The Terri Cole Show

It was a joy to have Kassandra Reinhardt on the show to discuss being an online creator, finding "balance" within that, being exactly where we are supposed to be, inner elder work, the struggle with people-pleasing, aging, and so much more.  Yoga With Kassandra is one of my fave yoga channels. Her 10-minute morning routines are perfect if you're busy and don't have time for a longer practice. Give her channel a look! Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/505 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am sharing my mental wellness journey publicly for the first time.  You’ll discover why I began therapy at age 19, why I left my career as a talent agent, and how I discovered my dharma in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered why I am passionate about vibrant mental health or why I put out tons of free content, you will find your answer in this episode.  And if my mission aligns with your values, near the end, you’ll find an invitation to help me create a movement to make mental health information more readily accessible to others. ♥️ Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/504 Sign up for the membership I mentioned in today's episode at the special founders' price of $11/month here: terricole.com/member Plus, I'm offering a free live training starting May 16! Get more info at terricole.com/training Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another.  Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like, the types of dysfunction Nedra sees most often, what you can do about family dysfunction, codependency in family, and the pressures we face when we are the first to break a dysfunctional cycle within a family.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/503 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever left a doctor’s appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood?  Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals?  Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare?  If you’ve had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for you. By the end, you will know the best way to prepare for a doctor’s appointment and when it might be a good time to ditch your doc.  I am passionate about medical boundaries because of my experience with a cancer diagnosis many years ago. It is at the forefront of my mind again because many of you are writing in about perimenopause and menopause and dealing with dismissive doctors. I wanted to give you some of my hard-earned wisdom because boundaries have everything to do with this.  (Disclaimer: I am not an MD, so this information is not medical advice. I am sharing my story with you from a patient experience. Alway

Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too.  I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/501 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them? Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires? Or does it feel like you can’t control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation?  If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends.  Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You’ll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/500 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph.D? Change careers? Write a book? Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/499 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child? Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school? If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps you can take to begin to heal. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/498 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your stuff own you? Does your house actually function well for you? Or do you ignore some cluttered rooms or spaces because they fill you with a sense of overwhelm? If any of this resonates, check out my conversation with @tracy_mccubbin on how to become more intentional with the things we own. Tracy has been in the decluttering biz for over 15 years and has amazing tips and insights for us.

Do you minimize your negative past experiences?  Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences? Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences? If you’re nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if it is happening with them, maybe you are experiencing this, too.  In this episode, I am talking about euphoric recall – what it is, why it’s dangerous, and how to protect yourself from falling back into old, toxic patterns or relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/496 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul.  I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more.  Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/495 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. Do you think something good can come from a traumatic experience?  Or do you feel like awful things simply happen to us, and nothing productive comes from them?  I explore these questions in today’s episode on post-traumatic growth. I talk about the potential for positive experiences after traumatic events, and I share what I have witnessed as a psychotherapist and in the aftermath of my own traumatic experiences. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/494 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with work/life harmony? Could you use a little more of it? Then today's interview with Tina Wells is for you. She is the author of The Elevation Approach: Harness the Power of Work-Life Harmony to Unlock Your Creativity, Cultivate Joy, and Reach Your Biggest Goals.  We chat about our experiences with burnout, workaholism, and the importance of filling up your own cup. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Tina as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/493 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do certain people, conversations, or situations provoke an amplified response from you?  Do you find yourself extremely upset by specific TV or movie content? Or do you get really bothered when people ask you about particular topics?  If you have noticed these somewhat “disproportionate” reactions in yourself, today’s episode on emotional triggers is for you.  I am breaking down the nature of emotional triggers, walking you through a process of decoding what these triggers might mean for you, and giving you action steps you can take to protect yourself. Synbiotic+ and Ritual are here to celebrate, not hide, your insides. There’s no more shame in your gut game. That’s why Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/TERRI to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/492 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is narcissistic abuse expert and clinical psychologist, Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, better known as Dr. Z on Instagram (@dr.z_psychologist).  We dive deep into narcissism and explore the differences between narcissistic tendencies and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, give you red flags to watch out for when dating so you can steer clear of narcissists, and share our insights on narcissism from many, many years with clients.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/491 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever marveled at how some people turn heads simply by entering a room? Or at how easily some people set boundaries and stand firm?  Or at how others freely speak their mind without the worry of judgment? These are all examples of real self-confidence, and in today’s episode, I am talking about what self-confidence is, where it comes from, what cuts it down, and five simple ways you can build more self-confidence.  Many people think we are either born with confidence or we aren’t. While we are born extroverted or introverted, no matter how you interact in the world, self-confidence is something you can build, and we can always build more of it.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/490 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal, Chela Davison, on the show to share her thoughts and observations on the "quiet quitting" movement. We dive deep into themes like living seasonally, pushing back against workaholism, figuring out our identity outside of work, and why working constantly simply isn't sustainable. We explore what it might be like to do "slow business," too.  Chela is an original thinker and I enjoyed her take on this so much. I hope you do, too. As we said during our conversation, share your thoughts with us below! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/489 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself ruminating on past decisions, actions, or conversations? How much time do you spend regretting these past experiences? If the answer is more time than I would like, then this episode is for you. I am covering why we hold onto regrets, the high cost of regret, and why we should let regrets go. Most importantly, you will learn how to let go of your regrets with a five-step reflection exercise. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/488 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Mara Glatzel, MSW, author of the brand new book, Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty. Needy is a powerful and tender guide to help us grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership, radical self-care, and self-advocacy.  I had so much fun doing a deep dive into self-care, self-abandonment, and self-advocacy with Mara. Everything she says is so on-point. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/487 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have “repeat boundary offenders” in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn’t do, even though it upsets you?  Are you tired of boundary violations, but don’t know how to get through to boundary bullies?  If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It’s time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood.  Of course, setting consequences doesn’t guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/486 This episode is sponsored by Third Love. Upgrade your bra today and get 20% off your first order today at thirdlove.com/TERRICOLE. That’s 20% off your first order today at thirdlove.com/TERRICOLE. Learn more about your ad choi