The Terri Cole Show

Does it feel like if you don’t fix problems or move things forward, no one will? Do you feel overly responsible, like everything will fall apart if you don’t do all the things? Do you just find yourself saying, “It's just faster/easier/more efficient if I do it myself”? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I am talking about the five traits of high-functioning codependency (HFC), the cycle of codependency I often see my clients go through, and how to shift from over-doing and over-giving into more balance and less exhaustion. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/646

I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler, to the show to talk about his new workbook, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love. Unresolved grief is so common, and I love the way David makes this topic so accessible. During this conversation, we talk about ALL kinds of grief, because it's not just about losing someone you love. It's also about endings and abrupt changes.  David is such a kind soul and no matter what loss you've experienced, I think you'll find comfort and hope in his message. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/645

Do you automatically accommodate others because it’s the “nice” thing to do? Do you consistently overthink how your actions will impact others? Are you always on the lookout for how you can help people or solve problems? If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between codependent, caring, or controlling behavior, this episode is for you.  I’m breaking down the distinction by discussing a little-known aspect of codependency, sharing real-life examples to clarify, and providing tips on how to shift from codependency to healthy giving. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/644

I am so thrilled to welcome Hospice Nurse Julie to the show to talk to us all about end-of-life care: what to expect, what actively dying looks like, why it's so important to normalize discussing death, and what inspired Julie to start posting on TikTok and write her book, Nothing to Fear: Demystifying Death to Live More Fully. If you're afraid of dying, or even thinking about death, this conversation might just be the one you need to hear. Julie's content went viral on TikTok just after 4 days which speaks to the need for education around death and dying. And getting educated often reduces our fear around it, so I hope you enjoy this conversation with Julie as much as I did. CW: a large portion of this conversation focuses on death and dying, and Julie talks about what actively dying looks like at the 22 minute mark. If you're sensitive to this, please consider skipping that section or this conversation. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/643

Do you find it hard to open up to people, especially when you’re struggling? Is it hard for you to ask for or allow help? Have you ever had a crisis where you kept what was happening to yourself because you didn’t want to worry anyone?  If you’re nodding yes, today’s video is for you because I’m sharing the high-functioning codependent (HFC) behaviors I noticed in myself as I navigated a recent health scare.  I’m also talking about the hidden cost of not asking for help.  By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to care for your health and let other people show up for you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/642

I am so excited to have my pal and one half of The Astrotwins, Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about her and Tali's new book, The Astrology Advantage: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success.  It’s a new way of looking at your birth chart to figure out which archetype you are: Innovator, Authority, or Maven. Ophira dives into what each type does best (we're both Innovators!) and how she and Tali created it.  We also talk about how Ophira got into astrology, how she got me into it, and how it can be a useful tool in your life. I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/641

Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin? Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them? Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing? Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/640

I am so excited to welcome my new pal, author Najwa Zebian, to the show to talk about her newest book, The Only Constant: A Guide to Embracing Change and Leading an Authentic Life. We cover so much, from feeling like an outsider to setting boundaries with friends (and social media followers), to navigating change that we didn't choose and how to come into acceptance, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/639

Did you grow up with emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers? Do you identify with having a father or mother wound? Do you feel unlovable or undeserving of love?  When our emotional needs go unmet in childhood, it often leaves a lasting impression on how worthy we think we are. Reparenting can help.  In this episode, I’m sharing examples of reparenting, why and how it can help us heal childhood wounds and practical strategies you can use to begin reparenting yourself today. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/638

I am so excited to welcome my wise pal, Vanessa Cornell, to the show to share her story of breaking down to break through. Vanessa had everything she could have ever dreamed of - a loving husband, five children, abundance and success - and yet, she felt trapped in a crushing and debilitating loneliness. (I'm sure many of you can relate!) We also talked about how to navigate mom guilt (and why it's really fear in disguise), how high-functioning codependency shows up in motherhood, how we're taught to be in the world and why it causes rage and resentment later on, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy this heartfelt girlfriend jam as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/637 P.S. - Grab Vanessa's free gift at nushu.com/terri  

Do you endlessly think about the mistakes you’ve made? Do you replay the scene and ruminate over what you could have or should have done differently? Are you filled with regret, worried you’ll make the same mistake again? If so, you’re not alone.  But living in regret is living in the past, which isn’t empowering. What is healing and empowering is to work through our regrets and learn from them to make better decisions in the future. In this episode, I’m sharing a different perspective on regret which may lessen feelings of shame, the four types of regret (from behavioral scientist Daniel Pink), and how to move on from endless rumination. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/636

I am super excited to welcome my new pal, Jessica Zweig, to the show to talk about her newest book, THE LIGHT WORK: Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth, Illuminate the World. While Jessica is most known for her work as a brand expert and entrepreneur, she is here to talk about her journey into the dark to find the light.  We had such a beautiful, soulful, and nourishing conversation around Jessica's burn out, coming back to ourselves, navigating the shame we often feel around "failure," redefining success, AND how embracing the feminine helps us succeed.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/635

Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are? Do you feel like you’ve grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates? Or do you wish you had black-and-white signs telling you to stay or go? If you feel torn over whether it’s time to end your relationship, this episode is for you.  I’m giving you questions to determine if it’s time to leave as well as ways to break through confusion to get to the truth of how you feel and what comes next. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/634

I am so excited to have my new pal, Michelle Demaree, on the show to talk about how she changed her life after getting divorced.  Her story is one of self-actualization, self-love, and perseverance. It illustrates the power of investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with women who will cheer you on and lift you up when times are tough.  Michelle is also the founder and CEO of Miss Diamond Ring, where she offers bespoke concierge service for those looking for the perfect, meaningful ring to honor their love story. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/633

Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why? Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers? Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people? All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past.  Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/632

I am so thrilled to have family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman on the show. I had the pleasure of meeting him on the set of a TV show we were invited to do and on my way there, I listened to his book, Rules of Estrangement, and I think you'll love it. I invited Dr. Coleman on to talk further about it because cutting contact with parents is something many of you have painfully decided to do, and Dr. Coleman shares his wisdom *and* personal experience with us here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/631

Have you experienced a major relational trauma that made you less trusting?  Are you reluctant to trust people because you are unsure you can trust yourself to avoid making similar mistakes again? Or do you find it easier to be alone? Many of you have told me you can’t trust anyone anymore, which is why this episode covers a six-step strategic process for learning to trust others and yourself again. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/630

I am so happy to welcome my pal, life coach and media expert Susie Moore, to the show to tell us about the power of sharing our stories.  This isn't just for entrepreneurs or business owners. This is for anyone looking to make a difference in the lives of others.  Susie shares specific tips to help you pitch your stories to media outlets successfully, so you can reach more folks.  And if you want to learn more, sign up for our free workshop on July 24 at 12 pm Eastern: getrockstarpr.com/terri Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/629

Are you someone who proudly proclaims they never get angry? Does anger feel unsafe and uncomfortable for you? Or do you tend to bottle up your anger until you explode, leaving you feeling guilty and wanting to take everything back? If you’re raising your hand, you’re not alone. I struggled with my own anger for many years.  But denying our anger intentionally or not doesn’t make it magically disappear, which is why I am covering 10 signs you might be suppressing or repressing your anger, six common ways anger presents, and tips on how to acknowledge, honor, process, and integrate your anger. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/628

I am so excited to finally welcome Jeff Guenther (better known as TherapyJeff on social) to the show to talk about his new book, Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self. We talk about dating in the modern world, how it's shifting, what trends Jeff is seeing in his practice, our best tips for lasting relationships, and also what it's like to try and date when you’re a bit of an internet celebrity! There was a lot of laughter in this conversation and I hope you enjoy Jeff's humor (and wisdom) as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/627