Ecological Human Services Management

If you are serious about wanting our relationship to work well for both of us: Help me get what I want and need, help me succeed. Assume I am trying to do well, trying to succeed. Do not assume you are a better judge of how things are for me than I am. Do not use yourself as the standard for how I should think, feel, or behave. Hold me responsible only for what I can actually do and can control. Value who I am, my style and personality. Assume I believe what I say and do not intentionally misrepresent anything. Respect my feelings and opinions. Be sensitive to my motivations and interests. Give me the benefit of the doubt when things are not clear or certain. If you value me and our relationship: Make time for me. Accept me as is without trying to change me. Respect my ideas and opinions. If you want me to be comfortable with you and with our relationship: Be someone I can depend on. Do not expect me to think, feel and behave just like you. Spend more time telling me what you think I am doi