Everyone Is Right

Keith Martin-Smith explores the contemporary crisis of masculinity through an Integral lens, challenging reductive narratives and inviting a richer, more multidimensional understanding of what it means to be a man in today’s world. Drawing on decades of men’s work, leadership coaching, and deep spiritual practice, Keith begins by naming a cultural paradox: while nearly everyone can define toxic masculinity, few can describe what healthy masculinity actually looks like. He traces this confusion to the collapse of traditional masculine scripts—stoicism, sacrifice, emotional coolness—that no longer resonate in a post-MeToo, pluralistic society. At the same time, newer ideals often leave men feeling neutered, ashamed, or adrift, with many retreating from relationships or quietly imploding under the weight of conflicting expectations. Rather than offering yet another rigid definition, Keith argues for a more integrative, developmental approach. He critiques David Deida’s popular three-stage model of masculinity—