The Terri Cole Show

On today’s episode, I’m so stoked to talk to Dr. Sara Gottfried, a medical doctor and hormone expert whose work I really connect with. We talk about one of my favorite subjects: The gender gap in healthcare and how we can help women navigate big hormonal changes like menopause. She also shares a more holistic and effective perspective on treatment for autoimmune disease, and tells us about her own personal boundary struggles! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/673

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life. In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/672

Today, I’m sharing a chat with my new-old friend Britt Frank– We met so recently, but it feels like we’ve known each other forever! We talk about getting unstuck, the importance of mind-body connection in personal growth, and how anxiety can act as a map for navigating stuckness. Plus, Britt shares some tips and tools for overcoming fear and doubt from her new Getting Unstuck Workbook. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/671

When you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news, what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.  In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit.  Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/670

How much anxiety and fear are you walking around with on a daily basis?  If you struggle with worry, fear, or anxiety consistently thrumming in the backdrop of your mind, it is worth it for you to take a look at where the roots of these thought patterns lie.  In this episode, you’ll learn simple shifts you can make to better manage anxiety so you can have less stress and more joy in your life! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/668

I am thrilled to welcome my pal, author, podcaster, and teacher, Cathy Heller, to the show to talk about her new book, Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease, because who doesn't want that?! We talk about creating what you want and the resistance we feel toward that, abundance, being afraid and putting things out in the world anyway, our inherent oneness, and feeling unworthy of ease and prosperity.  Cathy breaks all of this down in an accessible and practical way, and I know many of you will resonate with what she shares here. Read the show notes for terricole.com/669

I am so excited to have my new pal, Cheryl Burke, on the show to talk all about why she's passionate about mental health and what got her here. You might be familiar with Cheryl if you're a Dancing With the Stars fan, as she appeared on 26 seasons of the show and retired two years ago.  In this conversation, she shares beautifully and candidly about the difficulties of her career, the freedom she's found in being single, and what she has learned in her six years of sobriety.  This was such a heartfelt (new) girlfriend jam and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. *TW: sexual abuse and abuse in relationships is mentioned throughout the conversation. Please skip if these are sensitive topics for you!* Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/667

Do you find yourself doomscrolling more than ever? Does the news of what’s happening in the world negatively impact your mental state? Do you focus more on what’s wrong, making you feel like nothing is right? Whether you’re looking at the whole world or your corner of it, if the answer is yes, this episode is for you. I’m talking all about the transformative power of gratitude, how it can impact what happens in your life, and some strategies you can use to create more of it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/666

I am so excited to welcome psychotherapist and author Israa Nasir to the show to talk about her new book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More. If you're a high-functioning codependent, tune in, because I think we tend to struggle with this!  Israa shares practical strategies we can use to stop feeling like we need to do it all. We also touch on what healthy productivity looks like, signs you might be falling into toxic productivity, the dangers of running on autopilot, and feeling like you have to prove yourself. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/665

Do your friendships feel unbalanced?  Are certain friendships draining? Do your friends disrespect or trample on your boundaries? Or do your friends bring you down rather than lift you up? If the answer is yes, this episode is for you because it’s all about assessing friendships: why we stay in unhealthy dynamics, what unhealthy friendships look like, and how to figure out what you want from friendships and what you can change. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/664

Have financial boundaries been hard for you? Do you tend to spend more than you make? Does "budgeting" sound unappealing? Then you're in the right place, because I am talking with Jill Sirianni, co-author of Buy What You Love Without Going Broke: Transform Your Spending and Get More of What Money Can’t Buy and co-host of the @FrugalFriends podcast.  The book is all about connecting with your values and ensuring your financial life aligns with them. Jill is also a licensed clinical social worker and speaks to how finances affect ALL areas of our life. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/663  

When something good happens for you, do you ever think, “Wow, I hope I don't get found out!” or, “I don’t deserve this”? Do you start doubting yourself? Do you think it must have been a mistake? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about imposter syndrome, how to navigate it, and how to boost your confidence.  Imposter syndrome is fresh in my mind as I ran into it writing my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to High-Functioning Codependency. I hope hearing about my experience can normalize it for you and give you some ideas on how to deal with it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/662

Do you ever get so close to achieving a goal, and then something stops you from achieving it? Do you find yourself getting in your own way and self-sabotaging? Then you'll want to tune in because I have Dr. Sophie Mort on the show talking about her newest book, (Un)Stuck: Five Steps to Break Bad Habits and Get Out of Your Own Way, which I think we could all use! We talk about all the ways you can get unstuck and shift from feeling disempowered to empowered, the reasons why changing habits is hard, the compulsion to repeat our past, and the drama triangle (which can explain a lot about the ways we relate to others). I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/661

Do you feel heard in your relationships with your spouse, kids, colleagues, friends, and family? Do you find you get the results you’re seeking when talking to people? Do you feel understood?  If the answer is no or sometimes, this episode is for you. I’m covering what effective communication is, what it looks like, how to get better at it, and giving you scripts to use to be more accurately understood. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/660

I am so excited to share this conversation about building epic love with my pal, psychiatrist and relationship expert Dr. Ish Major.  We met at the Real Love Ready Relationship Summit in Vancouver only to realize we were both heading to LA after to the set of Nick Cannon's Counsel Culture.  We talk about how Dr. Ish's interest in psychology came to be and how his childhood experiences impacted him, and then the conversation turns to codependency in relationships.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/ Dr. ish says he was a "card carrying captain of team codependence" for the first 40 years of his life, which I think a lot of us can relate to! He shares the lessons he learned and he offers so much wisdom in really simple, accessible terms. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/659

Are there people in your life who are conflict connoisseurs? People who really love stirring the pot, who are addicted to drama? In response to you being upset, these types of people might rile you up or suggest you should be angrier rather than talking you off a ledge. I know many of you are not into stirring the pot but find yourselves with high conflict lovers in your life, which can be stressful. That’s why I’m talking about high conflict versus healthy conflict, how to identify high-conflict people and protect yourself from them, and steps for more constructive ways to manage conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/658

I am thrilled to have Dr. Mindy Pelz back on the show in celebration of her new book, _Eat Like A Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat._ Who doesn't want that?! Dr. Mindy and I talk about everything from why we struggle to lose weight with age, our philosophies on aging, how to eat for the stage of life you're in, and how to produce GLP-1 hormones naturally within your own body.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes about today's episode at terricole.com/657

Are there couples who make you think, what do they know about love that I don’t? How do they do it? Or do you see couples on TV and wonder, how can I get that kind of love? Where can I even find it? If so, this episode is for you because I am sharing reflections from 25 years of marriage (I can’t believe it!) to my one and only, Vic, about how we’ve kept it good, and how to apply these lessons to your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/656

I am so excited to welcome my pal Tamsen Fadal back to the show to talk about her new documentary, The M Factor: Shredding the Silence On Menopause. It's available to stream right now on PBS!  Tamsen is an award-winning news anchor and menopause advocate, and she combined her skills and passion to create this amazing documentary.  During our conversation, Tamsen and I talk about our experiences with perimenopause and menopause, the lesser-known symptoms many women have, how the documentary came about, the hope Tamsen has for how it will impact the healthcare we receive as women, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/655

How do you react to seeing a friend, sibling, or partner having a rough time?  Not how do you respond, but how do you react? Do you immediately jump to share ideas or thoughts to try to fix their problem?  Or do you inadvertently invalidate their feelings by saying, “Hey, it’s not so bad. It’ll be better tomorrow”?  If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking about the transformative power of learning to sit with emotional discomfort, why you may feel compelled to avoid it by taking action, and what you can do instead. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/654