The Terri Cole Show

Today I’m chatting about blended families and stepfamilies with Jamie Scrimgeour. She’s an expert on stepfamily dynamics and the host of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. We have a great conversation about pitfalls to avoid when you join a family and how to appreciate the unique beauty of being a step-parent. Along the way, we share some of our own experiences as stepmoms! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/407 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m breaking down simple mental wellness strategies you can incorporate into your daily life to support robust mental health.  While some of the things on this list might be things you already know you “should” do, with 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can tell you a lack of these wellness essentials can negatively impact the quality of your life and how you feel (and you don’t get the amazing benefits from knowing without actually doing, lovebug!)  I’ve included a ton of resources to help make it even easier for you to focus on simple things you can do on a daily basis to proactively support yourself and your mental health.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/406 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Kute Blackson. He’s an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher who is an expert on surrender. When you think of surrender, you might associate it with weakness. However, surrender can actually take great strength. In this episode, Kute is going to explain how finding the courage to let go can help you live authentically and fulfill your life’s true purpose. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Kute as much as I enjoyed talking with him! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/405 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but one thing usually holds true across the board- we can feel very conflicted about how to respond to curious (even if they’re well-meaning) people.   Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of personal questions you don’t want to answer?  How did your father die?Why did you get divorced? What happened with your job? If you’ve ever grieved the loss of something or someone and felt like people were asking for information you didn’t want to give, but were unsure how to respond, I get it.  In this week’s episode, you’ll learn how to establish appropriate boundaries when dealing with any kind of loss, how to inform people how to treat you, and how to treat others in life’s most difficult moments.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/404 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with my friend Lisa Bilyeu, author of the new book Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life and co-founder of the wildly successful business Quest Nutrition. She tells us how she challenged her family’s expectations to transform a life that was not working for her into one that is really, really working for her. I really hope you enjoy this chat with Lisa as much as I enjoyed hanging out with her.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/403 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel when you go to your favorite exercise class and someone is sitting in your spot? Are you low-key burning up on the inside? Let’s say you go to Sephora to get your favorite face cream and they've discontinued it…are you really bummed out?  Does change make you uncomfortable, especially when you have no control over it? If so, then this episode is for you.  You’ll learn about the power of becoming more adaptable and how adaptability is one of the keys to cultivating more happiness in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/402 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tricia (also known online as Your Joyologist) is an ex rock-and-roll roadie and current life coach, podcast host, author, and speaker who I’ve known for at least a decade now. We chat about all the ways it’s unhealthy to hold ourselves to “shoulds” instead of acting on our true wants. If you sometimes struggle with shame, guilt, and rumination over what you could have done differently in the past, Tricia has some advice for you. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/401 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder if your relationship with your mother (or maternal impactor) is “normal”? Are you curious about how it has affected you as an adult?  Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated and in this episode, I’m breaking down the 7 types of dynamics I’ve seen the most in my 25 years as a psychotherapist, plus the lasting impact each type has on emotions and behaviors in adulthood. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/400 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you relate to time?  Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others? If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!) Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/398 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a special double interview with John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann. Though John and Ana are both amazing authors and have been happily married for decades, their most recent book The Go-Giver Marriage is the first one they have written together. We’re chatting about the five secrets to lasting love, as well as their relationship-damaging opposites. Plus, how to keep appreciating what your partner brings to your life, even when people around you see their relationships as limiting. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/399 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking with repeat guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. We talk about how codependency, which he calls self-love deficit disorder, attracts narcissists, and why a codependent-narcissist relationship is so damaging. Then, he walks us through the steps to healing, from first reaching out for help to finally living a self-love abundant lifestyle. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/397 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.  In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit.  Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/396 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a chat with filmmaker, writer, and musician Vandana Kohli. She joins me from India to discuss how our constant interaction with electronics is causing a global mental health crisis. Plus, she shares mindfulness practices that will help you find a balance between your digital connectedness and your mental health. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/395 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel when Sunday rolls around?  Maybe you had an amazing weekend, but slowly but surely, as Sunday afternoon gives way to evening, does anxiety, fear, and dread start to creep in? The “Sunday Scaries” is a real thing, so if this is you, check out this week’s episode because in it, you’ll learn how to decode why you might be feeling this way and take your Sunday back so you can face Monday refreshed and relaxed! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/394 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’m sharing an interview with author and ex-stand up comedian Pam Gaslow. After more than a decade of sobriety, Pam relapsed into addiction at age 45.  While many people think of marijuana as a harmless drug, Pam’s experience was different: She became an addict, living without purpose and barely able to function.  We chat about everything, from why people think weed is completely harmless when it almost destroyed Pam’s life, to how her mindset has shifted post-addiction. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/393 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you running low on happiness and joy in your life after everything we have been experiencing for the past two years? Do you have relationships that drain your energy and happiness? If you're nodding yes to either of those questions, this episode is for you. I'm going to share four steps that will help you take charge of your own happiness, joy, and contentment, even when the outside world makes it difficult. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/392 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristine Carlson and her husband, the late Dr. Richard Carlson, co-authored the bestselling book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… And it’s All Small Stuff. Today, I am sharing an interview with Kristine about the big stuff: Profound loss, grief, and how to honor your love by healing and choosing to live. Kristine shares what she personally learned from the loss of her husband and explains how allowing yourself to grieve fully allows you to live more fully as well.   Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/391 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.  In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/390 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with “It could be worse”? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn’t allowed.  Today’s guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic positivity. She is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the Instagram account @Sitwithwhit as well as an author and the owner of her own therapy practice in Miami, FL, The Collaborative Counseling Center. In this episode, Whitney teaches us how to leave behind toxic positivity to become authentic and supportive — for ourselves and the people we love. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/389 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/388 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices