Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Ah, the “frenemy.” One moment she’s a blast to be around, and the next minute she’s tearing you down with her criticism and negativity. Is it healthier to cut ties entirely, or can the friendship be saved? My answer: It depends. Check out this episode for 4 steps you can try to pull the “friend” out of the “frenemy.” Good luck…

(Sorry, guys, but I’ve got to give away one of our biggest secrets…) Ladies: Did you know that most times men walk away without getting your number because our interaction with you ended just 5 seconds too soon?  Well, today I’m going to give you 3 simple tricks you can use to extend your conversation with a guy just long enough for him to gather the courage to ask you out. Sneaky? Kind of. But it may just mean the difference between “it was nice talking to you,” and “can I take you to dinner on Friday?” So help us out, ok?

I have a mission for you today: You just need to do two simple things. I’ll be honest, though: It’s going to take courage, and it requires stepping out of your comfort zone. But you’ll thank me for it when you’re done. I did this myself recently, and the reward was well worth the risk. Curious yet? I explain everything in this episode of LOVE Life…

What’s the cure for a broken heart? “Stay busy,” most people will say, “and before long, you’ll have forgotten all about it.” While this tactic may work in the short term, it’s not going to fix the root of your problem. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal the REAL, lasting cure for heartache, and teach you a how you can take action today to feel better fast.

You may not realize it, but there are one or two days a year unlike any other where you just plow through your to-do list and GET. STUFF. DONE. In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to remind you when those days are (and exactly what makes you so productive), plus reveal my fun productivity hack that tricks your brain into recreating these hyper-focused, super-effective days whenever you choose!

What makes a great conversationalist? Sure, being knowledgeable about a lot of topics and sharing about them in an interesting way is a great start. But there is one crucial conversation skill that most people don’t use. The funny thing is, this skill is so simple to implement; it actually takes the pressure off of you, helps you to grow, and makes the person you’re speaking with feel amazing about themselves around you. You don’t want to miss this quick but useful tip in today’s LOVE Life.

When your partner is acting selfish, it’s only natural to feel resentful. Why should you be giving, giving, giving when all they’re doing is taking? So you withdraw and focus on your own needs to protect yourself. But this is the beginning of a dangerous pattern, as we explore in today’s episode of LOVE Life. Listen closely because I’m going to share a totally counter-intuitive, yet completely simple approach you can use when your relationship starts to feel like a transaction. Do this and you’ll immediately break the negative pattern and discover whether your partner is truly capable of meeting your needs.

Statistics say that 2/3 of people meet their partner through friends or work. But that doesn’t mean it’s the best way to find the right match for you! Before you start dating Dan from Accounting because you’re bored and think you don’t have any better options, STOP and listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. I’m going to tell you how you can open your world up to more opportunities with much more exciting men. Bonus: If it doesn’t work out, you don’t have to pass them at the water cooler!

“I like that restaurant.” “Ehh...I didn’t really like that movie.” Listen, anyone can say these things about anything. Liking or disliking something doesn’t mean you have an opinion. Having a compelling reason why you do or don’t like it is what makes you intriguing. Want an example? Boy, do I have one for you in today’s episode… Warning: I go on a bit of a rant, but I think you’ll find it amusing (or perhaps you’ll just think I’m a little crazy). Either way, I guarantee my advice will make you a lot more interesting to the guys you date!

If I asked you to list the characteristics you’re looking for in your dream man, what would you say? Whether we want to admit it or not, most of us have a mental checklist of what we want in our perfect partner. Is it helpful to be so focused, or could it actually hinder us from finding the person we’re most compatible with? In today’s episode, I tell you exactly what I think you should do with your checklist, and explain why the qualities that will truly bond you to a great guy might be the most surprising of all. 

You love your friend. You want nothing but the best for her, including an amazing relationship. So why does it feel so sucky when she falls hard for a new guy and wants to spend alllllll of her time with him? You don’t want her to make a mistake, of course, but could there be something else going on? In today’s LOVE Life, we explore what happens when your BFF takes a “Boyfriend Hiatus” and what you can say to her to bring her out of it to spend some time with you. But be warned: she’s not the only one getting a reality check in today’s episode!  

It’s not news to you that giving your guy space can actually bring you closer in your relationship. But how do you put this behavior into practice, especially when you’re so used to spending all of your time together? Today I’m going to give you a quick, unexpected tip you can use that will shock your man, make him insanely attracted to you, and squash any “dude” instinct he has to rebel against commitment. Bonus points for you being awesome: I guarantee this is something none of his past girlfriends have ever said to him before!

What creates confidence? Many people will tell you that it’s attractiveness. But how can you ever feel good about yourself until you get the validation from others that you look good in the first place? It’s a trap, you see… and the only way to close that gap is to realize that there is another, entirely different way to get your validation and create feelings of confidence. I’ll give you that secret recipe today and give you an everyday-life illustration that will make you understand exactly why it’s confidence itself that makes you attractive in the first place!

On your journey to finding your Mr. Right, you may find yourself getting set up on a date. Whether it’s a cultural thing, or thanks to the (relentless) suggestion of well-meaning friends or family members, suddenly you find yourself sitting face-to-face with a virtual stranger who knows things about you that you’ve never told him. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I give you some creative ways to break the ice, address the awkwardness, and create a real-life connection of your very own choosing!

Let’s face it – we all work too hard to risk wasting an entire, precious Friday night with someone we just met if the date doesn’t go well.  Allow me to propose the low-pressure, high-value first date: My formula allows you to spend some fun, flirty time with that new guy you’re interested in and you’ll still get to meet up with your girlfriends for a proper night out. You’ll leave on a high note, which is guaranteed to leave him wanting more, and before you know it he’ll be calling (not texting!) for a second date.

If you’re anything like me, the higher the expectations you set for yourself for what you want to accomplish in a day, the more overwhelmed you get. And the more overwhelmed you get, the less stuff you actually get done. So I’m going to get you in on my (slightly embarrassing) productivity trick that – when you put it into practice – guarantees you’ll actually achieve your goal by the end of the day. And no one has to know how you got there but you and me!

Why do bad things always happen to me? If you find yourself thinking that way, it’s time to STOP. We all face problems and setbacks in life, and having a victim mentality is only going to hold you back from having the happiness you deserve. In today’s episode, I give you the two essential questions you need to ask yourself when something goes wrong so you can learn from it, move forward, and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

We all need other people to help us achieve our goals in life. But the more successful our adviser, the more likely he or she is to be insanely busy! So how can we get on their radar… and even more challenging, their calendar? I’ve got a sneaky tip for you that may be just a tiny bit unfair but, hey – you gotta do what you gotta do to get ahead! Plus, it will make your mentor feel like they’ve done something good with their day too. In the end, it’s a win-win for everyone.

Well of course your best guy friend’s new girlfriend is going to be threatened by you. You two have a history that she can only imagine, inside jokes she just doesn’t get, and a friendship that’s stood the test of time… But the reality is, they’re getting serious and she’s not going anywhere. So how can the three of you make this relationship work? I give you 3 quick tips that will put your guy friend’s GF at ease, build your bond with her, and make sure that both of you stay the most important women in your best friend’s life.

What happens when you meet a guy you’re really into, you have a few amazing dates, and then he has to move away due to circumstances beyond both of your control? You haven’t had time to build a solid foundation yet, but you don’t want to throw away a great connection either. In this episode of LOVE Life, I’ll explore this tricky situation and give you an elegant way to test the waters to see where your guy stands on the issue. In the end, you’ll know whether it’s worth pursuing something more, or keeping your options open for love that’s closer to home.