New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions: I’ve had eating disorders and a bad self-image because my mom called me names at 10yo; how do I get a better self-image at 71yo?  You’ve been talking a lot about self-image, and I wanted to comment on what has helped me love myself.  When someone tries to get into a fight with […]

Caller Questions: If I show up to say goodbye to my husband’s aunt who has cancer and is doing assisted suicide, does it mean I am okay with what she’s doing?  My only daughter demands I give her a large sum of money; what should I do as a widow on a fixed income?  Any […]

Caller Questions: Our son-in-law has lost multiple jobs and made poor financial choices; how do we navigate our daughter and son-in-law asking for financial help?  What help can you give me to deal with the stress of not sleeping at night, headaches, and planning my daughter’s wedding?  How do I deal with the consequences of […]

Caller Questions: What do I do if I am far away from my brother, and the mother of his kids physically attacked my mom who has dementia?”  My younger wife from the Philippines is going to leave me; what can I do? We have a son together.  Should I stay in a relationship with my […]

Caller Questions: What is my husband’s biblical role as a stepfather to my adult sons who live with us?  My granddaughter is in college and struggles with insomnia, tinnitus, and I have seen her rocking back and forth; what is my role as her 82yo grandmother?  You talked about miscarriages the other day, and I […]

Caller Questions: How do I forgive the adults who allowed me to be sexually abused as a child? Even my mom allowed it.  Should I talk to my pastor since he performed a ceremony for my sister and her live-in boyfriend but did not legally marry them?  How can I tell if a relationship is […]

Caller Questions: How can jealousy be controlled?  I grew up with a mom who was very conscientious about weight, so I really struggle with self-loathing as far as my weight goes.  When do I hold my ex-stepdaughter legally responsible when she was my care provider? I have been told she was guilty of neglect. 

Caller Questions: How can I help my depressed 67yo mom who never leaves her room? How can I get her to see her therapist and stop hoarding?  Last year I had a miscarriage; how do I heal from it if every time I talk about it, I shut down?  After 50yrs of marriage, how can […]

Caller Questions: How do I continue to be there for my addict mom and do what is right in the Lord’s eyes?  My husband and I have been separated for a year, but he won’t address issues; do I file for a divorce if I’m terrified he might commit suicide?  Will I be dishonoring God […]

Caller Questions: My soulmate and I divorced 3yrs ago; will God give me another soulmate or did I miss it?  Is procrastination the result of my drinking and drugging? Or is it from my childhood trauma?  My separated husband is now in recovery for drinking; did I make the right decision to file for divorce?  […]

Caller Questions: My husband had an affair with the mother of his son; when should I walk away?  In a previous call, does the nursing staff really need to cater to the trans person who wants to use the wrong bathroom?  How do we handle the disappointment of our young adult kids not wanting to […]

Caller Questions: How can I use the serenity prayer to deal with chronic pain? How do I stop feeling lonely?  I walked away from a relationship that was emotional bondage; what is wrong with me that I would attract an unsafe person?  What does God’s Word say about giving gifts to our grown children? 

Caller Questions: My goddaughter and godson are 21yo parents, and I’m concerned about the amount of time they spend on their screens versus time paying attention to their kids.  What can I do if I’ve been married 43yrs to a man that drinks beer every day, and I’m sick of it?  After my wife came […]

Caller Questions: I am a dad to young children; are there any studies or data about the long-term effects of being exposed to blue light from devices?  I work with the youth group at church and one of the rules is they’re not allowed to take their cell phones to camps and retreats.  You said […]

Caller Questions: My 15yo granddaughter is cutting herself; how do I help her? Her mother has PTSD.  After 3yrs of marriage, how do you know a relationship is unhealthy or abusive?  Is it OK if I never want to see my verbally abusive sister again? Our father treated me the same way.  How can my […]

Caller Questions: As a professional nurse, how do I navigate caring for a trans client? We had to give up our staff restroom.  My 26yo son lives with his fiancé, gambles and smokes pot; would an in-house addiction rehab be better than therapy only?  My brothers were male role models to my kids after my […]

Caller Questions: I’m in my great aunt’s will but she’s very opinionated, bitter, and expects something for it; should I get out of it?  My husband and I help with caring for our 8yo grandson; any advice on how to set boundaries against the obnoxious behavior from our 40yo daughter?  Your caller last week, whose […]

Caller Questions: Why does my smart, talented 11yo granddaughter curl up in a ball and sob? What can we do to help her?  Am I doing the right thing in getting a divorce? He thinks I don’t care that I had an affair, but he won’t go to counseling with me.  What is the difference […]

Caller Questions: How do I learn to trust my mom again after that trust has been broken? I’m 32yo and have moved away from her.  Should I let my 18yo daughter move out? She hasn’t been responsible with her money and I’m concerned she will end up at her dad’s.  How do my fiancé and […]