Disciple Dojo

In this episode, one of JM's best friends of 25 years, Olatunde Howard, steps into the Dojo to talk about counseling, emotional intelligence, how relationships are destroyed, the Biblical role of therapy, gaslighting, narcissism, and "finding the one"! Olatunde is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Cary, NC. He can be reached at: https://one-eightycounseling.com/olatunde-howard/ Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:35 - Who is Olatunde Howard? 00:05:44 - What is “Systems Theory”? 00:07:30 - Why things often get worse before they get better in counseling! 00:12:08 - Why I value Olatunde’s counsel so highly! 00:12:39 - Relationship Red Flag 1: No intentional awareness 00:20:34 - Relationship Red Flag 2: Anxious/Avoidance attachment 00:29:27 - Relationship Red Flag 3: Enmity (and why JM loves the movie “Mr. & Mrs. Smith”!) 00:41:44 - What if you just DON’T share the same interests though? 00:45:27 - The difference between communication and EFFECTIVE communication (in relationships AND theological debate