The Terri Cole Show

How can you identify your own emotional triggers? I share with you 4 steps so you can respond instead of reacting when you are in triggering situations. "Unresolved trauma can make you very susceptible to having triggers." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/206 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking about boundaries in relationships and knowing your non-negotiable deal breakers to help you avoid getting into relationships with narcissists. “How someone responds to you making a simple request, will be very telling.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/205 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you walk around feeling like you're waiting to explode at something? Today I talk about the real reasons that you're angry and what you can do about it. It doesn't mean that we're not going to be angry. It just means that nobody taught us how to be." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/204 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The last few episodes have focused on how to spot dysfunctional family systems, but this week focuses on what a HEALTHY family system looks like. “If you effectively draw boundaries, there has to be some consequence at some point if those boundaries are stepped over.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/203 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I debunk some popular "procrastination myths". I touch on how to be aware of your procrastination pattern, and how to STOP procrastinating! “Someone is procrastinating not because they don't care. But a lot of times (especially in reference to the perfectionists), it is because we care way too much.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/202 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's show, I talk about how to be more decisive, the "secondary gain" with indecision, how indecisiveness is related to codependency, and much more. "When one of us gets healthy, the whole world gets just a little bit healthier than it is right now." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/201 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you super dialed into all of environments that you're in? Do you think that you might be an empath? Today we're talking about auto-accommodating or over-accommodating, what to do about it + more. "There is something about having some kind of a dedicated morning practice in stillness and silence that creates expansion throughout the rest of your day." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/200 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark is a human connection specialist, or in other words, an emotional translator, writer, speaker and coach. His purpose is to help individuals and companies step into their most authentic, effective, loving selves by way of his bold, no-BS relationship guidance. "The beautiful thing about knowing about a pattern is that a pattern isn't who you are. So you don't have to change who you are, you just change what you choose." - Mark Groves. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/199   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do we know what is normal if what we've experienced is all we know? I identify narcissistic family roles, and what you can do about it on today's show. "The narc family is really interested in things looking good. They are more interested in what it looks like, of course, then what it is." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode and others at terricole.com/198   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today will go over the 6 very common family roles and how they influence relationships. Next week, we'll talk about how you can break out of these roles. "So much of the time, we grow up and we just keep repeating this patterns. We don't even realize where they came from or why we're doing it." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/197 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's show, I cover some dysfunctional family dynamics that have become normalized in our society so that YOU can be aware of them. "Unless they are people who have done a lot of self-help work, so much conflict stems from really not knowing how to communicate and when to communicate." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode of The Terri Cole Show at https://terricole.com/196 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I recently got back from a meditation immersion where we did 2 days of silence. Quiet-time for YOU can give you more real love in your life. “I thought it would be hard to not talk, but what I found was that it was a relief.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/195 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dana is the founder of Booty Parlor. She has changed the lives of thousands of women by inspiring them to boost their sensual self-confidence. "You have to reclaim it for yourself first, and then from that point, you can start to ignite the fire and the passion in your relationship." - Dana B. Myers. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/194 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I take a deep dive into shame and guilt. I think it will help you understand what those emotions are, and what to do about them when they come up. "Instead of treating ourselves like a child who is going to mistakes because they are human beings, we treat ourselves like someone who should be perfect, and we're not, and we're never going to be." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/193 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring is a great time to start getting rid of things and decluttering your home physically, but it is also an amazing time to cleanse your MIND! "We don't have to have selective inattention to thoughts that are taking up space (precious real estate in our mind) that are basically bringing us down or not doing anything positive for us." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/192 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last week's episode addressed what the Mother Wound actually is, and in this week's episode, I focus on how to HEAL the mother wound. "There are so many aspects of having an unloving mother that profoundly impact us as children." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/191 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With Mother's Day coming up, I'm taking advantage of the is time period by talking about THE MOTHER WOUND. This show is the first of a 2-part series. "If your deepest darkest fear is that you are unworthy of love, attention, and affection because of this mother wound, you will find that experience everywhere." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/190 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life is dramatic enough as it is, and none of us need additional drama in our lives. Today's show is all about how to get rid of unnecessary drama. "Life is dramatic enough, people. We don't need people manufacturing or exacerbating the drama that already exists." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/189 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate Northrup shares amazing insights into how to start doing less and earning more, and the surprising data that she has found about work and productivity. "What's required is getting clear on what the results are that you want and then what actions actually lead to those results." - Kate Northrup. Learn more about this show at terricole.com/188 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm super passionate about effective communication, and a HUGE barrier to effective communication and healthy relationships is DEFENSIVENESS. “You have something you want to say to your partner? Start it with softness. Start it with a positive. Be aware of what your intention is. Do you want to be right or do you want to be understood?” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/187   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices