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Beloved friend and repeat guest, Lisa Nicks-Balthasar, returns to tell us her story about finding and losing her soulmate, resulting in a profound journey of deep heartbreak, grief and betrayal, as well as the lessons and tools she used to heal, keep her heart open, and find profound love (and another soulmate!) once more. Her dear partner, Chris, also shares his experience supporting Lisa's journey as she grieves her past husband while simultaneously opening up her heart again. Be prepared to feel some feels :) Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip to minute 18.  About our guest: Lisa Nicks-Balthasar is an inspirational speaker, author and teacher. Her memoir, Believe! which follows her amazing odyssey through deep loss, grief, love and life, has attracted the support of award-nominated screenplay writer Scott Marshall Smith ("Men of Honor”). Scott describes her “Tragic meets Magic” story as “A gossamer web of small, yet profound miracles that add up to something much more wondrous than their sum." He

On this bonus ad-free episode, Pleasure and Sexual Empowerment Coach, Samantha Helm Stelk, joins us to talk all about her personal journey as she went from struggling with orgasms to becoming her most juicy, orgasmic self. She also shares tips and tricks on how YOU can tap into your ultimate orgasmic potential.  About our guest: Samantha is a Pleasure & Sexual Empowerment Coach with a trauma informed background and a certified VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coach through The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. Her specialty is in lovingly guiding women from feeling unworthy, insecure about their bodies, disconnected from their sexuality and disempowered in their lives to feeling absolutely in love with who they are, being intimately connected to their pleasure, and an empowered creator of their lives. She is known for her ability to curate a safe space in which you will explore the realms of your innermost being, get clarity on and bring life to your deepest desires and dreams. To learn more visit lov

Allison Moon, repeat guest and author of the new book Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-free Sex joins to to talk about casual sex and hook-ups. We discuss everything from how folks can navigate hook-ups in a way that feels really good for them, ways to be better flirts, as well as some of the signs that it's time to end the relationship, plus tips for how to navigate those difficult conversations.  We also answer a sex question: I want to have sex with someone who is bigger than my last boyfriend. Is there anything I can do to “prepare” to have sex again in case it’s painful?  About our guest: Allison is a sex educator and author of the award winning, critically-acclaimed sex-ed book, Girl Sex 101, the Tales of the Pack series of novels about lesbian werewolves, the sexual memoir, Bad Dyke, as well as her latest release, Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-free Sex. As a sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops to thousands of people around the US and Canada. To

Davey Wavey - adult film star and director of educational, affirming, AND hot” AKA “good for you porn on himeros.tv - shares his thoughts on how mainstream porn shaped modern day sexuality, as well as some of the positive things he has learned about sex from working in the porn industry and how folks who have shame around watching porn can reclaim it in a positive way. We also answer a sex question about finding confidence being on top. And one of our dear listeners teaches us a little something about cuckolding and hotwifing.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 20.  About our guest: With more than 700 million video views, Davey Wavey's YouTube channel is the largest and most-viewed LGBT channel on YouTube. Davey's latest adventure is the launch of the gay erotic website Himeros.tv. By collaborating with renowned sex coaches, tantric instructors and sexologists, Himeros.tv uses erotic video content to inspire better gay sex through connection, pleasure and sexual exploration. Himeros.tv is

What are the best positions for fellatio - both for comfort and pleasure? How does breath, temperature, speed, neck action, sound, and using your hands come into play? And what are “finishing moves”? Repeat guest and Master Oralist HeadUsa Divine answers all this and more.  We also fill in the blanks about cuckolding and hot wifing. And we answer a sex question about scent and pH issues for vulvas.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 23.  About our guest: Headusa Divine is a Master Oralist, Webcam Artist, Self-Published Author and Content Creator. She is a Dick Sucking Expert and author of The Blowjob Handbook, The Official Webcam Handbook - and her latest release The Official Blowjob Handbook Volume 2 - exclusive dick sucking techniques and mind-blowing finishing moves. Her goal in sharing her wisdom and experiences from entertainment & educational perspectives is to influence the fellatio and webcam culture as well as for you to learn new techniques & skills so that you are inspired to be

Dr. Nan and her wonderful husband John joins us once again to answer: What can I do about selfish sex? What if I want more sex than my partner? How do I ask for what I want? And what is cuckolding and "hot wifing" all about? We also answer a sex question about anal sex for beginners.  Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip to minute 18.  About our guest: NAN WISE, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark. She is the author of the book Why Good Sex Matters and has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic

What does it mean to have a conscious cock? How can penis owners (who are vulva admirers) learn to be better partners and lovers?  We also answer a sex question about porn affecting orgasms.  Want to skip to the interview. Fast forward to minute 18.  Bio: Kristopher Lovestone is a sex educator and couples counsellor who survived six divorces in his childhood, and then went on to rewrite the rules of the relationship game so that people can actually win. He now teaches people how to succeed through communication, modern sex education and innovative relationship strategies. His techniques have yielded him a wildly successful 15-year marriage that gets hotter every year, and he published his teachings in his new book Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men. He has been called the “Einstein of relationships” and is endorsed by many of the top sex educators in the world. To learn more or to buy his book visit consciouscock.com. Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberl

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Why aren't people getting what they want in sex, intimacy, and relationships, and how can they change that? Monica Jayne AKA one of our FAVORITE sex and relationship coaches joins us to answer this and more.  We also answer a sex question about bisexuality and non-monogamy.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 15.  About our guest: Dare To Be Unabashedly You™ is Monica Jayne’s slogan and the undeniable outcome you'll experience with her.  She supports adults who have done lots of self-development but aren’t getting where they want to be in themselves, their relationships, and their life. They know there is more to life! Monica Jayne knows that at the foundation of not having what you want, is the fact that you’ve been told who and how to be your whole life. NOW, it’s time to resurrect your OWN voice and learn to listen to YOU! She guides you home to your own truth, authenticity, and voice so that you can speak up and be you.  Monica Jayne has studied directly with vulnerability expert Brene

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What is the "orgasm trap"? Why do a lot of people fake orgasms? What can folks do if they have trouble having an orgasm or think they can only orgasm one (or a few) way/s? And how do orgasms change with age? We also answer a sex question about herpes/STI's, and shame.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18.  About our guest: Keeley Rankin is a sex and relationship coach, pleasure advocate and a sexy-preneur. She works with individuals and couples who want to embrace their innate desires, build sexual confidence, and fully realize their sexual potential. Keeley received her master’s degree in Counseling Psychology. She’s trained in Hakomi Therapy and Recreation of the Self. For seven years, she worked closely with the world-renowned author and transpersonal psychotherapist who coined the phrase ‘spiritual bypass’, John Welwood. She also specializes in facilitating deep erotic connections for couples. Pre-Covid, she would meet couples in Paris for the a unique-extreme-sexy-connected date nig

Beloved repeat guest Dr. Alison Ash returns to discuss why so many people get stuck in their heads during sex. Insecurities, unresolved resentments, lack of confidence in sexual skills and more - Aly teaches us how to get out of our heads in bed while becoming our own best lover.  We also answer a sex question about penis owners who have a fetish for wearing lingerie.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 16.  About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients experience the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they long for.     As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi method of psychotherapy as well as

What are kegels/kegel exercises and kegel balls? How are they helpful in both health and wellness as well as enhancing pleasure? And can penis-owners do them as well? We also answer a sex question about squirting.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 13. About our guest: Monique Gomez is an intimacy and embodiment coach, educator and TEDx speaker. She serves others to support clarifying their relationship with their intimate selves to live in deep satisfaction with their sexuality, relationships, body, mind, spirit and heart. She speaks about the Power of the Pause and intuition as a tool for living authentically. Her passion is helping others heal sexual wounding, live consciously and embodied. To learn more visit moniquegomez.com. Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 25% off delicious meals at Sakara.com with code ShamelessEARLYACCESS

Porn star, director and professional coach Erik Everhard joins us to share what porn taught him about sexual mastery, as well as his top tips on how penis-owners can be great lovers.  We also answer a sex question: My partner can only orgasm from blowjobs. How can he learn to come from penetrative sex?  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 13. About our guest: Erik Everhard is one of world's top male porn stars, having starred in and directed over 3,000 films. Erik is a professional coach and one of the most decorated adult performers of the 21st century. He is a leading authority on sexual and mental techniques which can empower men and bring them success in the bedroom as well as in all other aspects of their lives. In addition to his wealth of practical knowledge, he holds a Masters level certification in Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). To learn more visit erikeverhard.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube

Are all sex toys created equal? How do I know what materials are body-friendly? And what about finding the right intensity of vibrations? All this and more from Ti Chang - innovative sex toy designer and creator of the Vesper Vibrating Necklace.  Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip to minute 15.  About our guest: Ti Chang is an industrial designer and entrepreneur passionate about designing products for women. She is the co-founder and VP of Design of CRAVE, a San Francisco-based company specializing in aesthetic pleasure products. Ti leads the design vision for the company’s full line of products which has won international design awards and has led CRAVE to outlets such as the MoMA Design Store, Standard Hotel, Goop, and Saint Laurent. She is best known for the design of Vesper, a vibrator necklace, one of the most celebrated and iconic pleasure products changing the conversation around female pleasure. Its viral duality as both a public and private object has garnered a cult following because it cr

Comedian Nick Scopes joins us once again to ask his personal sex and relationship questions including blowjob issues, fear of being tied down, and why he recently learned to love slow sex.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14.  About our guest: Nick Scopoletti aka Nick Scopes is a stand-up comedian and cohost of the wildly popular comedy podcast the Mangina Dialogues. Raised 25 miles outside NYC and currently residing in Connecticut, Nick finds himself on stage in comedy clubs across CT and in NYC bringing his high energy interactive comedy to audiences anxiously awaiting the mayhem. When not in the comedy clubs, you’ll find Nick at his day job as a personal training at equinox barking orders at soccer moms helping them achieve their personal fitness goals. You can follow Nick at @nickscopes and his podcast @themanginadialogues on instagram Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the

How can folks learn to be more of a fem dom (feminine dominance)? How can they introduce fem dom to their partners - particularly for beginners or folks who identify as more vanilla? And what about penis-owners who want to explore their fem dom side? About our guest: Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari titled, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.  She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.” During this pandemic, learn, laugh and enjoy her special online classes, events and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Midori

Jenn and Samantha join us to talk about about how to use the wisdom of the body as a means for more pleasure. We also answer a sex question about orgasms and pleasure through the perineum and prostate (for penis owners).  Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip ahead to minute 14.  About our guests: Jenn Velmer is a FAMILY, ANCESTRAL & RELATIONSHIP EXPERT who bridges the realms of the multiverses within you to live the expression of your own wild magick each of us are holding within. Her background includes Quantum Energy Alchemist, Past Life Therapist, BodyTalk, BodyIntuitive, and Conscious Channeling. Samantha Blossom is a Soul SPARKLE Coach that focuses on Wealth Creation & Business Matrix Manifestation as well as decoding the secret language of your body. Jenn and Samantha joined healing forces to create the course: Intimacy which will empower you to become your own North Star!! To learn more visit soulit.co.  For 20% off of their program use code SHAMELESSSEX during checkout.  Other links: Get 10% of

Why do people experience jealousy? How can they manage it in both monogamy and non-monogamous relationships? And how can folks keep the fire alive in long term relationships?  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14.  About our guest: Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon Best Selling author of Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship. She is also a relationship coach, keynote speaker, polyamorous and sex-positive activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) - specializing in helping people in non-traditional relationships navigate the challenging emotions that often arise in such dynamics. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. She is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast - available on all of the apps. To learn more visit lovingwithoutboundaries.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lub

What is it like being a webcam model/cam girl? How is it different than porn? What is the difference between being a model and an artist/performer? And how does one make the big bucks in the business? Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14. About our guest: Headusa Divine is a Master Oralist, Webcam Artist, Self-Published Author and Content Creator. She is a Dick Sucking Expert and author of The Blowjob Handbook, as well as her latest e-book - The Official Webcam Handbook. Her goal in sharing her wisdom and experiences from entertainment & educational perspectives is to influence the fellatio and webcam culture as well as for you to learn new techniques & skills so that you are inspired to become your own Artist and Master Oralist. To learn more visit iamheadusa.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off and free shipping on some a