The Terri Cole Show

Do you know what your boundary style is? Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships? Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically.  Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries.  You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/606

I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/605  

Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict? Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue? Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship? Are you the defensive one? Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer.  We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/604

I am so thrilled my pals Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath are here to talk about how they healed their codependent patterns and created liberated love in their relationship.  This conversation is in celebration of their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependnt Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. ❤️ If you identify with any of what we discussed, definitely get it!  Grab Liberated Love here: https://liberated-love.com Gentle warning: there is a mention of SA around 17:50 - 18:43. Please skip this section if this is a tender topic for you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/603

Have you ever hesitated to end a relationship because of the intricate ways your lives were intertwined? Or have you ended a relationship and struggled to move on because of a profound sense of loss? Then you are in the right place. I am breaking down the secondary losses we experience after a breakup: what they are, their impact, and how honoring our secondary losses helps us pick up the pieces. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/602

I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life.  Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more.  I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me. **Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ ** Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/601

Does co-parenting feel difficult because you and your ex are never on the same page? Is your ex combative, dismissive, or a narcissist? Are you worried about what they’re saying to your kids when you’re not there? If you want what is best for your kids and find co-parenting activating, this episode is for you. I am covering the common blocks to cooperative co-parenting, protecting your child from an emotionally unhealthy ex, and the boundaries needed for healthy co-parenting. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/600

Today I’m sharing an unbelievable interview with Sebastian Bates, who is a best-selling author, podcast host, retired professional fighter, father, and founder of The Warrior Academy.  Sebastian's story is amazingly inspiring. At 24, he experienced a horrendous BASE jump accident and was told he would never walk again.  He refused to accept that and through a combination of willpower and discipline, he recovered.  He shares his story with us and we dive into the details: his mindset, determination, his background as a fighter and teacher, his passion for helping others, and the impact he is having and wants to have through his philanthropic work at The Bates Foundation.  I hope this interview makes you feel as inspired and motivated as it made me! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/599

As a child, were you responsible for cleaning the house? Cooking for your siblings? Taking care of an adult because they were unable to care for themselves? Did the adults in your life expect emotional support from you? Did you mediate between family members? If so, you may have Parentified Child Syndrome.  In this episode, I am breaking down the two types of child parentification, why it happens, symptoms you may have experienced, and steps to take to begin healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/598

I’m sharing another interview this week where I’m on the other side of the microphone– This time, with host of Passion Struck, John Miles. We chat about the journey of self-discovery that led me to leave my job, pursue grad school, and start a new career in the mental health field. Plus, how I learned how to prioritize my own needs and desires and set healthy boundaries as I did it! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/597

How fluent are you in your own emotions? Are you able to identify and feel your feelings, or is it a struggle? Do you tend to focus more on what other people are feeling?  If so, you are not alone.  This episode is all about becoming more emotionally resilient. We will explore why emotional resilience matters, the four common blocks we tend to experience around it, and ideas for putting the focus back on you. Read the show notes for today's show at terricole.com/596 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

Today I’m so excited to share this older interview I did on The Good Life Project podcast with Jonathan Fields. I hope you’ll learn something new from this episode, whether or not you already know my story.  We chat about my early experience with alcoholism, how I left my career as an agent to fulfill my purpose as a therapist, and how we both balance being ourselves with being the face of our brands. Then, I share some advice about becoming and staying connected in long-term partnerships! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/595

Does your family disrespect your boundaries, making it challenging to set and maintain them? Does your family of origin still treat you like a child? Or do they simply get mad when you try to set limits or assert your preferences and desires? If you are nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend, because I am diving into why many of us struggle to set boundaries with family and what you can do about it. I also give you a few scripts for when your family of origin offers you unsolicited advice.

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you feel like you get taken for granted in your relationships? I am so excited to share this interview I did on Danny Morel's show, The Higher Self. Danny asked such amazing questions and we had a candid conversation about boundaries: the good, the bad, what people get wrong, how you can improve at setting boundaries, and so much more. I also share boundary scripts you can use.  Very thankful to Danny and his team for allowing us to share this with all of you. Make sure to check Danny's show out here: https://youtube.com/@DannyMorelshow Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/593

How often do you check social media throughout the day? Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away? Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing?  Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices? If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you. I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social.  Let’s dive in.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/592 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life.  Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person! I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/591

When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others. But what about boundaries with ourselves? How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/590 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships.  She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships.  We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/589

Does your job exhaust you?  Do you feel like you need to respond to your colleagues as soon as you receive a message from them, even after you’ve ended your workday? Do you say ‘yes’ to tasks you don’t have the capacity for? Many of you have told me you struggle with work boundaries. In this episode, I am sharing tips and tools you can use to make your job work for you with more ease and less frustration. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/588 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal. I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/587