Beyond Good Intentions With Kristen Duke

In this quick episode, I share my observations and thoughts after walking through the halls of the high school today.  AND.... That I'm sharing a fun series in my bestie club emails in the next few weeks leading up to Mother's Day, so if you're not in that club, and you wanna be, you can join here: https://kristenduke.com/join/ 

I got invited to a local event with META, where they share details about their family and parental support. You can read all about that here.  I love social media and I've successfully guided my teens THROUGH it, and you can too. I have a free guide that I'm updating, so stay tuned on how you can grab that soon. I also have the Tough Teen Topics PDF with questions to talk to your teen about social media all ready for you insite Team Trusted, JOIN us and earn your teens trust. https://kristenduke.com/teamtrusted/

Today is my daughter Cali's 15th birthday, and I share what we like to do for birthdays AND about getting her drivers permit with some stories of my experience with teaching my teens to drive.  Dropping 2 episodes today because the one I shared this morning was supposed to be shared yesterday (I recorded it then) and I want to share 7 episodes in 7 days on this kickoff week.  THEN when I announce that I've pulled out the podcast again, I'll have 7 quick episodes to listen to. I love the number 7, my birthday is 7/7, so it's just a THING with me. If you're not feeling super connected with your teen, I'd love to invite you to join Team Trusted to become more TRUSTED by your teenager, that SAFE place they can come talk to you. 

Recorded an episode on the road, here's to my goal of 4 episodes in 7 days before I announce this resurgance publically. I still haven't had anyone message me saying they've heard them! FREE: In this episode, we cover some teen dating thoughts and tips, download the freebie I created for you here: https://kristenduke.com/date-ideas-for-teens/ Included are 27 Creative Teen Date ideas that can ALSO be used to encourage group get togethers with friends!  I also mention the Dating PDF to discuss dating questions with your teen inside of Team Trusted (I now have Tough Teen Topics and sharing more throughout the year to make it easier to talk to your teen about tough topics!)

Chatting about the need not only for self care, but self improvement, and how much I value and appreciate when I can focus on this. I ended quickly to make sure I made it under 10 minutes, but details on the link below after you listen!! If wish we had a REPLY button here on the podcast, because I want to know how you support yourself emotionally, and if you're ready for a transformation. Because I'm ready to show you how! Check out the deets to TRANSFORM and join me in Colorado in September https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/  Email me kristen@kristenduke.com with any questions or reach out on Instagram! 

Hearing others stories are connecting, and helps us all feel less alone, so I will be sharing stories of others (without names or details) to help you better recognize that A) you're not alone and B) You can always do something to improve. Not only do I share others stories, but also my feedback to them, so you can learn as well.  Feel free to message me your story, and not only will I reply to you personally, but may share with others to help them learn, too. For even more hands on help, join Team Trusted where you'll get both trainings on common parenting blind spots and an opportunity to chat with the village: https://kristenduke.com/teamtrusted/ You can also message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ 

I have been thinking about bringing this podcast back, and today, on a whim, I recorded this quick episode...listen to hear about the new direction I want to take this and WHY I decided to bring it back!  Grab the new dating freebie here: https://kristenduke.com/date-ideas-for-teens/ Mesage me on Intagram https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ Or email me if you listened to this to hear what special freebie you get (expires April 17th) kristen@kristenduke.com  I guess this is season 4, since season 1 was in 2018, season 2 in 2019 and season 3 ended abrubtly just after the pandemic started and just before I moved to Colorado in the summer of 2020!

I have admired Shawni's parenting from afar as I've read her blog 71Toes.com for many years. She is just about 3 years ahead of me in this parenting gig, and I felt inspired seeing how she mothered just a few steps ahead of me.  I was so delighted to hear her words of encouragement for teens, words she hopes her kids will know before leaving the home and under her roof. She came up with a list of 5 all encompassing hopes for her kids, which I loved hearing her thoughts. For more on my thoughts, I shared about Episode 41 of 10 things I want my kids to know.  If you are new around here, I encourage you to scroll and listen to past episode, and join the teen topic discussions on Instagram: @KristenDukeChats  

Episode #100!!!! I'm so excited to introduce you to my high school best friend, Natalie. We met right after my 14th birthday, the week I moved from Louisiana to Texas about to begin my freshman year of high school. We had so much fun during our teen years, and you'll hear us talk about the good, the crazy, our parents, and then of course how all of that has affected how we parent our teens. One of my favorite quotes from Natalie in this episode:  "Worry is a wast of imagination. I'd like to imagine the best case scenario."  I invite you all to do that. Imagine the best. AMAZON is our ever present podcast sponsor, shop through my link for anything you may purchase there.  Come share on Instagram (@KristenDukeChats) your thoughts after listening, and TAG your high school bestie! If you missed any previous episodes, check them out! The first year I was really good and writing a blog post sharing a summary here on the home page Beyond Good Intentions Podcast. Email me if you've listened to all 100 episodes!

In March, we talked all about TEENS and FRIENDS. Friends are SO important for teenagers, and as parents, we often run this challenge about how to navigate friendships we are concerned about, as well as how to help them make friends. If you missed episode #98 with Dr. Justin Coulson about toxic friendships, I encourage you to LISTEN! But with Katie, she moved with teens, and is in the trenches of helping her kids adjust, and I REALLY wanted to pick her brain, as I knew it was likely in our family future, and as I type this in May (when the interview was in February) we now know we ARE in fact moving, and helping my girls with friendships is high priority for me. So many wisdom nuggets, even if you aren't moving. Katie is an intentional mom, and I've gleaned so much from watching her share insights over the years.  After you listen, check out these links! Find Katie on Instagram: @TheHughesHouse Find her daughters account: @postingthepositive Link to love language quiz for teens My AMAZON store favorites Come

My friends, I've declared this episode among my top 10 favorites in my two years of podcasting. So many wisdom nuggets on information, it's worth the 1 hour listen! Dr. Coulson not only shares some gems about how to help our teens with toxic friends, but it applies to so many relationships as well.  You can find @DrJustinCoulson on Instagram and JustinCoulson.com And his book Miss-Connection on Amazon (kindle best in the US). I'd LOVE if you can leave an iTunes review! Shopping through our AMAZON Store link helps support this podcast.  Join the weekly discussions at @KristenDukeChats

This episode is full of little tidbits about how we can help our teens be a better friends and make good friends. LISTEN and SHARE, and leave an iTunes review if you felt inspired! You can find Vanessa on IG at @VanessaQuigley If you aren't already following @Chatbooks, do that! Study on pictures: Printed photos = Stronger Families. MomForce Podcast episode about strengthening families through the printed photos. My CHATBOOKS DIY BOOKSHELF.  Visit our AMAZON store as the official sponsor of this podcast.

My teen friends--have you talked to your parents about sex? I mean, beyond the birds and the bees of "how babies are made?" I would expect that most of you haven't, but if you have...yay! I'm giving you MY thoughts on the sex talk, as if you were my teenagers.  With that, I encourage you to TALK TO YOUR PARENTS! Ask them questions, invite them into your world of curiosity. My hope is that they will be honest and forthcoming and open with you.  This is a jumping off of my Teens+Sex chat on the Beyond Good Intentions podcast #96 if you want to share that with your parents. It's got 20 questions to chat about. Email or DM me on Instagram at @FistBump.Podcast SHOP the AMAZON STORE to support  Thank you for sharing with friends the episodes!

I'm happy my guest @KristinBHodson is here to help us know how to best have sex talk with teens. No longer is it enough to have "the talk" just once, it should be an ongoing discussion with 1,000 1 minute conversations, Kristin says. Kristin runs a practice in Salt Lake City called @TheHealingGroup and is also a professor at the University of Utah. As often happens, I ended up falling into the therapy chair to discuss my experience on the topic, and Kristin weighs in.  I wrote a summary blog post with 20 questions to ask your teens, click on the link to grab those! You will surely walk away from this listen with your mind expanded. Support this podcast by shopping Amazon through our Amazon Store. Leave an iTunes review about your experience listening to any episode! SHARE this with your friends and discuss together. Join the community discussion over at @KristenDukeChats

This interview with Wendy about her son Erik coming out as gay is heartwarming. She helps me understand the difference between cisgender (new word for me!) and transgender. Listen and share with any mama warriors out there that could use some support. Check out our favorite family items and shop in our AMAZON store. I'd love if you left an iTunes review! Continue the weekly discussion over on Instagram at @KristenDukeChats Send Wendy a personal note of gratitude at @WendyvonSosen Sign up for the weekly Newsletter from KristenDuke.com here.  

Listen as Madeleine shares her story of manipulations and sexual abuse from a teen relationship.  She not only shares tips we can offer our kids to hopefully avoid the same, but also suggestions on how to help, including a specific type of trauma therapy.  If you're not already a part of the community on Instagram, follow the weekly topics at @KristenDukeChats You can find Madeleine on IG at @madeliene1 Tell her THANK YOU! Next time you shop Amazon, we'd love you to go through our link! Leave an iTunes review for a chance to win a Happy Box!!

My guest Cassie from @Fit_Is_a_Journey shares with us how she struggled with body positivity since she was a teen, and how a dear friend help her out of a tough mental state.  She shares some tips for parents to watch out for, and how to help our teens find that beauty. 

In this episode, we learn some "do's & don'ts" of how to talk to our teens about what they are eating. Us parents are all well intentioned (that's why we're listening, right?) but sometimes we mess up, and I've asked Laura Solorzano to come chat with us about her eating disorder, and tips for parents to do better. You can find Laura at @Remarkable_now on Instagram and her website www.RemarkableNow.net Support this podcast by shopping our AMAZON STORE anytime! Join the weekly conversation at @KristenDukeChats Write an iTunes Review if you love this podcast, I'd be grateful!

My dad, Norman Hill, dissects the responsibility & independence continuum between parents and teens in this BONUS episode. It's important to know WHERE your teen lies on this scale, to best know how to parent and what they need most.  Visuals for this episode will be available on KristenDuke.com (on 1/17) with definitions as well, so make sure you reference that for visual details. Reach out to Norman via kristenduke@gmail.com Community discussion at @KristenDukeChats Instagram Please leave iTunes reviews if you haven't yet!

After I shared about the year of the teenager initiative, I had a handful of people say, “I just can’t get behind that, because I’m in a really hard place with my teen.” My heart hurt for them. One commenter said to me, “I love following along to what you share, but sometimes it makes me feel worse about myself.” That is the complete OPPOSITE of the feelings I want to invoke! There are so many variables to consider, and so many ways of doing things, but I did some research, and sharing what I pulled together from all of that. I tackle: eye rolling sibling rivalry punishments apologizing resentment test of wills teens+grades preserving glitter I referenced a few different articles I wanted to site: How to help teens weather their emotional storms When behavior problems traumatize siblings When kids say hurtful things As always, grateful for shares, iTunes reviews, and emails with extra thoughts! kristenduke@gmail.com @KristenDukeChats on Instagram