Love University

  Do you believe that love should be a grand adventure filled with endless possibilities? If so, you may be the Social Philosopher LoveType (ENFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test). As an ENFP, you're a passionate, free-spirited individual who thrives on deep connections, exploration, and discovering new perspectives in every aspect of life. You’re an idealist with a deep yearning for meaning, often questioning the world around you and how love fits into the larger picture of existence. In relationships, you are the type of person who desires more than just romance—you crave emotional depth, intellectual stimulation, and the sense that you're growing together with your partner. You’re always seeking new ideas, perspectives, and experiences, and you want a partner who can keep up with your adventurous spirit and philosophical musings. You're highly empathetic and love engaging in heartfelt, meaningful conversations that delve into the mysteries of life. But while your openness and creativity make you an exc

Do you believe that love should be a deeply emotional and spiritual experience? If so, you may be the Mystic Writer LoveType (INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test). On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila reveals Mystic Writer love secrets from his classic bestseller, LoveTypes (https://shorturl.at/6uo30). As a Mystic Writer, you’re a rare personality type who values the written word, is a great listener, and wants to help humanity in a creative, spiritual, or psychological way. When it comes to love, you can be quite content having your soul mate as your primary, and perhaps sole, source of companionship in life (you like it that way). You are highly idealistic and privately passionate. You can love someone very profoundly, but you may stay too long in an incompatible relationship because you can delude yourself (with your highly attuned sense of imagination) into believing the person is the right one. On the positive side, if you find the right “soul partner,” you can create a love that lasts a lifet

Would like to speedread your dates and quickly determine if they’re the one? Now, there is a way to do that by utilizing Dr. Avila’s classic LoveTypes system (lovetype.com). Based on the theory behind the Myers-Briggs®—the most popular personality test in the world, Dr. Avila’s approach to love finding has been proven with over 40 million internet users. On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila explained two of the most important LoveType personality dimensions: Deciding and Organizing, as follows:   Deciding Dimension: Thinker of Feeler?  Thinkers make decisions primarily with their logic, while Feelers decide mainly with their emotions. Thinkers and Feelers often get together in relationships, but need to understand and respect each other’s style. If they don’t, Thinkers may accuse Feelers of taking things too personally, while Feelers tell Thinkers they are too cold and critical. A better approach is to value each other’s strengths. The Thinker recognizes that their Feeler provides warmth and emotional s

Are you practical or imaginative? How about your love partner? Research shows that 70% of happily married couples are the same or similar in this personality dimension—either both imaginative or both practical. On our Love University Podcast, we delved into the Jungian/Myers-Briggs personality dimension known as N/S or Intuitive/Sensor (Imaginative/Practical), and how it can affect the happiness and success of couples.   If you’re an N (Intuitive/Imaginative), you probably like to create, invent, innovate, and think outside the box. You may like psychology, philosophy, science, technology, spirituality, and the arts. You’re always looking to improve something.   If you’re an S (Sensory/Practical), you may like to experience life through your five senses in a practical, realistic, and concrete way. You savor the aesthetics of life, and you’re probably good at saving, investing, and dealing with practical matters. You enjoy life as you experience it in the moment, not in a “pie in the sky” futuristic way.   Unf

Do you have election anxiety—stress and worry about how a political outcome will affect your life? The election in the US has taken place and millions of people are experiencing a variety of emotions—from hope to despair; from confidence and optimism to worry and fear.  Some people become so emotionally identified with their preferred candidate or party that they think their personal self-worth or self-esteem is riding on an election outcome. On our Love University podcast, we went into the community to ask people their thoughts and feelings about the election, and we received a fascinating variety of opinions. Here are three things that can help if you’re experiencing election anxiety: *Limit your political media consumption. Although it’s good to stay informed, many people go overboard and spend too much time watching the news and feeling anxious about it. To counteract this, set boundaries for how much time you will spend checking political news (1 hour etc.), and take breaks from election coverage. In thi

Are you in an Introvert-Extrovert relationship? Maybe you’re the Introvert—you get energy more from your own thoughts—and your partner is the outgoing, Extraverted type.  If you don’t understand each other, you may clash. Or, you could be an Extroverted woman with an Introverted man, which can be a challenging combination based on research. In our enlightening Love University podcast, love personality expert, Dr. Avila (Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate: Avila, Alexander: 9780380800148: Amazon.com: Books), delves into the world of Introversion and Extroversion in dating, love, and relationships. He reveals important tips on how to thrive in various personality love combinations, as follows: *Introverts and Extroverts have different needs for social energy. Introverts often like to stay home while Extroverts like to go out. Key to success: Extroverts, respect your Introverts need for “alone/quiet time,” while Introverts be OK with giving your Extrovert a boy’s/girl’s night out. *I

On our Love University podcast, we had an enlightening interview with Karl Dunn, an expert on same-sex divorce and mental health issues related to divorce. Karl recounted the lessons learned from his own marriage/divorce and how “his marriage didn’t make him whole, but his divorce did.”   Here is some of the useful advice he shared for how to have a healthy divorce: *Be aware of the friend filter. Karl identifies three types of friends during divorce: Friends who are on your side no matter what, friends who care about you, but don’t want to be around your divorce (it brings up their own trauma), and “binge divorce watchers” who are hungry for the gruesome details for their own entertainment (the worst kind). *Keep an emotional diary:  As you go through your divorce, keep a diary in which you write down what triggers your sadness or anger (e.g. email from an attorney or your ex), why you feel that way, and what the Universe is telling you about the best way to respond. *Expectations will kill you—kill expectat

  Do you ever feel like your mind is controlling you with negativity, doubt, and fear?  If so, then there is a solution for you. It is called “Soul Statements,” simple phrases you can incorporate into your daily thinking that will lift you from despair and frustration into joy and love.  Our guest on Love University, Corey Folsom, is an enlightened relationship coach, spiritual leader, and author (Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communication: Folsom, Corey Lyon: 9798218188856: Amazon.com: Books). Taking us on a journey into the power of soul statements, Corey educates us with his life-changing advice on regaining your wisdom within. Here’s what we learned from Corey: *Find your querencia.  In bullfighting, a bull may stake out his querencia, a certain part of the bull ring where he feels strong and safe. As humans, we can discover our own querencia by going emotionally back to a place where we felt strong, comfortable, and authentic.  Recall what you were doing, the people you were with,

Is something holding you back from achieving your dreams?  Maybe, you’re being held back by negative people, or perhaps by self-defeating thoughts in your own mind. If that’s the case, then things are about to change. It’s time to kick the negativity out of your mind and become the most powerful and loving person you can possibly be. On our Love University podcast, we recently had the pleasure of meeting up with Sean Kanan, star of Cobra Kai and the iconic Karate Kid franchise. Aside from being an award-winning producer and consummate actor (Young and the Restless, Bold and the Beautiful), Sean has written self-empowerment books (wayofthecobra.com) and dedicated his life to showing students how to overcome obstacles and reach their dreams. Here is some of the wisdom we learned from this special interview with Sean: *Be a Cobra. A Cobra is someone who is authentic, self-aware, empathetic, strong, and humble. They epitomize a blend of paradoxical characteristics that make them a Compassionate Warrior. They’re r

It seems like we’re living in crazy times. Violence, discord, and discontent seem to permeate the world. Yet, there is hope and a silver lining. We can transform our pain into power by following certain spiritual steps for self-regeneration. Our guest on Love University, Philip Goldberg, esteemed spiritual teacher and author (philipgoldberg.com), enlightened us with practical lessons for spiritual healing.  Drawing from his many years of study with Eastern Mind-Body practices, Philip shows us a roadmap to love, peace, and goodwill. Yes, we can save our inner and outer world and live wonderfully—it’s up to us.

    Does life sometimes get you down?  You try hard to find the answers for a successful, happy, and loving life, but you often come up short. If this sounds like you, then you’re about to receive some powerful solutions for your pressing problems and challenges.  In our latest Love University episode, Dr. Avila answers some of your most crucial questions for ultimate living. Here are some of the important things you will learn: *How to Handle People Problems *How to Get Ahead *How to Truly Relax *How to Handle Defeat *How to Find Someone to Love (and Keep the Love Strong) *How to Live a Joyous Life and Achieve Your Dreams

  There is a powerful way to access your greatest talents and achieve your grandest goals. It is called Brahmacharya—the use of sexual and romantic energy for a higher purpose. Our guest on Love University, Melissa Barragan, multimillion dollar real estate producer, applied the principle of Brahmacharya and explained how it led her to a powerful realization of self-love and transformation.  After initiating a lifestyle of romantic abstinence beginning in 2023, she achieved her biggest sale ever--$25 million in one day (Valentine’s Day, 2024)--and helped a loving family find their perfect forever home. Here are some of the highlights from Mellisa’s experience of personal awakening: *God Is Your Valentine. Although Melissa wondered if she would find romantic love after her Brahmacharya experiment, she realized that her true love was God (Higher Nature). Instead of feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day, she experienced a great feeling of unity and love with her Higher Nature as she spent the day with a lovely family

Do you or a loved one have a serious, life-threatening illness? Do you fear contracting a deadly disease in the future and having no hope for your recovery? If so, there is a way for you to rewrite your sickness story into one of triumph and peace. Our inspiring guest on Love University, Elizabeth Benedict, bestselling author and cancer survivor, shared her personal experience (Rewriting Illness) about illness (elizabethbenedict.com). On the show, she enlightened us about the realities of disease, love, and recovery. Here are some of the things we learned: *Medical Professional’s emotional reactions can influence a patient’s mental and physical state.  In psychology, mood contagion occurs when we pick up the moods of others—whether good or bad. A medical professional’s fears or negative emotions can influence the patient in a negative way. At the same time, positive emotions expressed by medical providers—compassion, optimism, and love—can also be healing forces to help the patient in their recovery. *There m

Do you get stressed, afraid, or sad?  Does conflict with others wear you down? If the answer is yes, there is a solution for you.  It is called empathy: caring and giving with intention—both to yourself and others. Our esteemed guest on Love University, Judith Orloff (drjudithorloff.com), empathic psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author shared light on the “Genius of Empathy” from her new book with the same title. According to Judith, empathy is an important part of emotional intelligence and a powerful healing tool for ourselves and others.  Here’s what we learned from Judith about the amazing gift of empathy: *You need to start with self-empathy.  You may be hard on yourself, self-critical and attacking yourself about your flaws and mistakes. This is especially the case for sensitive and caring people who often excessively take on the psychological burdens of others and don’t know how to set healthy boundaries. If this sounds like you, it's important to put yourself in your own shoes and be an ad

Are you an intuitive and sensitive (feeling) person? Perhaps you’re someone who loves psychology, philosophy, spirituality, and finding the meaning of life. If that’s the case, then you may be an Idealistic Philosopher, the rare personality type (about 4%) who believes that “love is the perfect place: quiet, peaceful, and kind.” On Love University, Dr. Avila began a new series on the 16 LoveTypes (Myers-Briggs romantic styles) based on his classic bestseller LoveTypes. In this segment, Dr. Avila reveals the qualities of the Idealistic Philosopher personality and how they can find and keep love. Idealistic Philosophers (INFP on the Myers-Briggs) have these characteristics: Internal (Introvert) Energy, represented by the letter I.  They primarily get energy from their own thoughts, as opposed to socializing with other people. Although they can be quite talkative and sociable at times, they can get tired talking too much and may need to retreat to a private and quiet place to recharge their batteries. Intuitive/