New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jim discusses the Toxic Family Test and how it can reveal patterns in your family of origin. I feel God is calling me to go back to my dysfunctional family in the Midwest after moving to Virginia to become a life coach; how do I know what to do? I mistrust people and fear they want to hurt me; when Saul was given over to a spirit of fear, can that happen today? Our 22-year-old son sleeps or plays video games after work and won’t help around the house; what do we do? How can I support my daughter’s emotional well-being while staying true to my values?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui explains how self-fulfilling prophecies, such as parents calling their children lazy, trap us in negative emotions. How do I talk to my teen kids that live with their dad now? They are only hearing bad things about my past. My ex-husband is transitioning to a woman, and his parents are blaming me; what is my role in this? What do I do if my six older siblings treat me like an outsider and don’t want to spend the holidays with me? The hosts discuss God placing the lonely in families in Psalm 68:5-6, and how to grieve what’s out of your control.

Caller Questions & More: Becky discusses Romans 12:2, and the steps to transform your mind are to read God’s Word daily, identify your struggles, and do one thing today. My husband had an affair, and he rolls his eyes when I want us to try what our marriage counselor suggested. I went through the Comfort Circle with my sister, and God showed up! I was injured and had to take opioids for a year, and I was able to stop using them four days ago with God’s help! How can people cope with feelings of loss when personal items are stolen or thrown away?  

Caller Questions & More: Chris discusses Proverbs 16:2 and how God cares about our motives. I’ve been unemployed, just had surgery, and am facing homelessness; where do I go from here? Why is it so hard to leave my narcissistic husband who says he’s leaving our house and retirement to his kids? Should I continue to give my adult son gifts for Christmas if he is paranoid and says Christians are responsible for all the problems in the country? My 18-year-old daughter is dating a boy from her church youth group and they are talking about getting married; how do I have a conversation with her?

Caller Questions & More: Marc discusses the signs of depression and how to treat it. My son and his wife got upset over our vaccine disagreements, straining our family relationship and cutting us off from our grandkids. I struggle with depression, use marijuana, and have had suicidal thoughts; how can I find happiness beyond material things? My adult daughter is married to a man of another culture, has a baby, and is mean to me; do I send the letter I’ve written to just her, or to her and her husband?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill shares the art of gift giving, focusing on thoughtful gifts over expensive. How do I move forward with my adult daughter, who is very manipulative and disrespectful to me? She was sexually abused as a child. After my wife discovered my porn use 5 years ago and I stopped, I feel like I don’t have any emotions. Should I confront my adult daughter who makes questionable choices about relationships? She is a Christian, but she moved in with a guy after one month. I’ve been married for 7 months; can a woman of God be a modern wife and a traditional wife at the same time?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill discusses how generosity builds resiliency and blesses us in return. My girlfriend has been diagnosed with covert narcissism; if a person has a psychological limitation, where do they stand in relationship with Christ? How can I do an intervention if my daughter has children and is using drugs, asks for money, and will be homeless? My daughter is a Christian but isn’t telling her 8yo son about the Lord; how do I have a conversation with her?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice shares the story about Dr. Charles Mulli from Kenya, who was abandoned at a young age and later called by God to take in thousands of street children. Is it a good idea to take away my 14yo son’s pet as a consequence? He spends more time with his pet than with his responsibilities. Should I go to babysit my four grandkids at Christmas if my daughter blew up at me after I asked if my husband could come? My adult daughters stopped talking to me at my daughter’s wedding; any tips for me? I am a hospice chaplain; how do I respond to a family who believed in complete healing because of their faith?

Caller Questions & More: Becky discusses how, instead of making our hearts small like Scrooge and the Grinch, we should look for ways to expand our hearts on Giving Tuesday. How can I reach my adult crack-addicted son? I kicked him out because he smoked crack in my home. What should I do if I want to address something that bothers me, and the other person makes the conversation about something way unrelated? How do I become comfortable around my aging mother? I feel bad about not feeling comfortable around her. My husband was unfaithful for 30 years with one woman and is an emotional anorexic; how do I get him to understand?

Caller Questions & More: Marc discusses his first-ever book, Understanding Your Attachment Style, that comes out December 2. My son and his wife have been lying and gaslighting me for 5 years; at what point do I walk away? I’m in a toxic relationship and work as a nurse in a toxic environment; how do I find my calling? My adult daughter texted that she remembered some inappropriate touching from me, but I never did that; what is the most edifying way to respond? My wife is addicted to her phone; any tips on how I can help her overcome her addiction?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jim discusses the 27 percent of Americans who are estranged from a family member. If you’re estranged, there’s hope. How do we find safe people? With the holidays coming up, we are protecting our three young children from my difficult in-laws. How do we communicate to the kids why they […]

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill shares some Thanksgiving trivia questions. How do I deal with feeling like I’ve failed as a mom if our Christmas is going to look different this year because of the government shutdown? My 21-year-old son died from getting hit by a car 8 years ago; how do I get […]

Caller Questions & More: Becky asks the question: Do you want to change your brain or your mind? Gratitude will do that! I’ve seen a psychiatrist for 25 years, and he left the area; is it okay to give him a call to let him know I’m doing well? Is it me, or are my […]

Caller Questions & More: JJ just completed his 18th half-marathon and having sore muscles days later reminds him of how there is often a delay to the consequences of our actions. What do I do if I’ve been living with a woman who’s a friend, and it’s costing me a fortune? What is your professional […]

Caller Questions & More: Marc discusses coping with grief and three things you can do when you or someone you know is struggling with loss. How do I set boundaries with friends who monopolize by time? I’ve been married for 13 difficult years; how do I get unstuck from an emotionally and verbally destructive marriage? […]

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice offers encouragement for parents who have been canceled by their adult kids. How can I be there for my sister without feeling drained because of her wrong decisions? I have had trust issues since my girlfriend betrayed me, and I became a caregiver for my mom and brother. What […]

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui gives tips on how to have a difficult conversation with honesty and kindness. I’m a substitute teacher and a Muslim student mentioned a passage in Luke 4:24 where Jesus says He is a prophet; what is my response? My friend’s adult daughter says she’s trans and wants to have […]

Caller Questions & More: The hosts share that God gives us a standing ovation every morning! Don’t think God is mad at you and you are in a deep sinkhole far away from Him. How can I facilitate my recovery and return to who I was before my traumatic brain injury? I needed to hear […]

Caller Questions & More: Chris warns us to not let fear get the final say rather than taking another courageous step forward. My sister is giving a kidney to a stranger, but I asked her to save it for me in case I need it after having a double lung transplant. Is it wrong? How […]

Caller Questions & More: Marc discusses relational repair and the five A’s of a good apology. My adult daughter is addicted to drugs and homeless; how do I cope daily and not be so sad while raising her son? I feel like Job because I’ve had illnesses, lost possessions in a fire, and now my […]