Conversations With Cinthia

Our culture tends toward tolerating negative behavior but not tolerating negative feelings.  Cinthia explains that emotional adulthood actually involves the opposite.  She explores the boundaries that make this possible.  Cinthia also explains that complaining, whether mentally or aloud, often seems as if it will make us feel better; in reality, though, it tends to make us feel worse, with negative thoughts seeming to reproduce themselves exponentially as we complain.  Cinthia encourages us to work on rephrasing our thoughts and comments in ways that help us express our feelings without creating more pain for ourselves.