Everyone Is Right

What if the secret to understanding anyone—your teenage daughter, your impossible boss, that friend who keeps making the same relationship mistakes—wasn't about reading their mind, but about recognizing the developmental lens through which they see reality? What if most of our communication failures stem from a simple error: assuming everyone makes meaning the same way we do? In this conversation, Keith Martin-Smith and Alexander Love dive deep into Terry O'Fallon's revolutionary Stages model, a developmental framework that cuts through the noise of content to reveal the underlying structure of how consciousness evolves. Unlike the rigid hierarchies that plague most developmental theories, this approach treats growth as an unbroken fabric of becoming — twelve developmental waves flowing across three distinct tiers of reality perception. Alexander's three-question methodology can help pinpoint someone's developmental range in real-time. First: What world can they actually see? Someone operating from concrete