Date/able Podcast

We're back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated "dating market" mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind the importance of the qualities we think make someone attractive, what ultimately makes someone a good long-term partner, and how to use this information to date in a way that leads to better long-term success. Enjoy!To learn more about Paul visit https://pauleastwick.com/ and pick up his new book 'Bonded By Evolution: The New Science Of Love & Connection' out now.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and fr

Dating may feel harder, but has it truly gotten harder in the last 10 years? Julie is breaking down her hypothesis that what we do know is that it sure has gotten a heck of a lot noisier! Between social media, AI, and well-meaning friends, she discusses how this has causes an influx of overthinking in dating instead of leading with connection. She talks about what we can do to reclaim our intuition and learn to trust yourself again. We're going to deep dive even further into this concept of self trust on a future episode, but hope this is the lightbulb moment that can help many of you today start to tune out the noise. Enjoy!

SEASON 22 IS OFFICIALLY HERE! And it's also our 10 year anniversary special from when our first episode went live back in Feb 2016. We're to taking a trip back memory lane to when we first started the podcast – what was going on in our lives and what made us decide to start a dating podcast to begin with! We're also talking about the big shifts that have happened in the last few years – from when the term situationship wasn't even in our vocabulary to what progress (and regressions) we've made in dating (yes, there is both). We're also reading our very first listener submission and leaving on a hopeful note of what we both think dating will look like in the next 10 years. Enjoy!

Ever been told to "believe in yourself" and thought, "How?" Yue explores why belief isn't about commands but proof. Inspired by Nir Eyal, she reveals how your brain demands evidence, not motivation. Discover how to shift beliefs by collecting proof from past wins and admired relationships. Yue shares practical steps to turn daily routines into evidence-collecting rituals, helping you align your mind with your goals. Ready to stop feeling fake and start believing? Hit play and start gathering those receipts!

This week we're turning the tables and Yue is interviewing Julie now! Julie shares her experiences (and surprises!) about married life, including the unexpected emotional aftermath of the wedding. She reflects on her personal growth over the past decade, the importance of stability in relationships, and also how her anxieties have now manifested in different forms. We discuss the big 'What's Next?' question and Julie opens up about the pressures and considerations involved along with how she's trying to regain her mojo and trust in the timing of life events. Enjoy!

It's easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren't ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she'd ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of which she had discussed with her now-husband as well!). She shares why it's best to ask these types of questions early, how to ask them without it feeling like a daterview, and ways to really listen to the way they respond. Enjoy!

We're back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she's been able to work through the challenges of understanding each other's definitions of freedom. We discuss future goals for 2026, how she's aiming for more alignment, and the ways she's working to build a rich life for herself and with her partner. Enjoy!

With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was "intimidating", she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!

We often ask "Are they ready for a relationship?" but the more important questions is "Are you ready?" We're revealing 10 questions you need to ask yourself now to see how you relate to others, know when to stay vs walk away, and trust yourself in the process of finding love. We're also doing a final segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about taking initiative on dating apps to actually make dates happen (and how to make it crystal clear if you're ready or not). Enjoy!Learn more and download Satya today: https://www.satyadating.com/

We talk about the need for emotional intelligence all the time, but what about relational intelligence? In many ways, it's as important or if not more! In today's episode, Julie's taking about the 5 stages of Relational Intelligence and how to put them into motion when applied to the common dating scenario of someone you're into not texting or setting up plans as quickly as you'd like. Julie shares why regulating before you act is so important, the type of text you can send to get the clarity you need, and how to move forward with this information. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Download the Dateable AI Coaching App: https://studio.com/dateableHOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO

As we approach the year of the horse – a year full of movement, momentum, courage and moving forward – we wanted to dive into how 2026 will look for each dating archetype. If you're new here, definitely take our quiz (https://howtobedateable.com/) or it's in our book 'How to Be Dateable'! We discuss the superpowers each dating archetype brings, the boost you need for 2026, and what to watch out for. Plus we do another segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about the 'rate your match' feedback loop she created. Enjoy!Learn more and download Satya today: https://www.satyadating.com/

We're all so rational when it comes to dating and trying to find our person. But what if we need to be a bit more delusional? And what's missing is that level of delulu that helps us envision what we truly want and actually believe it's possible. Yue shares why she's going to be embrace being delusional this year and how we all can get some of that magic back into dating, relationships and love. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Talkiatry: Ge

Happy 2026 all! We're back bringing that new year energy and sharing why 2026 – the year of the horse – will be better for your love life. We kick off this episode with a special segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about what she's doing to change dating app culture (which includes keeping people in purgatory for bad dating behaviors!). We also discuss how to manifest better dating experiences and relationships for 2026 – beyond just imagining what you want but actually putting it all into action with a four step ritual that anyone can do this year. Enjoy! Get your dating profile reviewed: https://www.findingyourperson.com/offers/dfeankaK/checkoutLearn more and download Satya today: https://www.satyadating.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other

Dating Sunday (the first Sunday in January) is the busiest day for online dating, seeing huge spikes in activity. So how do you maximize this peak dating season that runs through February? We're back with a quickie where Julie shares seven essential tips for maximizing success on dating apps during the peak season, starting with Dating Sunday. • How To Refresh your dating profile for the new year• Why it's essential to swipe and message with purpose, not impulse• Quick ways to craft messages worth responding to• The Peak Time of Day to Maximize Your Results On Apps• Tips For Getting People To Reach Out To You• The Most Important (But Overlooked) Reset NeededGet your dating profile reviewed: https://www.findingyourperson.com/offers/dfeankaK/checkoutTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.And to conclude our series: we’re celebrating the beauty of finding love later in life—and why timing that once felt “off” can end up being perfect in hindsight. We’re joined by former CNN journalist May Lee, who shares her incredible journey of getting engaged for the first time at age 57. Her story is warm, grounded, and such a powerful reminder that taking your time doesn’t mean you’ve missed out—it often means you’re creating space for the right partner to arrive. If you’ve ever worried you’re running out of time or felt anxious about not being where you thought you “should” be, this episode is your reassurance that love doesn’t expire—and your story is still very much unfolding. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back for Day #7 with one of our favorite past guests, author & intuitive Nikki Novo, who breaks down how to tap into your intuition so you can build trust, courage, and clarity as you date. We get into how to strengthen your instincts when dating, how to tell the difference between gut feelings and fear spirals, and what it looks like to relinquish control while still staying in charge of your choices. If you’ve ever wished you could trust yourself more—or felt torn between your heart, your head, and the pressure to make the “right” decision—this episode is your reminder that the clearest answers often come from within. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonpl

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Today is a reminder that GOOD GUYS EXIST! We’re joined by Vasanth, who breaks down the everyday things that help you become a better partner. He has this grounded, thoughtful way of talking about relationships that instantly restores your faith in men who put in emotional effort and genuinely care about showing up well. If you’ve ever felt discouraged or convinced that emotional effort is asking for too much, this episode is your reminder that aligned, intentional, emotionally available men exist—and they’re looking for someone who values this level of care just as much as they do. And if you are a guy: take note and try these small gestures with the people you date!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast,

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Here we are back with day #5: Talking about how to become naturally more magnetic, knowing that it’s not a matter of if you’ll find your person but rather when. We’re joined by Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Your Half-Orange, who shares how she rewired her thinking through dating optimism to attract her perfect other half. If dating has ever felt draining, confusing, or like you’re trying far too hard for very little in return, this episode is your reminder that optimism isn’t naive—it’s strategic, grounding, and incredibly attractive. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview ava

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back to remind you of the magic that happens when two people finally meet each other at the right moment. We’re talking with Valerie, who shares the incredible story of meeting her now-husband, Rob—first online (where they never actually met), and then again through a completely unexpected, real-life chance encounter. It’s one of those stories that pulls you right back into believing that dating isn’t just strategy… sometimes it’s serendipity. And to get there, we need to just keep going. Because eventually the timing will click. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Next up: Making dating fun again! We’re chatting with positive psychology coach and play expert Jeff Harry, who shows us what happens when you bring a fun, playful energy back into the dating process. If you’ve ever found yourself saying dating feels like another job, this episode is your reminder that joy, curiosity, and playfulness might just be the missing ingredients you’ve been overlooking.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available