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A good woman is hard to find.  Or is she? In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher talks about ten things you need to know about getting a good woman. Start by making yourself a better man Be satisfied in who you are without her Know what you want - Make a list Once a cheater, always a cheater Don’t date crazy Consider the source Intentionally and deliberately get to know her Guard your heart Be careful with commitment Friendship first Want to weigh in? Comment here, or log in to our private facebook group - The Manlihood Mancave to discuss this with other men! Interested in more Personal development for men? Check out our website at Manlihood.com for more info! Don’t forget to check out our sponsors: Hatcher Media - Creative Marketing Solutions | Graphic Design | Video Production | Web Design | Content and Social Marketing Honky EDC - Everyday Carry Essentials. Handkerchiefs, Beard Oils, and More. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/message Sup

Josh read the poem "Validation" and talks about what it means to seek validation and honor from external sources versus an internal source. Validation Young man. Old man. Listen. You want validation. To have a rubber stamp on your forehead to confirm what you think is true. Ink on paper, in your skin. Knowing nods. Framed sheepskin. Lifted pickups. Listen, son. Listen. No man is an island. No man is a rock. I understand you want the whole to acknowledge you. To recognize you. To give you honor, even in the slightest. But no man can give you What must come from you. Father's fears cut deep. Mother's tears burn hot. Family ties that bind can be a blessing, or can hang heavy like a millstone. To the depths. To the depths. Listen, son. I'll tell you what you need to hear. Even if it is not what you want to hear. No words can impart what your own lips are due. Honor is sometimes bestowed upon a man. Like an olive wreath, a medal pinned chest-high, A “good job” or “atta-boy” thrown in for good measur

Josh Hatcher shares his thoughts about Vulnerability and Manhood - and offers a better solution. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/support

Episode 45: Lion or Lamb - Part 4 - How and When to Follow We’ve often been told that men need to be the alpha. And this of course, relates to the idea that we need to be the most aggressive wolf (or lion) in the pack (or pride). They tell us to show now mercy, to build and demonstrate strength. To strive to lead at all costs. I don’t buy into the whole “alpha male” nonsense. What are we, animals? No. We are men! And men come in different strokes and sizes. If the whole pack of wolves was alpha… You know the pack would die right? There are different roles in the pack. And we are supposed to be better then the animals…. And they already know that everyone can’t be alpha! Sometimes, we need to live aggressively. Sometimes we need to lead the pack. But sometimes, we need to follow, to obey, to submit. To show compassion, to show mercy, to show love. Honestly, I think what we need more on this planet is more men that know when to lead, and when to follow. I think what we need in this world are men who don’t th

Episode 44: Lion or Lamb: Part 3 - Gentleman Doesn’t Mean Pansy The word PANSY is often used to describe a weak man - but let’s make sure not to equate that title with the title of gentleman. My grandmother always told me that a pansy was actually a tough flower. It could stand against the cold, and grow in pretty adverse conditions… it still though has a reputation for being “girly” – and the flower’s name has been embedded culturally to imply weakness or a lack of masculinity. This civility does not erase the wild, passionate strength that lies in a man’s heart. A gentleman can hold his own in a bout of fisticuffs or fencing. He can heft a child on to his shoulders, pick up his bride to carry her over the threshhold, and defend the tender things he holds dear with ferocity and strength. My thoughts on this are two-fold. 1. Just because you wear a tie to work, or drive a minivan, or eat kale – does not exempt you from the wilder side of manhood. Make sure that you know how to defend yourself and the t

Episode 43: Lion or Lamb: Part 2 - Embracing Your Lionhood - Manlihood ManCast “Truth be told, most of us are faking our way through life. We pick only those battles we are sure to win, only those adventures we are sure to handle, only those beauties we are sure to rescue.” ― John Eldredge, Wild at Heart Revised and Updated: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s For the last century – the idea of manhood has been unappealing. To be strong, courageous, willing to fight, the smell of hard work, the hair on our face and bodies- it’s all been painted as slobbish, beastly, and uncivilized. Not to downplay or insult the contributions of women, but fighting, working, and rough men have built our civilization. Now that it’s built, and civilization lies comfortably on memory foam beds drinking foamy coffee drinks, we have invented a derision against the wild, raw, strength of man. As a man who is truly a lion, your strength must be tempered, disciplined, and reserved. Let them feel the weight of who you are. Walk into

Episode 42: Lion or a Lamb - Part 1 - Finding Balance We’ve long said that March comes in and goes out inversely like a Lion or a Lamb. The thought of being one or the other may be a bit frightening for men. Especially in a culture that no longer appreciates the fierce and bold virtues that once marked manhood. Lambs are weak. Lions are strong. Most of the time, I think we should err on the side of the lion. I think that we should strive to be brave, and fierce. We should strive to lead the pride, rather than to frolic in the fields, and cower at the thought of wolves. With that said, I think that even the fiercest and strongest war-like man has to know that there’s a part of him that has to fall in line. A part of him that must be subdued and soft. When I was a child, my dad and I loved to wrestle. His strength was and still is baffling. I’ve watched him lift things no man should lift. I’ve felt the strength in his grip. As we would wrestle, he’d show me that strength, but it was always measured and held

Keep in mind - not all of the heroes we recognize are perfect. If you look hard enough - you’ll find a reason to disqualify anybody from admiration. We propose a better plan, though - look for the good first. You can learn a good lesson from anyone if you are willing. Growing up as an Irish Immigrant at the turn of the last century usually meant you’d be tough - and prone to fighting. Young John grew up on the streets of South Boston - but his parents had hoped he’d be a Catholic Priest - not known for their fisticuffs. John dropped out of Boston College to try his hand at baseball. Eventually - bareknuckle boxing was his sport of choice. Despite the sport’s battle for legitimacy and eventual loss to a more sensible form of gloved boxing. (which John also excelled at.) You might recognize John - his likeness has become a popular “tough guy” meme. For being a hard as nails man with grit - for being skilled at his sport - today’s Man Crush Monday is John Sullivan --- Send in a voice message: https://anch

MMC 40- What BOYS Do - Part 4- Run Their Mouths - Manlihood ManCast by Manlihood.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/support

Episode 39: What BOYS Do - Part 3: Waste Time There’s a bible verse that says, “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like achild. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. “ As we become men, we put away the things that boys do - one of those things is wasting time. When we are young – time seems to move slower. My friend Mike McAvoy says that life is like a roll of toilet paper – and it goes faster the closer you get to the end of the roll. Now – Mike is a preacher, not a physicist – but it seems to make sense enough to me. There is nothing wrong with boys who spend their vast amount of slow-moving time tossing baseballs around, or playing cops and robbers, or building with plastic blocks, or catching fish. But when a boy becomes a man – and his time starts to move faster – his time becomes currency. And a man uses his currency and his time wisely. Does that mean he abandons all leisure pursuits? Certainly not! It’s perfectly acceptable for a man

Episode 38: What BOYS Do - Part 2: Fight Teddy Roosevelt said, “Don't hit at all if it is honorably possible to avoid hitting; but never hit soft.” As we continue to look at the things that BOYS do - that should get put on the shelf when they become men - one of them is fighting. Certainly – there is a time and a place for that glorious moment that a bully or a tyrant receive a blow to the nose. I firmly believe that when people say, “Violence is never the answer” they forget that there are things worth fighting for – and there are people who need to be corrected with physical force. But we’re not talking about fighting for a greater purpose. We’re talking about the schoolyard scrapping, and drunken brawls, and incessant need to win every argument – whether by force or sheer ego. Many times people fight for the sake of proving their strength. Real men do not need such victories to define their worth. If I’m minding my own business, and a man physically assaults me, I’m going to defend myself, and I’m going

Episode 37: What BOYS Do - Part 1: Whine Remember that 90’s RnB Group Boys II Men? Yeah. They were great. That has nothing to do with what we’re talking about though. What we’re talking about is common behaviors that should have died off when a boy became a man. The first one of those behaviors? Whining Obviously – men do this. It is a behavior that didn’t just “die” with the onset of manhood – but it should. I don’t think that identifying something that is wrong and needs to be repaired is the same thing as whining. It’s okay to identify a need, talk about solutions, and then implement solutions. Now that we’ve established that- let’s talk about whining. Boys who don’t get their way complain about it. Men learn to deal with it, and find solutions to problems. Life isn’t fair. It’s true, and you still have to deal with it. Whining about it rarely levels the playing field, but learning to rise above it is the ultimate reward. Harvey Mackay Firmness in enduring and exertion is a character I always wish

Episode 36: Man Crush Monday - Before the Bullet Today’s ManCrushMonday is well known for meeting his untimely demise from a bullet. It’s a notorious death. We’ve all heard about it. In fact - the last few years leading up his death are the years we are all familiar with. Before that - he was raised as the grandchild of four irish immigrants - immigrants who seized the American dream, and their family did well for themselves. Well enough, anyway, that Jack grew up in boarding school, as his father spent long stretches of time away from the family on business. Young Jack blew up toilets with cherry bombs, and led a gang of trouble makers called “The Muckers” That troublemaking though was offset by health problems - one doctor thought it may have been leukemia - but another diagnosed him with collitis - a condition known to be very painful and debilitating for men. Those health problems, including a bad back, made it difficult for Jack to finish his education, and to join the Navy - his dad had to pull a fe

MMC 35- Valentine's Day Massacre- How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 4 - Manlihood ManCast by Manlihood.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/support

https://soundcloud.com/user-625797602/mmc-34-valentines-day-massacre-how-not-to-screw-up-your-romance-part-3-manlihood-mancast Episode 34: Valentine's Day Massacre: How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 3 Funny how Valentine’s Day conjured up image of Cupid shooting people with a bow and arrow… sometimes, a relationship feels more like a Valentine’s Day Massacre! How do you avoid screwing up your romance? You have to apply grace. No - not Grace Slick, legendary singer of Jefferson Starship. No - not grace like a ballerina. Grace is choosing to show favor whether it is merited or not. Your partner isn’t perfect. She’s gonna mess up sometimes. As are you. You’re going to leave your underwear on the floor again, or she’s going to spend money without checking with you first. She’s going to lose her cool and call you a name. You’re gonna stub your toe and swear in front of the kids. It’s going to happen. You will make mistakes. A good romance applies grace - it doesn’t ignore the mistakes - it chooses to

https://soundcloud.com/user-625797602/mmc-33-valentines-day-massacre-how-not-to-screw-up-your-romance-part-2-manlihood-mancast Episode 33: Valentine's Day Massacre: How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 2 As we approach Valentine’s Day - let’s look at how we can prevent a Valentine’s Day Massacre. How can we avoid the carnage of a bad romance? Sorry Lady Gaga, a bad romance is NOT a good thing… Don’t be selfish. Yes - you do have to take care of yourself. Yes - I know you have needs, too. But don’t let that be an excuse to neglect the person you are supposed to care about most. In every area of your relationship - approach it with the goal of pleasing and meeting the needs of your partner first. You may have to remind yourself, “It’s not about me. It’s not about me.” If you BOTH do this - you’ll find that your relationship is running on all cylinders. ___________ If you want to be a better man - check out our website - Manlihood.com - for blogs, videos, and more from our Manlihood Team. Men, you can

https://soundcloud.com/user-625797602/mmc-32-valentines-day-massacre-how-not-to-screw-up-your-romance-part-1-manlihood-mancast Episode 32: Valentine's Day Massacre: How Not to Screw Up Your Romance Part 1 As we embrace the Holiday of St. Valentine’s Day, we are surrounded with pink hearts and cupid’s arrows, and chocolate - but the truth is - romance isn’t always so sweet and frilly. Real love takes hard work, and we’ve seen many times when the romance around us looks more like the St. Valentine’s Day Massacre than it does a Hallmark Movie. Don’t screw it up! There are so many pitfalls that can murder your love story. Let’s start with the biggest one. DON’T CHEAT. You would think that would be simple right? Then why do 22% of men, and 14 percent of women cheat on their significant other? Why do ⅓ of all marriages have an incident of infidelity? Cheating starts long before the act. They start in your mind, when you start to think of someone else, and when you start to justify infidelity. Want to prevent

Episode 31: ManCrush Monday - William Henry Harrison "Tippecanoe" It’s Monday! That means it’s time to highlight a hero that exemplifies manly virtues - it’s MAN CRUSH MONDAY. Today’s hero was homeschooled, until he dropped out of medical school and joined the army. Will’s connections got him a decent rank right off the bat, and he started commanding a unit of men that were defending an outpost against a hostile enemy. He was appointed as a chief negotiator with that enemy, and secured a treaty that ensured his country would maintain their land. The skilled warrior and diplomat met his match in Anna, and at age 22, they tied the knot. Her father asked, “How do you plan to support my daughter?” And the young Will answered, “By my sword and right arm!” That pledge proved to be true, as Will focused on diplomacy for several years, until a new enemy emerged. On the brink of the War of 1812, while his young nation was moving west, he fought off a surprise attack by the Shawnee, along the river that would giv

Episode 30: Work: The Forgotten Virtue - Make a Time to Rest Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men. Part of the reason that people hate their jobs and hate their work, and are not as productive as they should be – is that they don’t make good use of their time outside of work. You may have to hustle and work two jobs from time to time – you may have a job that requires more overtime than you can handle – but you have to make time to rest. You have to make time to breathe, stretch, connect with friends and family, recharge spiritually. If you don’t – then you’ll resent your job for keeping you from it. (Misplaced resentment, at that!) Get yourself in check, get a good night’s sleep, and spend a little time once a week with the people and the things you love. This post was

Episode 29 -- Work: The Forgotten Virtue - Your Work Matters Work is a virtue. And perhaps it’s one that has been forgotten. Certainly if we compare the attitudes of our grandfathers and great-grandfathers about work to the mindsets of our peers and our children, we’ll see a degradation of the values that once defined hard working men. Men, your work matters. It matters what you do – and how hard you work. Even if you are working at a fast food drivethru – your work matters. We need to treat our jobs as though they matter! Why? People are depending on us to do our job. The toilet you scrub, the widgets you make, the burgers you make, the papers you write – they matter to someone. I know your boss might be a prick, and you might not feel valued. But you’ve got to make your own validation. Find your value, and the value in your work on your own – and recognize that someone is counting on your doing your job to the best of your ability. You are depending on your income! Your job is paying you, and it’s providing