I Choose You

Do you feel like everyone is always going different directions in your family? Let's talk about being intentional about our time.  We live by the SNSR and our kids have come to look forward to it too. Every Sunday night when we tuck them into bed they ask for the SNSR and Brandon gives them a very simplified version of the schedule for the week. The kids love to know what the climate of our week is and what nights we will all be together as well. If things are a bit wacky in your home, try implementing the SNSR this weekend-- you might be surprised at how much of a difference it can make!

Be intentional about your dating life, especially now that you are married!  Brandon and Christina reveal the effort it takes to plan dates multiple times a week.  They want you to know that it is possible to carve out quality time with your spouse even with a crazy schedule.  Listen to this episode to get their tips and tricks on how to date your spouse like it's your job!

Squabble, bicker, difference of opinion, bone of contention....  these are some of the words that we all use for those strong conversations that come up in marriage.  Today, Brandon and Christina share 10 Fight Rules that they agreed upon long ago.  Does your marriage have fight rules?  After listening to this episode, you might want to write some down!

In this episode, Brandon and Christina share three of the main concepts they have adapted as tools that help them to communicate more effectively in the day-to-day.  Don't miss the story toward the end that Brandon shares about his parenting "win" one evening with their youngest son--  this family keeps it real and we love them for it!

Brandon and Christina have been involved in marriage retreats for the last 12 years, but always on the planning end.  This time they were invited to come as the main speakers for a weekend retreat in California.  It was an enriching experience for their marriage as well as (they hope) for the marriages of the people that were in attendance.  For more information on how to bring the Langs to your event, please use the contact form on christinalang.me

In the second episode of this two-part series, Brandon and Christina continue the conversation they started in Episode #08.   Talking about the negative effects of divorce is not a common conversation, but just like you have learned about this couple, they do not shy away from talking about the hard stuff.  

In the first episode of this two-part series, Brandon and Christina share how their marriage is impacted by the divorces of their parents.  They both share intimate details of their struggles as children, and even now as adults as they still work through the pain and confusion of growing up with divorce.  Their hope in sharing these details is to remind every couple that divorce has long lasting consequences that will ripple through generations.

Listen in on Episode#07 as Brandon and Christina share a few Valentine memories and why they both suffer from "consumer fatigue" by the time the holiday of love rolls around.  Christina has a couple of survival tips for the guys, and Brandon shares a couple for the ladies too.  Happy Valentine's Day!  (P.S. Don't Forget!)

In Episode #06 we answer a couple of listener questions on communication and how to fall in love all over again.  We also give an update on our new coffee maker---- and Christina tells the story of that one time Brandon pinned her down and made her shout a statement she vowed she would never say.

Unfinished conversations in marriage can be just like too many open tabs on a computer. Just like open tabs slow operating systems down and create clutter, so can too many conversations without resolution create chaos as well.  Too many open tabs can lead to unproductive moments with each other, which can end up creating confusion and insecurity in your relationship.  Brandon and Christina have some great advice for you on how to close those tabs!

Listen in as Brandon and Christina discuss the unique way each of their stories connect them to each other.  Brandon shares the backstory of why he asked Christina to marry him and how getting married young was a great choice for them.   The conversation heats up a bit as they chat about the idea of a soulmate, and how their pre-marital counseling almost ended their marriage before it started.

Brandon loves a good party! He is definitely energized by people and one of his holiday goals is to have a conversation with everyone in the room. Christina is more of an introvert, and although she loves connecting with others at holiday parties, she is completely fine with finding a comfy place and enjoying a deep conversation.  In this episode, the Langs go over over three communication tips they use and how they love each other well by respecting each other's desires and needs.  Good communication helps them both enjoy the season as much as possible!

In Episode 2 we dive into a little more history of who we are and where we come from.  We share a bit of our childhood history because we believe knowing where we come from directly impacts where we are today and where we are going as a couple.  We thought it was important that you had a pretty good idea of how we met and we also through in some fun details from our first date when Christina was just 15 years old and Brandon was 19.  Yikes!!  The age difference seems so much bigger now than it did back then!

We did it!!  We made a podcast.  If you are listening to Episode 1 that means that you are joining us from the very beginning of this adventure and we are so glad you are here!  In this episode we talk about why we even wanted to make a podcast.  We also talk about the reason behind the name of our show, I Choose You, and we we chose that!  Why should you listen to I Choose You?  Well, we hope that after this first episode you have a pretty good idea of the answer to that one too.