Love Life With Matthew Hussey

On this episode of LOVE Life, our caller, Getty, says it best: “Rejection sucks.” Yet it’s inevitable that we’ll all face it in our lives from time to time. So the question becomes: How can we move on from the grief and heartache of knowing: I’m not the one they chose? I break down my (somewhat surprising) theory about insecurity, and explain why taking small risks every day is actually a privilege to seize rather than a chore to dread. With this new mindset firmly in place, you’ll be ready to get back “out there” in no time.

We’re all busy and, often, the people we admire most are the busiest of all. So why is it, then, we can’t seem to help ourselves when writing them an email? We get carried away, typing paragraph after paragraph, hoping to convey every single point we want to make. And then we wonder why they never get back to us! Today, I’m going to give you my 3 Commandments of Email Communication to ensure your message gets across loud and clear, you get the response you’re hoping for, and you yourself come across even more important in the process!

There’s nothing quite like the thrill of “the chase.” When you’re just starting out dating someone new, attraction is at an all-time high and you can’t get enough of each other. But is there any way to recapture some of that excitement and keep the attraction alive long-term? That’s what our caller, Tori, wants to know. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I reveal 3 ways to keep a relationship fresh and sexy no matter how long you’ve been together. Hint: one of my tips is the reason why certain playful couples in their 80s are still together…

Fact: some men are just liars. And if you discover this trait in the one you’re dating, RUN. But as for all the other good guys out there, they really DO want to tell you the truth. In today’s episode, I give you 5 specific, actionable tips you can use right away to create an environment in your relationship where your man feels comfortable being honest with you about the little things, the big things, and everything in between.

Moving to a new city can be daunting, especially when you’re single. But with the right attitude it can be the perfect opportunity to create an exciting life filled with interesting new friends, fun activities and, yes, amazing new dating prospects. I take a call today from Sarah, who is interested in a guy in her new area and wants to know what comes first: building her social circle or pursuing her love life? My answer to her may surprise you…

It’s that time again… We’re giving appreciation to someone who deserves credit for the little things they do that make a big difference in others’ lives. In today’s episode of Love Life we’re celebrating Justin, the waiter at a fish restaurant in Seattle, for his warm and welcoming one-liner that I’ll remember forever. Try this one yourself to make anyone in your business - or your life - feel like they belong.

In today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a great call from a listener named Sarah who wants to know if certain types of men are attracted to introverted women, or if being introverted is something that she needs to overcome. I turn this question on its head and challenge Sarah: Is she really JUST an introvert? Or might there be more to her than just that label? If you consider yourself shy or not a “people person,” you’ll definitely want to tune in today to discover how appreciating all the facets of who you are can open a world of dating possibilities to you.

Uh-oh. Here it comes. You’ve been dating a man for a while now and everything is going great until you mention a guy “friend” of yours. Suddenly, he’s obsessing about this “friend” and wants to know exactly how “friendly” you’ve been in the past. Before he hooks you into this conversation trap, listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life for my 3 tips on exactly what to say to diffuse his jealousy, ease his mind, and keep your new relationship going strong.   

I have a challenge for you today… It’s something that you think about doing almost daily, yet you probably never make the time to do it. It’s something that would make another person in your life very happy, and yet would make you even happier. It won’t cost you a cent, and will only take a few moments out of your day. You’ll feel better afterwards than before you did it. Are you up for the challenge? Listen to today’s LOVE Life and let’s do it together…

When you’re having sex with someone, one of the least sexy things to talk about is STDs. But it could be the most important conversation you’ll ever have in a relationship. So when is the best time to bring it up? And what should you say to make sure you’re comfortable enough to trust your partner? In today’s episode, I help our caller, Jasmine, navigate this tricky situation and give her a script she can use that will allow her to look after her health, stand her ground, and get more respect from her partner in the process.

Do you cram for dates like you used to cram for exams? Pulling all-nighters beforehand, stressing about where to go, what to do, and what to say? Well no wonder you’re overwhelmed! Today I’m going to get you to stop this counterproductive behavior and give you 5 tips you can use now to bring real (not superficial) change that will make sure you ace any date.

If you think that people with charisma are just “born with it”… If you think people who influence others or tell captivating stories are spontaneous and it just “comes naturally” to them, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. Not only am I going to dispel this myth once and for all based on my own experience, I am going to give you a set of free, downloadable tools you can use to learn how to develop these skills for yourself. Hint: It includes a shocking expose written about me by my brother Stephen AND a secret screenshot of my iPad. Curious yet???

When you think of “heroes,” what comes to mind? Superman leaping tall buildings in a single bound? Well, it’s not always feats of strength that make someone a hero. In fact, there are everyday superstars all around us if we only take the time to notice. That’s why I’ve created a segment I’m calling “Boring Heroes,” and in example #1, I’m sharing with you the 4 words a pool boy – yes, a pool boy at a resort – said to me that changed the way I approach life, and just might do the same for you.

Is there anything worse than going to dinner on a first date and realizing that you’re not a match before your appetizer even hits the table? Now you have to sit through another two courses, make excruciating small talk, AND do the “I’ve got this,” “No, really, I’ve got it” dance around the check before you can make your escape. Do yourself a favor and listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to share with you my “Rule of Thirds” Formula that guarantees you’ll invest exactly the right amount of time in someone you date (that way you can cut your losses quickly OR if you really hit it off, you can keep on going all night!). 

You know you’re awesome, and any man would be lucky to date you.  But how do you get that across in a paragraph (without the use of the dreaded humble-brag)? Well you’re in luck, because today I’m going to break down, line-by-line, what I consider to be THE most perfect online dating profile I’ve ever seen. In subtle, witty, playful ways, this woman communicates who she is, what she has to offer, and what she’s looking for in a partner (including the most genius way of inconspicuously mentioning that she wants to have kids someday). Oh yeah, and I also give you a link to download the profile so you can use it as a template! (You’re welcome ☺)

Let’s face it: Some conversations are way more difficult than others. But sometimes we have to be grownups and face these tricky conversations head-on.  Today, I’m giving you my 3 simple tips to quit your job gracefully, so you say the things that need to be said (and not the ones that cause hard feelings). Both you and your superior will feel good about the experience, and you’ll walk away knowing that you’ve left a door open to possibilities down the road.

What’s the big deal about a little gossip? Well we all know that talking trash about someone else can hurt their feelings if (when!) they find out, but you may not realize just how much this behavior is hurting YOU in the process. I uncover the ugly truth about gossiping in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and explain why the real recipe to building yourself up is not tearing others down.

First dates are awkward… but meeting a blind date for the first time ever can be positively terrifying! Before you freak out, listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to hand you 6 adorably unique lines you can use to ease the pressure, have some fun, and – if you’re into him – lay the groundwork for a great second date.

As a strong woman, you may think, “I don’t want to make myself vulnerable in love. It will make me seem weak.”  But is that really true? In today’s LOVE Life, I explain the difference between vulnerability and weakness, and show you why being open to getting hurt is actually the most courageous thing you can do. If you want true love, let down your guard and listen to this episode…

You’re dating a fantastic new guy and things are going great. It’s time to take the next step and introduce him to your crew. There’s just ONE problem: Your super-hot friend.  What if your guy meets her and thinks, “Wow – she’s gorgeous. I picked the wrong one?” In today’s episode of LOVE Life I’m going to break down two important things to consider in this tricky situation, and the #1 way you can keep him hooked long-term, no matter how many beautiful women he comes into contact with every day.