Meg-john And Justin

Content note: There’s brief mention of biphobic stereotypes, domestic abuse, and sexual assault in this post and podcast. For Bi visibility week we talk about some of the issues that may come up for Bi folk in sex/relationships. The last 7 minutes are a total shambles but made us laugh.

It's Sexual Health Week this week and the focus here in the UK is on porn and how we can teach young people about it. Listen to us chat about whether porn is actually the sexual health issue that people often say it is and what the alternatives are.

We have a lovely chat with Alex Iantaffi about gender and about Alex and MJ's new book 'How to Understand Your Gender' which is really brilliant. http://www.jkp.com/uk/how-to-understand-your-gender-2.html

This week we have a question "If people do decide that that they want to learn to be "better" at sex... How would you advise a woman who has enjoyable sex with her(female) partners but would better like to learn how to have more reliable/reproducible orgasms. Solo and with a partner."

So we don't describe ourselves as 'sex positive'. This might sounds pretty strange to you cos we've written a book called ‘Enjoy Sex’ which sounds pretty positive right? And surely we’re not negative about sex, which is the alternative to being positive? In this podcast and blog post we thought we’d explain what we understand by sex positivity - and sex negativity - and why we prefer something beyond either of these options, called being sex critical.

We chat about hierarchies of different kinds of relationships and why they might be bad for other relationships but also can be bad for that one at the top. You can read a blog/transcript of what we talked about here. http://www.megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/hierarchies-meg-john-justin-podcast

Our guide to NO. Our latest offering in taking a very simple sounding thing and unpacking it to give you properly useful advice (rather than 'just say no' or 'no means no')

In this episode we chat about how you might explore different kinds of sex that don't involve your genitals. Not only is this good for people who are not into genital sex but it will also be great for people who are. Longer one than usual. Sorry (not sorry).

A recording of a panel discussion involving us and artist Aleksandra Karpowicz at St Barnabas House in London's Soho. We talked about her amazing project 'Let's Talk About Sex'. You can see the images here http://www.akarpowicz.co.uk/?portfolios=lets-talk-about-sex (nude images) and will probably get more out of the podcast if you check them out. Justin and Meg-John also talk about fantasies, roles, sex advice, sex education and stuff.

How to deal with a discrepancy in desire in a long-term relationship? We have tons of advice in this podcast for you. If you like this, you'll LOVE our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To). megjohnandjustin.com/publications

Where we talk about Master of None series 2 and give some relationship advice to Dev. Dude needs to read about relationship anarchy and to buy our 'Make Your Own Relationship User Manual' zine.

Where we give advice about triggering, what it is and how to deal with it. Content note: we discuss different meanings of 'being triggered' and how to approach being triggered. We don't describe details of any experience, but there are brief mentions of potential triggers including sexual assault, racism, non-consensual behaviour, and war.

We were thrilled excited, exhilarated, but not orgasmic to have Girl On The Net join us for a pint and a chat! YAY! She told us about her exciting audio porn project and we chatted about erotic fantasies and porn and stuff.

Here we introduce our new zine 'Understanding Ourselves Through Erotic Fantasy' available now http://megjohnandjustin.com/product/understanding-erotic-fantasies-zine/ Sorry if this is a bit noisy, but we were in a cafe. We like to get out sometimes.

Here we chat about our Make Your Own Sex Manual zine and how it might help you to negotiate and communicate more about what kind of sexual relationships you want. You can buy it here for £2.50 http://megjohnandjustin.com/product/make-your-own-sex-manual/

Where we talk about love (Justin gets asked a lot about love) and rom coms. We try to use popular culture to unpack the messages we receive about love and relationships. If you like this idea you might like to get hold of our zine about making your own relationship user guide http://megjohnandjustin.com/product/make-your-own-relationship-user-guide/ just £2.50!

Where we give advice for if you think you are masturbating too much (obviously we unpack that and examine the cultural messages we receive about wanking, debunk sex addiction and give advice about how you should pay attention to your wanks).

Here we talk about what we mean by 'top and bottom' in sex and relationships. Is it necessary, who does what and how to do it consensually.

How okay is it to ask a partner to modify their body? We tackle this super hard question in this week's episode and also have a quick chat about what we've been up to lately.

"People always say that communication is the key to good sex, but how do you get started?" Our first actual question! YAY! Hear our advice about how to communicate and how to communicate about communicating. #meta