The Terri Cole Show

Are you a natural-born helper? Are you someone who is always willing to lend a hand or advice even if no one asked? Does it feel like your helping is on auto-pilot or even compulsive? Do you ever wonder if there are times when helping maybe…isn’t that helpful?  In this episode, I’m breaking down what constitutes unhealthy helping. You’ll also learn what you can do so you can get back some of your bandwidth and increase your potential for intimacy and authentic connection with the people in your life. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/446 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with one of my BFFs Danielle LaPorte. She shares how changing your perspective on yourself can help you become more loving and how tending to your body and nervous system can be a spiritual practice. Plus, Danielle shares why now was the perfect time to release her new book, How to Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/445 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you react strongly to bright lights, crowds, loud places, or too many stimuli? Do people ever tell you you’re too sensitive? How about high maintenance? You might be a highly sensitive person. A highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone who has an increased or deepened central nervous system with extra sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli.  In this week’s episode, you’ll learn strategies to up your comfort level in all areas of your life so you can thrive! Read the show notes at terricole.com/444 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I had the pleasure of inviting acclaimed podcast host and author Jay Fantom on for today’s episode. We chat about how he found his passion for storytelling as a curious child, the inspiration behind his new book The Path of an Eagle, and the necessity for persistence in pursuing your dreams. Plus: We bond over the special sense of purpose that pets can bring to our lives! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/443 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think about a narcissist what comes to mind? Do you think of the life of the party bragging about their accomplishments to anyone who will listen? Or someone out there seducing people with their considerable charms only to torture them once they are caught in their narc web? In this episode, you’ll learn the top 10 signs to help you spot a covert narcissist, because this personality type can be even trickier and more insidious than the overt narc.  This kind of narcissist might be flying under the radar because they can come off as shy or even awkward unlike what we typically might think characterizes these personality types. Raising your awareness is the first step to proactively protecting yourself! This episode is sponsored by Better Help. Our listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/TERRI Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/442 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing another girlfriend jam with Ophira Edut, who is one half of the AstroTwins along with her sister Tali. Since we talked last, Ophira and Tali have been busy: They released a new book, What Sign is Your Relationship? as well as creating the Amazon Prime reality show “Cosmic Love.”  In this chat, Ophira shares some tips for navigating your relationship with the help of astrological charts and past life knowledge. Plus, I share my very own insights from a past life reading about my marriage with Vic! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/441 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever described yourself or someone else as having OCD? I recently had someone write to me about their “neat freak” partner, referring to them as having OCD, and I was like…hold up. Not everyone who likes things orderly has obsessive-compulsive disorder, yet it’s a term that gets thrown around lightly.  It is much more complicated than excessive hand washing or checking that the stove is actually off.  In this episode, I’m covering the differences between obsessive-compulsive disorder and a need for order and cleanliness. Plus, what it is, the way that it can present, and the real struggles that people with OCD face. Remember, learning how to talk about mental health with sensitivity and compassion starts with getting informed so let’s go! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/440 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have an especially exciting girlfriend jam to share today with my pal LeAnn Rimes! She’s an incredibly talented artist as well as an amazing person. She first became known for her country hits, and she could have rested on her laurels, but she has never stopped challenging herself in her creative work and personal development. We chat about managing the anxiety that comes with creating passionate, disruptive work. Plus, she shares the story behind her new record, “God’s Work,” and the single “The Wild.” Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/439 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever find yourself exhausted and you’re not sure why? Do you ask yourself, “Why am I soooo tired?” often?  Emotional energy leaks can drain us of our vitality and leave us physically exhausted, compromising our quality of life. Listen now to learn how to identify and fix energy leaks that might be sucking your precious bandwidth dry! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/438 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever scroll social media and think to yourself, “Wow, there’s never anything but bad news?” Well, today’s guest ione butler was tired of the exact same experience. She created a platform called Uplifting Content to share the kind of content that she wanted to see, including inspiring stories of human kindness and advice about healing and self care. Today, we chat about why good news is so important and how sharing your story with others can prepare you for positive change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder how you’re doing when it comes to boundaries?  Healthy boundary setting is a lifetime skill and that means it takes practice. Our boundaries continually evolve throughout our lives and our relationships, so even if you feel like you’re already a boundary boss, it’s great to take an inventory every so often.  In today's episode, I'm breaking down the five different types of boundaries and walking you through how to do a boundary inventory so you can see where to focus your attention to strengthen your skills. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/436 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Perpetua Neo (Or Dr. P, as I like to call her) is the author of the fantastic workbook This Is What Matters: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Identifying Your Values, Priorities, and Path Forward after a Crisis. In this interview, she shares how she left an abusive relationship with a narcissist. We also chat about vulnerability, over-functioning, and resetting your brain through meditation to make sure your higher self is in charge. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/435 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you get into a new relationship, do you ever make assumptions that the other person has the same morals, values, and integrity as you… …without having a conversation about those things? Do you think healthy relationships just develop naturally on their own? If this is you, you’re not alone. These are some of the most common pitfalls we can hit early in relationships, that is, unspoken assumptions + lack of communication around boundaries.  In this episode, you’ll learn the top 5 most important foundational boundaries for you to create at the beginning of a relationship (or to establish in a long-term relationship) for an EPIC partnership.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/434 Sponsor: betterhelp.com/terri for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with therapist Cathy Adams, who recently published the book Zen Parenting: Understanding Ourselves So We Can Take Better Care of Our Children. Whether you have children, plan on having children, or even just know any children, this episode is for you. She teaches us how to prepare kids for the real world in a holistic, loving way, while managing your own fear and uncertainty about the future. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/433 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you and your partner come together at the end of the work day what’s the first thing you do? Flip on the TV, check email, or hop on social media? Do you ever feel like your connection has become an afterthought? What I’ve seen in more than 25 years as a psychotherapist is how very easy it can be to take our people for granted. Cultivating lasting love is a daily practice. If you seek a deeper connection and more intimacy with your lover, this episode is for you. You’ll learn some tips and strategies to ritualize acknowledging your person. When there is a mutual commitment to daily appreciation rituals, it keeps us close with those we love the most! This episode is sponsored by Better Help. Our listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/TERRI Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/432 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I’m going to be talking to Doug Bopst, who was arrested when he was 20 years old and sent to jail for possession of a large amount of weed with intention to sell. Since then, he has become a successful personal trainer, author, and podcast host. His mission is to inspire others to overcome their own adversity, whatever it may be. He shares his inspiring life story and reminds us to reflect on how we can take responsibility for our actions and their consequences, even in difficult circumstances. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/431 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’ve repeatedly been hurt by someone and you share it with others in your life do you ever hear things like, “Well, you probably provoked them” or… “You can be really sensitive” or… “Maybe you just took it the wrong way” or… “I’ve never had a problem with them” or… “Aren’t you being a bit of a drama queen”?  These reactions are the opposite of supportive. If it happens often, you need to learn how to protect yourself with boundaries from others who (whether they realize it or not) are contributing to keeping an abusive or dysfunctional system in place. As a continuation of last week’s episode, I’m laying out some strategies you can use to protect yourself emotionally plus boundary language and scripts to help you better manage the abuse enablers in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/430 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I called Niyc Pidgeon for this interview, I thought we would be talking about productivity and positive psychology. Instead, when I asked her about the work that was really energizing her lately, her answer surprised me: She’s writing a book about suicide prevention. What’s more, she finds hope and joy in writing about it —  even though suicidal behavior has heavily impacted her own personal life.  We discuss the ripple effects suicidal thoughts and behaviors can have on communities, tips for talking to somebody you worry may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, and Niyc’s own experience coping with suicidal thoughts after a sexual assault. Plus: Niyc introduces her next book, One More Day. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/429 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like: “Well, it takes two to tango…” or “You’re too sensitive…” or “You need to let it go…” or “Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof? If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.  In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/428

When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like: “Well, it takes two to tango…” or “You’re too sensitive…” or “You need to let it go…” or “Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof? If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.  In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/428 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices