Meg-john And Justin

Changing relationship agreements over time We were inspired to do this podcast by a Dan Savage podcast where Dan suggested that a non-monogamous person starting a relationship with a monogamous person could always try a monogamous agreement for a while and then shift to a non-monogamous one. We liked the ideas of seeing monogamy to non-monogamy as a spectrum that people could move around on over time. This is very much how we see it ourselves - check out our zine for more on this. The rules or agreements that we make in our relationships can and should be constantly shifting, not something we lock into place forever. This is because both individuals and relationships change over time in all kinds of ways. More on this in MJ’s book Rewriting the Rules. In the podcast we unpack two key ideas in relation to this: It’s okay for rules to change over time We should let others know if the rules are likely to change 1. It’s okay for rules to change For example there are many reasons that we might decide that we h

We tried to think of a really easy question for us to answer like 'what do I do if I need to fart whilst getting a blowjob?' But this being us, we unpacked this to talk about how we might navigate our use of the toilet when it comes to sex and relationships

This podcast covers the different ways to go about getting laid - having unpacked what that means, and how it might mean different things for different people of course.

Here's a bonus podcast with our hot take on Queer Eye (which is a show on Netflix that's right up in our wheel house - although Justin has no idea what a wheel house is, a house made of wheels?). What does it open up and what does it close down? This is one of those 'chatty chatty chats' rather than a 'trying to answer a question chat.' We'll be back with another more regular podcast next week.

Content warning: In this post - and podcast - we discuss deliberately non-consensual behaviour. We don’t give any detailed descriptions, but we do touch on things like rape culture, the low conviction rate for sexual assault, and how people often make excuses for other peoples’ non-consensual behaviour. If these things feel live for you at the moment do please think about how to engage with this in a way that is kind and gentle with yourself - if you want to engage at all.

Hear our panel discussion with Girl On The Net about how to give sex advice (full title, how to give *responsible* sex advice). Read the blog here http://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/give-sex-advice/

We discuss how we might feel better about our bodies. So we touch on the social messages we get about bodies and this includes us talking about fatphobia, diets, 'health', disablism, but we don't go into much detail. It's a long one -- sorry about that.

In this podcast we decided to unpack romance… and kind of put it back together in a different form. By the end of the podcast we realised we’d followed a similar line to the line we follow with sex in our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To).

This week we answered a question about trauma and hookups on the podcast. A content note up front is that this episode does cover issues of sexual abuse/assault and trauma responses/PTSD. So if those things are live for you right now you might want to think about whether you want to listen or not. FYI we don’t go into any description of abuse or assault, we do have a bit more detail about possible trauma responses (fight, flight, and freeze) and what those can look like.

In this episode we explore how to go about having a hookup consensually, given that this has been in the headlines recently with the story about Aziz Ansari.

For this one we decided to take a leaf out awesome sex & relationships podcaster Dan Savage’s book and answer a few questions from listeners together on one show. Content warning: this episode begins with us singing our version of the Savage Lovecast theme song in an *ahem* beautiful homage to Dan Savage!

The podcast this time is all about how to make the festive season as consensual and self-caring as possible. http://megjohnandjustin.com/you/the-christmas-special

In this podcast we discuss the short story ‘Cat Person’ by Kristen Roupenian which appeared in The New Yorker last week and has been shared all over social media, partly due to its resonances with the recent #metoo campaign. We’d recommend reading the story - or listening to the audio - before listening to the podcast. But we’d also like to give content notes (for both the story and for our discussion) that there are themes of non-consensual sex, fear of sexual violence, gender shaming and stereotypes, fatphobia, and whorephobia. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/12/11/cat-person http://megjohnandjustin.com/cat-person

A quick companion piece to the latest podcast 'Sex Under The Weather' where we answer a listener's question about sex after injury.

This week on the podcast we focused on how to navigate sex when you’re feeling physically or emotionally under the weather or low, as many people do over the Winter period.

In this episode we chat about our work together in the light of really disappointing sales of our book. We reflect on our discussions we've been having lately about whether we should continue working together.

Post #MeToo we chatted some more about consent. Rather than making someone do something that we want them to do, what if our aim was consent? #consent #MJandJ

Recorded before #MeToo started trending again, we talk about power and consent in light of the recent Harvey Weinstein allegations. We don't talk about specifics but generally about power and consent and how this stuff is actually relevant to pretty much all relationships.

In this week’s podcast we answer the following question: "I'm an older queer guy who's just started dating a really lovely trans man. Apart from talking to him, which we are doing, where can I get helpful advice and insight into my own "stuff"? I came out late in life - and I am not really used to a lot of the gay scene - which is probably an advantage! Any advice or comments gratefully received :)"

Today we’re talking about having crushes on people when you can’t do anything about it. For example: if you work together; or they (or you) are in a monogamous relationship; or where there is a power dynamic for either of you which would make it impossible for it to be consensual; or if one of you is a dead hologram on a TV series and you are a school kid.