I hope you find this conversation as inspiring as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/517 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a generous giver in relationships?  Do you give from your heart? From a place of love?  Or are you a little more tit-for-tat, where you expect something specific in return for giving?  If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heart-centered) and transactional unions (more quid pro quo).  I also give you steps to become more balanced between the two, because you do not want the pendulum to swing too far in either direction. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/516 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Sarah Jenks, an ordained Priestess who, like so many of us, used to be a people-pleaser and codependent. Sarah and I have traveled the same circles for years, yet this is the first time I actually got to speak to her.  She is an expert in the Sacred Feminine and I found our conversation fascinating. You'll learn how to bring more ceremony into your life, how Sarah defines Sacred Femininity, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/515 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does Father’s Day bring up hard feelings for you?  Does it give you anxiety because it feels like you can’t escape the endless promotions for Father’s Day?  Or does it leave you longing for a different (or any) relationship with your father?  If so, this episode is for you. I talk about my difficult journey with my father, how to handle grief around Father’s Day, and alternate ways to ‘manage’ the day to make it less difficult. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/514 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so happy to have my new pal, award-winning copywriter and new author, Laura Belgray, on the show to talk about her experience writing her first book, how it came about, feeling behind in all aspects of life, her unique business tips, and work boundaries! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/513 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a worrier?  Are you constantly thinking of all the things that could go wrong?  Or do you seek to control situations outside of your control?  If you answered yes, this episode is for you, my friend. I am breaking down what it means to be a worrier, the high cost of worrying, how to know when worry is excessive, and giving you steps you can act on right now to worry less and live more in the present moment. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/512 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, therapist, and author, Minaa B., is an amazing original thinker. I first came across her work on Instagram, and I was blown away by how precise she is with her words and finding the intersection of our humanness. I love her content and wanted to have her on the show to talk about her new book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World. We also chat about boundaries and Minaa describes how she deals with pushback against having her phone on "do not disturb."  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/511 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel about change?  Does it make you anxious? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Do you tend to want things to stay the same? Think about how you might feel if your favorite shampoo was discontinued, your favorite grocery shop closed, or someone took “your spot” in a gym or yoga class.  In this episode, I am talking about how to navigate change, growth, and transformation, and where grief fits into this process. We have to grieve the way things were to embrace how things are. This is true even when we experience changes we desire, like getting married, buying a home, or relocating for a dream job. We still need to mourn the loss of how our life used to be. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/510 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love. We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/509 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder why setting boundaries feels like a struggle? Why it is difficult to speak up when you have something to say?  Or why it can feel impossible to set a limit when you don’t want to do something?  If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am giving you the top five boundary blocks I have seen in my 25+ years as a psychotherapist and suggesting ways to overcome them. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/508 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you struggled with "mom guilt"?  Do you find yourself emotionally activated by certain things your child does? Or do you feel like being a mother is harder for you than it is for others? (Especially when you look on social and find picture-perfect families?) Then this interview with Zoe Blaskey, host of The Motherkind Podcast and a transformational coach, is for you. Zoe has first-hand knowledge of how difficult it is to navigate modern motherhood and offers insight and wisdom on how to give ourselves more grace and compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever experienced “mom guilt”? Do you try to get it all done and then feel like you’re failing in one area or another (or all of them)?  Does it feel like everything will fall apart if you take five minutes for yourself? If you are nodding your head, you are not alone. “Mom guilt” is a common experience. But as I’ve seen with many therapy clients, healthy boundaries can help mitigate this experience. It is time to stop feeling bad about being human (which is really what “mom guilt” is about). In this episode, I give you the top five essential boundaries for empowered motherhood to lessen mom guilt. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/506 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices