The Terri Cole Show

Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with “It could be worse”? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn’t allowed.  Today’s guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic positivity. She is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the Instagram account @Sitwithwhit as well as an author and the owner of her own therapy practice in Miami, FL, The Collaborative Counseling Center. In this episode, Whitney teaches us how to leave behind toxic positivity to become authentic and supportive — for ourselves and the people we love. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/389 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/388 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing New York Times bestselling author, health and fitness expert, and former neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse Tana Amen. If the name seems familiar, it’s because she’s married to recent guest and friend of mine Dr. Daniel Amen. We talk about her recent memoir The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child, she shares how she broke the cycle of abuse and poverty she was born into, and we dive deep into the ways that we can heal ourselves. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/387 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How much fear and anxiety do you experience every day? Do you think of yourself as a chronic worrier? In today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand the roots of your fear and anxiety and share some steps that you can take to have less stress and more joy in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/386 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing dietician, entrepreneur, model, and actress Melissa Boloña about what it’s like to own her business, Beauty and the Broth.  We talk about her transition from acting to entrepreneurship, how she manages the daily stress of her responsibilities for her company, and how the health benefits of bone broth can extend to your mood too! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/385 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts? We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships.  From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive distortion. It is our emotional brains convincing us to believe negative things about ourselves, others, and our situations without concrete evidence.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn more about how cognitive distortions can show up in our lives and wreak havoc on our self-esteem and our interpersonal relationships. So if you are struggling with negative thoughts or feel like there’s a negative filter on your brain- take heart, you can achieve more mastery over your emotional brain (so it stops playing tricks on you)! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/384 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Today I’m bringing you a special episode with repeat guest Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain health expert who hopes to end mental illness by revolutionizing how it is treated. Just like any other organ, the brain doesn’t work well when you don’t take care of it. Dr. Amen shares seven ways you can change your behavior now for a healthier, happier brain, as well as the substances and habits you might want to avoid.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/383 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you’ve found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?  If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out (‘cause they’re not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/382 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. This book is Gabby’s most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever met someone you would describe as an “old soul” or seemingly older than their years?  You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.  Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations.  Listen to today’s episode to learn more about your current emotional maturity level and what you can do to increase it because doing so will create more opportunities for growth and more harmony in your life! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/380 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the “adult chair” to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We’re talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/379 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?  Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?  What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.  If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence. In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we’re playing catch-up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/377 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine’s Day?  I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day.  What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desires this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself? Listen to today's episode to learn several ways you can get your needs met this Valentine’s Day plus a sacred self-love ritual to help you feel supported, deeply nourished, and adored. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/376 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don’t know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today’s episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forward through that grief, and we also talk about the importance of practicing self-love and self-forgiveness even when you believe guilt is all you deserve. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/375 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I’m helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult relationships and reviewing the most common causes of chronic fear of abandonment. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/374 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today’s guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workouts and we talk about why home workouts are a staple of my routine even now that my gym is open. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/373 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you’re continually struggling in relationships with the same self-absorbed, controlling people? It could be in your romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work relationships.  Maybe you keep finding yourself with narcissistic partners even though after your last breakup you swore, “never again”...  Or you get a new job and, sure enough, you end up with the same version of your last bully boss.  If you’re nodding your head yes, trust me, you are not alone. Looking into our past can help us understand why we might be enacting behavior patterns that can leave us vulnerable to narcissists.  Listen to today's episode to learn the most common signs of being raised by a narcissist, plus the 5 red flags you should look for in your relationship/dating life so you get empowered to break the cycle.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/372 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I started out wary of astrology, but over the past decade, I have become increasingly open to the perspective it can offer on our individual struggles and the shifts we see in society as a whole. My change in perspective is thanks in part to Ophira Edut, a good friend of mine who is one half of the celebrity astrologer duo the AstroTwins. I invited her today to chat a bit about what astrology tells us to expect from 2022, and the entire decade ahead of us. She also shares a special elemental horoscope just for empaths and we discuss how trauma and unfamiliarity can be opportunities for positive change. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/371 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you are in a conflict do you clam up and go silent? Do you run away and avoid it at all costs? Or maybe you explode and escalate it?  Listen to this episode to learn the top four most common communication in conflict issues that people experience. Plus, you’ll get some tips and scripts that you can use when you find yourself in a heated situation.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/370 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices