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You’re being a control freak and may not even realize it. When my longtime Manifestation Guide said to this to me, I was SHOOK….“You don’t think you’re God do you?” Me: “ummmmm no of course not.” Tony: “Your behavior says otherwise.” (all said is a calm beautiful Lebanese accent)  This conversation occurred after I came to him in a dramatic crisis probably for the 13th time that nothing was working in my business, and I’ll have to go back to Corporate Life if clients don’t come in soon.  You see, I was placing demands on the Universe. Instead of praying I was telling God what I needed to have happen and when. Then when it didn’t happen in my way or in my exact time frame, I would get pissed. “WHAT MORE DO I HAVE TO DO HERE GOD?! THROW ME A BONE!!” It’s normal to slip into controlling behavior when we are scared. We want the discomfort to stop and to stop NOW. The issue is when we’re in that demanding, controlling energy; we are crazy and not thinking clearly.  This energy comes across as desperate, needy, and

Looking for the fast and easy way will leave you frustrated and broke.  When I started my first business 14 years ago, of course my ego wanted the get the clients fast, the money fast, the success fast…all this did was cause me a crap ton of anxiety, pressure, and frustration…which ultimately delayed my success by YEARS!!! When we don’t keep our egos in check and allow them to be in the drivers seat, we end up making desperate decisions, then become completely unhinged and unfocused. This insanity overwhelm loop is the ultimate abundance blocker.  I had no idea I was even doing it, until I got to a point of wanting to quit and hiring my first business coach, who asked me, “Why are you in such a hurry, is someone chasing you?” It stopped me in my tracks…..why was I in such a hurry to grow my business? Yes I needed cash….but my daily operating level was as though someone was chasing me with a knife telling me that I was going to lose my house tomorrow. If you try to grow your business from this frenzied state i

Starting fresh is impossible if your old behaviors don’t change. There are so many platitudes this time of year that give me a rash. I used to buy into them, until I finally realized they are denial doctored up in catchy phrases. “New Year New You” “This will be MY YEAR to ______” “New beginnings require a fresh start.” We are never starting over or starting fresh. We are simply moving forward in a divinely planned progression of lessons. Once those lessons are mastered, new people, places, and experiences will come into our lives to work on our next set of lessons. Some will be terribly painful, some will be glorious, and all of them will test our patience and humility. You don’t have to wait for a new year, a new month, a new day, or a new minute to decide to go for it. YOU have the power at any moment to decide what you really want, go after it, and give a GIANT ZFG (Zero Fu*ks Given) to all of the noise out there! If you are already feeling the pressure and overwhelm building for all of the goals you want

It sounds crazy but this is a true story… In order to have the kind of wealth and lifestyle that I enjoy today, I had to lose 2.5 million dollars.  I got scammed out of most of my life savings when I was 30.  I had an employee steal from me for a full year before I realized it, and never could recover a penny. I hired a couple of bogus con high-ticket coaches who were a waste. I wasted countless hours and years of my time that I can never get back, by being stubborn, cheap, and fearful >>> trying to figure things out on my own, and doing the “things” just because I could.  I said “yes” to dozens of people, when I should have said “no,” spread my self so thin that I spent a two years recovering from a health crisis.  Money is one of our most powerful teachers, if we are open to it.  Here’s what my 2.5 million (and probably more) in loses taught me: > Money is a limitless resource; we can always make more, no matter how much we have lost.  > Time on the other hand is something we can never replenish. Time is ou

To have great success you must let go of the old you. This is one of a few things I wish someone taught me earlier in life. The person who got you to this point in your life today, can not and will not be the same person to take you to the next level in your story.  If you stay clinging onto to your old stuff with little to no willingness to let everything you know go…the climb to the top is going to be damn rough…in fact, pretty damn impossible. The Tiffany who went from 17K a year to 100K a year is a very different Tiffany then the one who went from 100K/year to 350K/year. The Tiffany who went from there to multi-millionaire is almost unrecognizable, in a beautiful way (well not everyone likes her but ZFG). You hear me say often that “like attracts like,” what you believe you are you attract more of into your life. If you want more or something different, you need to become an energetic match for that life, for that freedom, for the cash, for that passion, for that peace… Here’s an example: Let’s say you ha

My Annual New Year’s Eve Manifestation Ritual: People have intense feelings around New Year’s. Some people are obsessed with this celebration of time, and others find it to be filled with pressure and even triggering.  I chose to look at it as an excuse to realign my energy for the abundance I want to be attracting into my life today.  No need to look at it like you are setting your 2022 goals, or your intentions…look at it as a fun way to get into the “Abundance Zone” just for today, for this minute, for this hour even….every second you spend in this highly magnetizing attraction energy the better.  Select the area of your life that you want to have the most substantial growth in right now…..the first thing that pops into your mind.  I want you to pick an area where you can visually display your desires freely…. You can create a private spot in a desk drawer (if that makes you feel more free), use a shoebox, or have it out and proud in your bedroom, kitchen or office.  Starting today and over the course of t

The greatest act of neglect is to settle for less. Many of us where taught in childhood to “suck it up,” and to “just be happy you have a roof over your head.” This creates a sense of shame for wanting anything more than the bare basics, because after all there are starving children in Africa (who heard that one growing up?). My childhood on the outside looked pretty damn privileged, and in many ways it was. I had the private piano lessons, dances classes, a nanny, and got a brand new car when I was 16… BUT there was a catch. As long as the things I wanted were what my mom approved of and made us look good, I could do them…anything else was OFF THE TABLE. Like don’t you dare even ask, off the table. This taught me to stuff my deep desires, banish them from my mind, as they would never be allowed to even be attempted. So as an adult, I made sure to follow the society-approved program of climbing the corporate ladder, playing the office politics, and never going outside of the damn box. If you know me or have b

If writers block is preventing you from posting…keep reading. You are never at a loss for words when you speak to your bestie are you? If fact, you could probably talk to her or him non-stop for hours.  I want you to start seeing your ideal client as a best friend of yours, but in order to truly embody that feeling, you have to build a deep relationship with them first.  The reason why I am NEVER at a loss for what to share, say, write, or create for you guys is because I make it my priority and privilege on the daily to get to know you as well as I know by BFF.  When you know what makes a person launch, cry, roll their eyes, scared, frustrated, angry, happy, calm, check out, etc…. you will always know how they will react to certain situations, world events, stories, movies, products, programs, and therefor always be able to connect with them at a deep level. DEEP CONNECTION = DEEP COMMUNICATION If you are constantly finding yourself stumped over what content to post, ask yourself these simple questions that

Right after I became a Millionaire, I lost almost EVERYTHING I had saved in 3 months. I had a goal that I wanted to have a million dollars in the bank by the time I was 30 years old. Now, I didn’t quite know how I was going to achieve it, given I was working my corporate career at the time…but I was determined to make it happen. When the “Old Tiffany” (as I refer to her), said that, it meant I would work my self to the bone if that’s what it took to achieve a goal. Based on what I was taught in childhood, I 100% believed the only way to make big money was to sacrifice almost everything and outwork everyone around me, so I did! And it worked. Before hitting 30 years old, I saw a solid 7-fiugres in my combined bank and investment accounts (almost to the dollar….$1,000,004.27 to be exact).  To this day, I remember exactly where I was when I realized I had done it….standing at my kitchen bar top in my luxury Los Angeles Townhome all by my self. There was a moment of pride, of feeling empowered, and it quickly shi

Doing things without any intention is like taking a road drip with zero destinations.  It’s so funny how we show up differently for other people’s goals than our own. If your kid or a friend’s kid said they really wanted to make the basketball team, guaranteed you would kick into ‘plan of action’ mode and map out the next necessary steps to make that a reality for them. If you didn’t know boo about sports, you would ask people, go to Google town, post about it on social, talk to the basketball coach at school, anything and everything necessary to help make this kid’s dream a reality, right?? But when it comes to your dreams and goals, the story shifts, the determination quickly disappears, and the actions are half-ass at best.  WHY?? It boils down to belief. YOU BELIEVE WITH 100% CERTAINTY that this kid has a shot of making the basketball team, whether he is (or she is) super coordinated or a complete klutz.  Even if you kinda know the chances are slim, you BELIEVE WITH 100% CERTAINTY that this kid deserves a

Posting and feeling like no one is watching or reading, gets old real quick. Then inevitability you end up in a scroll hole, seeing dozens of other people in your same niche going viral on repeat, leaving you second-guessing yourself and feeling more defeated than ever. I’ve been in that spot too, but there is nothing productive that comes out of focusing on what we don’t have, and what everyone else seems to have.  When my views or engagement is down (which it was crazy low two weeks ago), I always go my to my foundational marketing strategy that I’ve used with hundreds of clients from multi-billion dollar mega brand to solopreneurs >>> it all starts with one question: WHAT CAN WE DO TO STAND OUT, BE DIFFERENT, AND DISRUPT THE INDUSTRY? Typically when a business is flat, whether that be in sales, content, sign ups, or email open rates, it’s because they haven’t shaken anything up in awhile. It’s been the same stuff, saying the same thing, in the same way, for quite some time.  If you want people to notice yo

You only see what people want you to see. Quite frankly all of us do it…we could of had a major fight with our partner, and run into someone at the grocery story…they ask us how we are doing and we say, “oh I’m doing great thank you.”  Meanwhile the truth is that your entire life feels like it’s crumbling. It’s no different on social media, it’s just easier for people to lie or highlight only the pretty parts of their world.  The basic boss babe who makes it look like all she does is travel in 5 start first class luxury, while her “team” does all the unsexy work, and all she has to do is the fun and glamorous stuff.  Or Sarah the Spiritual Guide who micro doses, injects frog serum, and magically “calls in” all the money into her life effortlessly. Her posts make it all look so simple and mesmerizing, leaving you wanting to know Sarah’s secret ways.   The reason why this one-sided portrayal of growing a business irritates me to no fucking end is because it makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong since

Stop using overwhelm as a permission slip to do nothing.  I know this sounds harsh, but in order to wake you up from subconscious limiting patterns that are getting in the way of you having the life and cash you crave, hard things must be said.  It all seems like too much, you don’t know even where to begin, you feel your brain has 1000 tabs opens on a run down operating system….I’m not trying to say you don’t feel this way, what I’m trying to tell you is this way of looking at things IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU. As someone diagnosed with PTSD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and depressive episodes…I am familiar with feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed….but I have trained my self to not feed into it, to lean away from it instead of towards it.  When something you’re trying to figure out feels like it a HUGE steep mountain, of course your first thought will be, “holy crap, how is in the hell am I going to do to that without dying?” Instead of focusing on the entire mountain, I want you to focus on the first q

Stop putting all of your eggs in one basket with your marketing strategy. You wouldn’t invest all of your savings into one stock, so why would you pour all of your time and energy into social media platforms that you have ZERO control over? I know….you have limited time and energy, so the thought of focusing on another lead generator for your business is enough to make you say “SCREW IT ALL!” In running two million dollar businesses, plus my passion for luxuriating, I don’t do anything that doesn’t bring me joy or move my bank account in the right direction. More is not a profitable business plan.  But I need you to make smart and strategic moves, so you aren’t entirely dependent on social media for your sales. Even if you’re currently operating as a solopreneur, you can do these two things….in fact, you need to so you don’t F yourself: Pick one social media channel that you spend the most time on, go ALL IN on mastering that platform, and forget the rest. Toe-dipping on multiple social channels won’t make y

 If you don’t you this, you will never make it to you goal! As someone who was raised in a very controlling and abusive environment, I was taught from an infant to rely on other people to determine my worth, my value, and my capabilities. As I messily navigated my teen and adult life, I would turn my self inside out at my internships and jobs in order to get the accolades, the awards, and the promotions…..when I got them I was on MAJOR HIGH, and when I didn’t I was left with suicidal thoughts. This is one of the many dangers of depending on people, places, awards, achievements, and things outside of ourselves to determine if we are deserving of what we desire, and if we are “good enough” to make it. The problem is when we constantly seek and depend on outside validation; we are putting our happiness, livelihood, and wellbeing in the control of others. I had ZERO CLUE that I was living this way, I didn’t know any better. I was trained by many abusers to operate this way, so they could have total control over m

My guess is you wouldn’t dread creating content if it was making you 50-120K a month would you? In fact, if you knew the key to getting a crap ton of clients excited to buy your high-ticket offers was learning how to create highly profitable content….you would hand over your credit card, sign up, and show up with bells on.  No it isn’t as simple as writing a post a day, and droves of people magically appear in your DMs, but it is an imperative skill if you want to generate consistent clients and cash online.  There is no way around the Content Monster. This always hungry, never satisfied beast is real and not going anywhere. If you want to make BIG money online, you need to learn how to satisfy the Content Monster without burning yourself out in the meantime.  A few key myths that are keeping you on the content struggle bus: More content doesn’t equal more sales. Stop trying to be on all of the platforms hoping something will stick; this is not a profitable content strategy. Pumping out Instagram Reels and T

We are being attacked by thongs, side boobs, and now “vag cleavage.” It breaks my heart when I see women acting thirsty on social media, falling for the good ole’ “sex sells.” Without a doubt, if I showed more skin on Instagram, and had more sultry seductive photos, I would have at least 30% more followers and views…but what at what cost? These types of followers and engagement don’t get you more money; these aren’t the people who are going buy your high-ticket programs or invite you to be on their popular podcasts.  What you get by doing this thirst-trap crap is a boost to your ego, a little algorithm bump, plus a little voice in your head saying, “they are only here for the sexy pics.”  The old Tiffany would have absolutely done this…thank God there wasn’t Instagram when I was at my worst, operating out of zero self-worth. Even if you are in the wellness or fitness space, where you do need to show your body to some extent…you don’t need to sexualize it to create a successful stand out brand.  For most women

You’ve already told yourself this one haven’t you??? None of us do New Year’s resolutions anymore, which was so 2007. Instead we set intentions, which is really the same thing in disguise.  This is the time of year that I refer to as the “November Crazies.” It’s when the overwhelm and reality sets in that you haven’t achieved all that you had hoped to this year, combined with it being holiday-time, and all you really want to do is bury your head into Hallmark Christmas movies, wine, blankets, and unnecessary online shopping.  Many of you will come up with an excuse to justify phoning in the rest of 2021 by saying things like, “I’ll really go after it big in 2022!” or “I’ll use this time to recover from the year, and start fresh in January.”  You will get a sense of temporary relief from doing this, as that is the payoff of procrastination…but the catch is you will low-key feel guilt and shame because you are doing nothing.  I know this merry-go-round of insanity all too well. This is what I said for nine Nove

 It felt like gut punch and humiliation rolled into one! “Your audience size doesn’t meet our requirements, so we will have to politely decline your request to have her on your show.” I’ve received a version of this response at least 8 times since starting my podcast. At first, I was pissed and offended. Like you are telling me that my show and social media audience isn’t worth your time for you to get free publicity for your business on my fantastic show?!!! Then it quickly turned into shame. “Who am I doing being this?” “Oh my God they must think I’m such a loser.” “Here I thought my show is good, but it must be a piece of sh*t.” What’s even wilder is I supported and even promoted some of these people…which felt extra crappy and rejecting. The reality is there is no escaping rejection and disappointment when you are building your dream business. Some people will let you down. Some people will use you. Some people will con you. Some people will say no. However, you will also have people who over-deliver, who

At least 10% of your email list should convert into cash. “But Tiffany I only have 50 people on my email list!” That’s great!!!! So, at least 5 of those people will be buying from you using my proven strategy. It’s amazing how much time, energy, and effort most people put into growing their social media audiences, ONE FLIPPIN’ PERSON AT A TIME, when only 3% of your total social audience will convert to buying from you, versus the 10% conversion rate of your email list.  If you didn’t realize that, now you know. You’re welcome.  Before you start building a story that I make all of this money because I have some GIANT email list, not facts. In fact, I didn’t start building my email list until the end of 2019 (NOT RECOMMENDED). So my list for someone at my level is small, but it’s filled with ideal clients, and most importantly it converts into BIG CASH. The average email open rate for 2020 was 18%. Guaranteed your social media posts aren’t getting an 18% engagement rate! Email converts 40% higher than Facebook