The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to welcome my pal, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, on the show to talk about her new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive. This conversation is all about love: how we can keep our love strong, what to do if it's not going so well, daily practices you can start doing today, and so much more. Dr. Alexandra Solomon and I discuss relational self-awareness, family of origin issues, and the difficulties of dating in a modern world. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/547

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode/blog contains a story about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. Many years ago, my husband and I were held up at gunpoint.  I have mentioned it before, but I have never shared the full story because it was traumatic.  When one of you asked me to share this experience, how it impacted my life, and how I recovered from it, I thought it might be time to share.  By sharing my story of trauma and recovery, I hope to help others who have experienced a traumatic event. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/546

I am so excited to welcome my friend, Emily Fletcher, to the show to talk about Sacred sexuality, meditation, pleasure, and manifestation. Emily has been teaching meditation for the past 13+ years and recently started exploring how we can tap into our Sacred sexuality to manifest our dreams and desires. Don't worry- Emily breaks all of this down in a practical way and offers tips on how to get started during our conversation. Emily's perspective resonated so much, and for those of you who don't prioritize pleasure, I got you covered because I asked Emily about that, too. Enjoy! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/545

Is it difficult for you to say “no” to your parents, draw a boundary with a sibling, or set a limit with a cousin, aunt, or uncle? Do you struggle to share your preferences, limits, desires, or deal-breakers with some of the people in your family? If the answer is “yes,” this episode is for you. I am talking about the different kinds of disordered boundaries we often have in our families of origin and giving you ideas on how to get proactive so you can release yourself from these frustrating situations. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/544

Best-selling author Kris Carr is one of my nearest and dearest. We go way back to my talent agent days (I represented her).   Kris's newest book, I'm Not A Mourning Person:  Braving Loss, Grief, and the Big Messy Emotions That Happen When Life Falls Apart, is a beautiful read. I could not put it down, and I lived a lot of this book with Kris as it was happening.  If you are experiencing grief of any kind, whether due to the loss of a loved one, the loss of your former self, or the loss of a job, I think you'll enjoy this heartfelt conversation. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/543

When should you stop trying to make it work with a partner who is seemingly uninterested in self-improvement? What do you do when the love between you and your partner is no longer enough? How can you keep yourself from falling back into old roles within your family of origin when visiting home, especially if you’ve grown and changed? And when is it time to consider moving into independent living when you are a full-time caregiver for your spouse? I answer all of these questions in this Q&A episode, which is all about relationship dynamics. Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/542

Have you ever wondered, "Who am I, and why am I here?" If so, this interview is for you, my friend. I am beyond excited to have Dr. Sara Kuburic, better known as The Millennial Therapist on Instagram, on the show to talk about her new book, It's On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life. Sarah is an existential therapist and has had a lifelong interest in psychology. This book was inspired by a loss of self she experienced in her twenties, which she also saw in her therapy clients. If you've felt meaningless or purposeless, like you don't know yourself, then I invite you to tune in as Sara offers many tips on how to discover your sense of self. I've loved her work for a while and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/541

Do you assume everyone has the same values and moral compass as you? Do you assume everyone has good intentions? Or do you assume other people are untrustworthy, even though you have no way of knowing? Whether you are too trusting or more distrustful, this episode is for you. I am giving you questions to gain a deeper understanding of your downloaded trust blueprint, as well as tips to become more discerning about whom to trust. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/540

I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned Peloton instructor, Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts, to the show. We chat about Chelsea's yoga journey, what inspires her, the tragedy she endured in college, the rewards and challenges of motherhood, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/539

Have you ever wondered what makes people vulnerable to trauma bonding? Or how to tell if you are in a trauma-bonded relationship versus one based on mutuality or true love? From the questions I've received, I know many of you want a deeper understanding of trauma-bonded relationships: What are the signs and symptoms, and what does it mean? Listen for everything you need to know to protect yourself and your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/538

Our guest today excels in so many fields: He’s a former pro athlete, podcast host, published author, and father of nine kids. He’s also a respected personal development guide who helps people elevate their experiences and improve the ways that they show up for others.  Today, we’re taking a deep dive into motivation– Both healthy and unhealthy. Kevin shares lessons from his own life, past and present, and we also touch on being mindfully driven rather than recklessly impulsive. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/537

A few weeks ago, Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend, Sarah Brady, shared a bunch of text messages he sent her when they were dating. Among them was the above list of “boundaries.” As you can imagine, this stirred up a lot of discussion online.  I fell into a Reddit hole about it and was stunned by the amount of misinformation out there about boundaries. People are truly unaware of the differences between coercion, abuse, effective boundaries, and control, which is what this episode is about.  I also talk about the signs of coercive control to watch for and why the Jonah Hill situation is more manipulative than it may seem. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/536

I am excited to share this conversation I had with fascia expert and Pilates Pro, Lauren Roxburgh. My sister and I were turned onto Lauren's work at the beginning of the pandemic, and I intuitively knew fascia health was the missing link in my wellness. I love stalking Lauren's Instagram page to see what new practices I can integrate into my routine.  This conversation was fascinating as Lauren shares the newest fascia research with us and explains how it has the potential to impact every aspect of our lives. (and bodies!) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/535

Have you ever wondered when it is appropriate to cut your parents out of your life? Do you feel like you missed out on life because you spent more time focusing on others than yourself? Have you experienced multiple losses and feel overwhelmed with grief? Or have you experienced unacknowledged sibling abuse?  In this Q&A episode, I answer four questions from the community on these topics. Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/534

I am so happy to have my pal and design expert, Sabrina Soto, back on the show. This conversation is more like a girlfriend jam as Sabrina and I talk about the effect of decluttering on your mental health, past relationship experiences, codependency, boundaries, manifesting, getting out of your comfort zone, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/533

Do you walk on eggshells around certain people in your life?  Do you avoid telling your partner or best friend the truth out of fear they’ll disagree or be unhappy with you?  Would you like your relationships to feel safer?  Then this episode on emotional safety is for you. I go over the signs of an unsafe relationship and give you the steps to create more safety in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/532

I am so excited to share this conversation with my pal and breathwork expert, Samantha Skelly.  Sam led a 30-minute breathwork session at a peer mastermind we attended earlier this year, and let me tell you, it was profound. She has 14 years of experience in this space and her energy is so amazing.  I invited her on the show to share her journey and explain how breathwork can help us heal trauma and return to our bodies. I hope you enjoy her wisdom as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/529 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how your relationship with your maternal impactor has impacted you? Do you feel like your relationship with your mother/mother figure is ‘off’? Or do you find yourself longing for a different relationship with her altogether?  Then this episode is for you. I cover the seven archetypes of mothering and give you deep-dive questions to determine which archetype you experienced and whether you have a mother wound. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/528 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so grateful to Dr. Anne Peled for coming on the show to share her story and expertise on breast cancer. She explains how to do a self-exam at home, tells us the warning signs to be aware of, shares what we can do to reduce our risk of breast cancer, and so much more. Dr. Peled is a breast cancer survivor AND is pioneering an entirely new way of treating breast cancer with a combined mastectomy and reconstruction technique that preserves the nipple, skin, and sensation.  I hope you learn something from what Dr. Peled shares in this conversation. I know I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/527 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When something bad happens to your partner, does it feel like it’s happening to you, too? Are you compelled to fix what you see as the ‘problems’ in their life?  Do you find areas in which they can improve to help them become ‘better’?  Do you feel like it is your job to prevent them from getting into bad situations?  If you are nodding your head, you might be in a codependent relationship.  In this episode, I break down what codependency is and give you powerful questions you can answer to gain clarity about your codependent behaviors (which is the first step to healing). Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/526 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices