Live From Love

Sex follows a specific pattern each time from initiation to resolution. Each stage has different physical and emotional changes. Understanding the stages and knowing how your body responds helps you to see where you are and in what areas you might need a little help or to improve to create a fuller, richer experience and sex life.     Show Notes: Follow Amanda on Facebook and Instagram. Join Amanda's Private Facebook Group.   References for this episode: Sexual response cycles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-pleasure/201211/what-we-can-learn-sexual-response-cycles Connection & Intimacy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201701/the-radical-thrill-intimacy Basson’s Model Drawing: https://sexologyinternational.com/taking-a-closer-look-at-bassons-model-of-the-sexual-response-cycle/ Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/2017/01/14/episode-52-stages-of-sex/ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Ph.D Watchful Unto Prayer Continually by Elder David A Bednar: https://www.churchofje

Do you think you don’t need coaching because things aren’t that bad?  We hire coaches for other areas of our lives, not when things are bad, but when we want to get better at anything.  So why hire a life coach? To get better at life!  Why hire a sex coach? To get better at sex!  Even when things are good, they can always be better. 

Is sex the last thing on your to-do list?  Or maybe it’s not even making the cut.  With the busy lives we live today, unless we carve out time and make sex and connection a priority, it just doesn’t seem to happen.  In this episode, I share with you ideas of why you want to carve out that time and how to do so. Download your FREE worksheet for this week’s episode.

We all have rules and expectations with sex. It just comes with the territory. But many times, we aren't even aware of the rules we have. They are unspoken. In this episode, we have a conversation about these rules, why we have them, what it can look like when we drop them or at least we are more intentional about it.  I’ll also share with you 10 essential rules I think all couples should consider.   Download your FREE worksheet for this week’s episode.   Show Notes: Follow Amanda on Facebook and Instagram. Join Amanda's Private Facebook Group. References for this episode: Living Within Reason

If you have a hard time reconciling sexual thoughts and desires with your religious beliefs, you may have Good Girl Syndrome.  How do we overcome the Natural Man but give in to the desires and appetites we were given by our Heavenly Parents? How do those two things work together for our good?  

Do you know how to be sexy? Is it ok as a woman of God to try and be sexy?  What do men think makes a woman sexy?  What do women think they need to do to be or feel sexy?   

The podcast this week is quite a bit different from my usual content.  My son returned home from his mission this past Saturday, so I’ve been busy getting him settled back into real life and wasn’t able to devote the time to research the topic I had planned.  So I’m sharing with you the talk I wrote and gave this past Sunday in our new ward’s Sacrament Meeting.  I share my testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, my father’s conversion story and how it was the basis for my testimony and how I have seen the evidence of God’s hand in my life.  But don’t worry, I tie it in to why I do what I do.  Back to our regular topics next week.

In a recent survey I conducted, 40% of married women said they feel guilt and shame about sex.  In this episode, we are addressing where this guilt and shame are coming from and why it is isn’t necessary.   Are you taking the 30-Day Say Yes To The Sex Challenge?   Flex Discs: http://rwrd.io/tddnzbx Sexual Satisfaction Survey: https://amandalouder.typeform.com/to/HYppWQ

Do you often reject your spouse’s advances for sex?  Do you feel rejected by them?  Rejection is a huge issue for many couples.  Find out why we feel rejected and what we can do about it when we are.   I also challenge you to 30 days of saying Yes to the Sex!

When you think of sex, what first comes to mind?  Are you full of excitement and desire? Or are you immediately in dread? Does thinking about sex make you feel anxious?  Are you annoyed?  All of these feelings are created by your default sex thoughts.  Do you like what you are thinking and feeling?  Do you like what is happening for you?  If so, then great! No need to make changes.  But if you don’t like what is going on for you, or you have a desire to see things differently, then you might need to work on those default thoughts.

This week's episode is all about orgasms. What are they? What do you they feel like? What keeps you from having one?  

How do you feel about your body?  Do you love it? Do you embrace it?  When we don’t embrace our body it turns our desire for sex off.  So how is your body image affecting your sex life? 

Do you think you have to be “In The Mood” to have sex with your husband? So many times, we think that desire needs to come before arousal. But it often doesn’t work that way. In this episode, we will discuss what things put you in the mood and what things don’t and how you can come to understand that you don’t need to be “in the mood” to have sex.

It’s normal to have ebbs and flows of attraction during a relationship.  But what happens when you find yourself not attracted to your spouse anymore?  What can you do?  What is attraction anyway?  Can you get it back?

Sex has many aspects that benefit us physical, emotional, spiritually and in our relationships.  What are these benefits? 

What do you believe about sex?  How do those beliefs shape the way you view your sex life?  In my coaching, I have found that many women have underlying beliefs that sex is shameful, embarrassing, un-virtuous, or that it’s all about their husband.  These beliefs are preventing them from having the amazing sex life that they could be having with their spouse.  What could your life and sex life be like if those beliefs changed?  What do you want to believe about sex?  

 Do you look outside of yourself for answers to your questions?  Our brain loves to solve problems.  It loves to go to work and answer questions.  So when you have a question, don’t look outside of yourself for the answer, put your brain to work!  In this episode, I have some great questions you can ask yourself about who you are and what you believe about yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.

Have you ever watching your brain think?  It’s a fascinating process and very insightful into why we are feeling and behaving in certain ways.  By becoming a watcher of our thoughts, we can gain power over them and figure out which thoughts are serving us best.  

Do you ever notice things about your life and think “I wish they were different?” or maybe you see what has happened and blame others for how you think and feel.  In either case, in this episode we will talk about owning your result and taking responsibility for what is going on in your life.  This is the best news ever, because it means you have the power to change it.

Does your spouse have a hard time opening up to you?  Or maybe you feel anxious about the state of your relationship?   Both of these come from our attachment style and feeling emotionally safe in our relationship.  How can you feel emotionally safe in your relationship?  How can you try to help your spouse feel emotionally safe?  Find out how on this week's episode.