The Terri Cole Show

Do you give ‘till it hurts in your relationships? Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings, problems, and situations?  I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get asking me: “How can I tell if I’m codependent?” and “What’s the difference between being caring and codependency?” Raising your awareness of these 8 codependency warning signs can help you start to focus on your own side of the street.  In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the most common symptoms and red flags that could point to codependency.  Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/347 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited for you to tune into this juicy chat I had with my girlfriend Africa Brooke. She’s a globally recognized coach, consultant, thinker, and writer who specializes in helping people overcome self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. I met her through a virtual event on empowerment. She was the speaker right after me, and I was blown away by what she shared and what she talked about. I think you guys are going to love her work too. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/346 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have trouble asking for help? Do you find yourself saying, “It’s just so much easier if I do it myself?” Trust me, you are not alone. In today’s episode, I’ll be sharing how I learned to do less, produce more and ask for help, and I’ll teach you how to do the same. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/345 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing my super smart friend Jayson Gaddis who just released a brand new book called Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships. If you are a conflict avoider, you sometimes passive-aggressively communicate your displeasure rather than having a conversation about it, or you just don’t know how to repair your relationship after there has been a blowup or rupture, this episode is for you. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/344 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you handle ruptures and communication breakdowns in your relationship? Do you avoid talking directly about the blow-ups and conflicts that you have? Do you ever pretend that they haven’t happened or act extra nice to avoid talking about them? I am going to help you understand what is and isn’t normal when you fight in a healthy relationship and give you a couple of in-the-moment strategies to prevent small ruptures from becoming huge problems. Read more about this episode at terricole.com/343 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a really exciting interview for you today with my friend Rachel DeAlto, who has a brand new book out called Relatable: How to Connect With Anyone, Anywhere, Even if it Scares You. We talk about social anxiety, how the lockdown has impacted our ability to be confidently social, and what to do with the existential loneliness the last two years has created for many of us.   Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/342 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today’s episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help.   Visit terricole.com/341 for more about today's episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking to Jonathan Fields, a friend who I’ve known for many years, about his new book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive. I think the book is perfect for the current era, when so many people are reconsidering the kind of work that fills their days. Jonathan shares a summary of  ten "sparketypes" that will help you think about what kind of person you are and what tasks will naturally ignite your passion.  Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/340 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a giver? Do you find that you are usually on the giving end of things in relationships? If you’re a giver, do you attract takers? In today’s podcast, I explain what can be particularly dangerous about a relationship between a codependent and a narcissist and give you the tools to avoid becoming entangled in one. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/339 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I am chatting with my friend Cassandra Bodzak about her brand new book “Manifesting Through Meditation: 100 Guided Practices to Harness the Power of Your Thoughts and Create the Life You Want.” She talks about how you can lay down the foundation for attracting what you want in your life and manifest the life of your dreams — all from a perspective that blends spirituality and practicality. She also shares a sneak peak from the book by reading one of her guided meditations for us! Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/338 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have difficulty when it comes to setting boundaries? Do you worry what others will think of you when you do? In today’s episode, I want to help you feel at ease with setting boundaries by answering the most common 5 boundary questions my audience asks. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/337 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Sabrina Soto. She shares how she manifested her life as a lifestyle expert, interior designer, bargain hunter, TV personality, and mom, and how she lives that life with confident boundaries. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/336 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you say to yourself, “I guess that’s just the way it is,” even when you wish that things were different? In this episode, I’m inviting you to question the status quo, helping you to identify whether you’re a rule follower or a rule breaker, and giving you ideas to help you create a better life outside of the box that someone else designed. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/335   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to see ourselves as good people, but everybody has the capacity to hurt others when we don’t understand them. Today I’m chatting with with nonbinary author, actor, and activist Jeffrey Marsh about how you can celebrate those with diverse identities even before you know all the rules, how to be an ally without being perfect, and some practical tips for being comfortable with they/them pronouns. Plus: Jeffrey tells me about their biggest childhood inspirations and their new book, “How to be you.” Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/334 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous? Do you want to avoid it? Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, “I don’t want to deal with it”? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotions you can expect to feel when you set boundaries and some strategies to avoid self-sabotaging in response to them. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/333 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a super insightful jam with my girlfriend Cathy Heller. We chat about how you can tap into your passion and pivot from what you’re doing now into what you really want to do, hear the inspiration behind Cathy’s podcast “Don’t Keep Your Day Job,” and express the importance of making time for the things that make you light up with happiness, even when they aren’t practical. Find out more about today's episode at terricole.com/332 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel when other people tell you “no”? Even if you are a good at setting your own boundaries, it’s natural to feel defensive or afraid when others do the same because accepting others’ boundaries is a different set of skills to learn. In today’s episode, I teach you some steps to be as graceful and gracious in accepting the boundaries of others as you would like them to be in receiving yours. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/331 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lots of us are feeling overwhelmed by the process of returning to work -- Especially empaths and introverts, who use even more energy when they are around other people. In this episode, I explain how the shared traumatic experience of the pandemic can also be an opportunity to shape our new normal as we go back to work and other social spaces in person. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/330 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a conversation with Andrea Owen, the author of “How to stop feeling like shit,” “52 ways to live a kickass life,” and her new book, “Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength.” She tells us who should read her newest book, how to replace assumptions with superior internal stories, and shares a memory about a turning point in her life when a drug addicted boyfriend showed her she needed to learn to speak her mind. Find more about today's episode at terricole.com/329 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever noticed that even the way somebody walks into a room tells you all a lot about them before they even say one word? Whether we want to or not, we convey a lot of information through our body language. In this episode, I’m teaching you how to make sure your body language is supporting the boundaries you want, not sabotaging them. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/328 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices