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In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher takes a look at what every dad really needs to know about Christmas. YOUR KIDS DON’T DESERVE ANYTHING A gift isn’t something you deserve. Don’t teach your kids to expect that they “deserve” anything. DON’T SPEND MORE THAN YOU MAKE Debt is dumb. Don’t rack up holiday debt. MEMORIES ARE MORE VALUABLE THAN GIFTS Make a point to build memories. Do something fun. Spend time together. TEACH THEM TO BE GRATEFUL Nothing is worse than a spoiled ungrateful child. Teach them what gratitude looks like. TEACH THEM TO GIVE GOOD GIFTS Teach them to be thoughtful and intentional about the gifts they give. ———– GET REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE HTTPS://WWW.MANLIHOOD.COM/REIGNITE/ FOR MORE: HTTP://JOSHHATCHER.COM  | HTTPS://MANLIHOOD.COM Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave —————- DO YOU HAVE A QUESTION YOU’D LIKE TO HAVE ANSWERED ON THE MANLIHOOD MANCAST? Send it to us here: https://manlihood.com/a

In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about how to handle the holidays the right way. Holidays can be a depressing time for many. Grief rears its ugly head. Commercialization sucks the meaning out of the season Exhaustion as we jump from one activity and obligation to the next Debt and Financial Stress as we spend WAY too much Why do we do holidays this way? Let’s make it a point to do them better. Look at the history of the holiday. Celebrate the original reason for the season. Make new traditions.Do something FUN. Deal with your emotions. It’s okay to grieve. Don’t spend money you don’t have. Learn to say NO. You don’t have to go to every party. Be intentional about relationships - especially family. ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ For more: http://joshhatcher.com  | http://manlihood.com Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do yo

Be Thankful In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about Thanksgiving, and the transforming power of gratitude. Thankfulness changes YOU. "Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation." -Brian Tracy Thankfulness changes OTHERS. "The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement." -Charles Schwab Gratitude is a cure-all. "We would worry less if we praised more. Thanksgiving is the enemy of discontent and dissatisfaction." -H.A. Ironside "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend." -Melody Beattie ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reig

I had the privilege of being asked to share my thoughts on God's design for men at Open Arms Church in Bradford PA this weekend. I'll share it with you here as this week's Episode of The Manlihood ManCast! http://oachurch.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/manlihood/support

The V Word: In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about a few different V Words that are important for men to understand. Some we need to embrace, some we need to reject. https://youtu.be/CixchbtGBjw Validation We all want validation. We all want someone to give us that validation or respect. But ultimately, we have to give it to ourselves. Vigilance We have to be ever vigilant, we need to be aware of what’s going on around us. Vigilant against threats internal and external. Vengeance Vengeance is destructive. We need to avoid this. Justice is good. Reconciliation is good. Vengeance is destructive. Victimhood We’re living in a time where being a victim is almost revered. Victory We all want to win. We want to be victorious. It’s good for us to run the race to win it. It’s good to celebrate the wins. Virtue The virtuous life is a life that is guided by principle. We do the right thing. Don’t virtue signal. Just have virtue. ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING B

Don't get butthurt In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about avoiding the butthurt. How can we man-the-heck-up and face our circumstances without getting our feelings hurt? Resilience is when a man can bounce back after something hurts, rather than to stay down. Karma comes back to those who do wrong. Including you. Is this trouble your own fault? Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Learning to differentiate whether something SHOULD offend you or not will be one of the most valuable skills you acquire in life. ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ For more: http://joshhatcher.com  | http://manlihood.com Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do you have a question you'd like to have answered on The Manlihood ManCast? Send it to us here: http://manlihood.com/ask-a-man --------------- VISIT THE MANLIHOOD STORE FOR RESOURCES, APPAREL, AND MORE! http://manlihood.co

In the movie Apocalypto, directed by Mel Gibson, a young Mayan man is set to be slaughtered. The Mayans believed that a bloody human sacrifice was required of their gods to bring favor on their land. After all – while the brutality was in practice, their kingdom thrived! In their brutal and twisted minds – it made sense! Of course we know that killing innocents as an act of sacrifice to the gods is not a good thing. But our culture is built on sacrifice – and I contend that it’s a cornerstone of manlihood for a man to be willing to lay down his life. When a man swears an oath to his country, as a soldier, a police officer, a firefighter, etc –  he pledges to serve the greater good at a great personal cost. In order for him to serve, his life may be required of him. They all know this – and yet they agree to serve. We may not all be heroes, signing or name in blood with an oath to serve and protect – but we should all strive to live our lives in a way that reflect some of that courage. Sometimes a commitment t

The truth here is this… if we are committed to be better men – there are things we must stop doing. Mindsets we must change, behaviours we must modify. Some of those things are easy to stop- others take extreme action.  If you want to stop a behaviour, you need to do whatever it takes to stop it. Most people that want to quit drinking, for example, aren’t willing to pour all the booze in the house down the drain, aren’t willing to stop hanging out in social situations with drinking, and aren’t willing to get checked in and get professional help. So they often don’t stop drinking. Most people that want to stop looking at porn aren’t willing to change the way they use their computers, to install accountability software, to talk to their wife about it, or to sell their smartphone and get a flip phone. Most people who need to lose weight aren’t willing to stop eating pizza everyday, to put in countless hours of exercise, and to make drastic lifestyle changes. If we want to defeat our bad behaviour – we have

In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about some dark, creepy, and gross things. There’s light, even in the darkness! Testicular Fortitude https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6_SDz982xHA Testicles are gross. When you really think about how they work, they’re awesome, and they are gross. All you have to do is imagine Anthony Bourdain as he travels around the world, and inevitably, someone will serve him a dish of testicles from some native species, and he always says, “It tastes like balls. They always taste the same.” We often describe someone with GUTS or GRIT as having “intestinal fortitude”- I like to joke that someone with BALLS has “testicular fortitude.” Let’s explore that. First of all, I’ve known women with more testicular fortitude than you can imagine – so I don’t mean to identify courage, strength, and honor solely with masculine specific parts, but I want to emphasize that there should be a correlation to having ACTUAL testicles and having BALLS.https://www.manlihood.com/blood-

In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about some dark, creepy, and gross things. There’s light, even in the darkness! https://youtu.be/2MEbifpA7l4 What Flows in your veins Blood has been thought of as sacred since the first moment someone nicked their finger and saw the dark red fluid flow out of it. It carries life – and has inspired mythology, religion, folklore, and storytellers to view it as a mystical and powerful force. Your heart pumps blood through your veins – and it moves all through your body. Let’s use this metaphor to ask a couple of personal development questions,men. We often call our emotional center our “heart.” And if the physical heart pumps blood through your veins – what is the emotional force that the figurative heart pumps through your veins? PASSION. So for the sake of analogy – think of PASSION as BLOOD. In every man, there is a passion that drive him. Even the tired and weak man has that passion pumping through him – though he may have a weak pulse, or low blo

Lessons from Old Man Bill In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher reminisces about working for Bill Sauers, on an antiquated sawmill from the 1800’s, and the lessons he learned from Old Man Bill. https://youtu.be/NVoxm1XlXTg Lesson 1: Don't shovel the same pile poop twice Lesson 2: Work Smarter Not Harder Lesson 3: Don’t let go! (Old Bill and the scaffolding) Lesson 4: Work is it’s own reward (An ode to hard work) ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ For more: http://joshhatcher.com  | http://manlihood.com Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do you have a question you'd like to have answered on The Manlihood ManCast? Send it to us here: http://manlihood.com/ask-a-man --------------- VISIT THE MANLIHOOD STORE FOR RESOURCES, APPAREL, AND MORE! http://manlihood.com/store More from Manlihood: http://manlihood.com More from Josh Hatcher: http://joshhatcher.com --

In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher talks about the value of brotherhood, and what it means to fight the good fight together. Life is like a fight. We have to fight against hardship, fight against apathy, fight to earn a living, to succeed, to lead our families well. This is war. The enemy isn’t other people - it’s mindsets that hold us back, it’s attitudes and behaviours in ourselves we have to change. And we’re not alone in this battle. We are meant to fight it as a brotherhood. How do we fight as brothers in arms? We must be intentionally in community We must be authentic with each other We must not be selfish We must have each other’s best interests at heart ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ For more: http://joshhatcher.com  | http://manlihood.com Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do you have a question you'd like to have answered on

In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher shares some quotes from Theodore Roosevelt, perhaps the manliest U.S. President of all time. https://youtu.be/_frwOyRgBkM “A man’s usefulness depends upon his living up to his ideals insofar as he can.” “All daring and courage, all iron endurance of misfortune-make for a finer, nobler type of manhood.” “Only those are fit to live who do not fear to die and none are fit to die who have shrunk from the joy of life and the duty of life.” “A soft, easy life is not worth living, if it impairs the fibre of brain and heart and muscle. We must dare to be great; and we must realize that greatness is the fruit of toil and sacrifice and high courage… For us is the life of action, of strenuous performance of duty; let us live in the harness, striving mightily; let us rather run the risk of wearing out than rusting out.” ---------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ Join the ManCave Today: http://fac

Nobility is a choice Josh Hatcher from Manlihood.com talks about Nobility on today’s episode of the Manlihood ManCast. https://youtu.be/oEwQQfO3-6g Nobility used to refer to an upper class - often blood related to royalty, or wealthy landowners. Often, their nobility was in rank and class, and not in virtue. Today, nobility refers to character more than rank or status. You can be Jack W. Dirt from the East Side of the Wankbottom Trailerpark in Fartblossom Kansas - but if you’ve got good character, you’re a noble. It’s a choice you make. Folks with good character are known for it. It precedes them like a trumpet fanfare. ----------- Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ Join the ManCave Today: http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do you have a question you'd like to have answered on The Manlihood ManCast? Send it to us here: http://manlihood.com/ask-a-man --------------- VISIT THE MANLIHOOD STORE FOR RESOURCES, APPARE

In this installment of a five part series titled “Things Men Don’t Want to Talk About”  for the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about the past. https://youtu.be/puEqBC-nepE This can be related to last week’s episode about sexual abuse - or even about other kinds of abuse - but it’s not just that. All of us have a past. Our own mistakes, our own flaws, or hard things we’ve had to endure. It’s hard for us to look back there. Men are fixers. We want to focus on what we can change. It doesn’t help to look at things we can’t change. I know that if I look at my own past, I’ve got a lot of mistakes that I’ve made that I regret. A lot of people I’ve hurt, stupid things I’ve said or did… Sometimes, when I try to fall asleep at night, all of those things come back to haunt me. I have an auditory memory. So I can replay conversations I had in my head from ten years ago. And I hear all the stupid things I said, and I feel like a jerk. No. I don’t want to talk about the past. I don’t want

In this installment of a five part series titled “Things Men Don’t Want to Talk About”  for the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about Domestic Violence. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ON2lfVMnIP8 There are two kinds of domestic violence I’d like to address. Neither of them get talked about much. Men abusing women and/or children.  This is unacceptable. If you’re caught in a cycle of this, you need to get help. Not talking about it is making you a monster. Because that’s who abuses women and children - monsters. You’re not a man, you’re a beast, or a little boy with beer muscles. Get help. Men abused by women. There’s got to be a tremendous amount of shame involved with this. Despite the fact that our culture has completely upended gender roles, there’s still a prevailing mindset, that a man is strong and that he is stronger than she is.  We also teach boys that it’s always wrong to hit a woman. So a man is actually trained to be susceptible to abuse because he’s trai

In this installment of a five part series titled “Things Men Don’t Want to Talk About”  for the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about sexual abuse.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsDenN8bhy0 Here’s some information on male sexual abuse from 1in6.org A 2005 study conducted by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, on San Diego Kaiser Permanente HMO members, reported that 16% of males were sexually abused by the age of 18.1 A 2003 national study of U.S. adults reported that 14.2% of men were sexually abused before the age of 18.2 A 1998 study reviewing research on male childhood sexual abuse concluded that the problems is “common, under-reported, under-recognized, and under-treated.”3 A 1996 study of male university students in the Boston area reported that 18% of men were sexually abused before the age of 16.4 A 1990 national study of U.S. adults reported that 16% of men were sexually abused before the age of 18.5 That 1 in 6 statistic is based on reported, documented cas

Things Men Don't Want to Talk About: Pornography and Masturbation In this installment of a five part series titled “Things Men Don’t Want to Talk About”  for the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about Pornography and Masturbation. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2x1Ytt0qFQE Men don’t want to talk about what they do when no one is looking. For a few reasons. One reason, we don’t want anyone to tell us we shouldn’t do it…. Or… we don’t want anyone to know we do it. Masturbation takes away from our power. It may seem like a release, or like a biological way to “clear the pipes.” But it’s not that. It actually decreases desire, and can create a situation where you are training yourself to the fastest way possible to orgasm. This is the opposite of what you need in the bedroom with your spouse.   Porn is harmful to men. It’s impact on the brain, impact on the emotions and addictive nature is never satisfied.  Porn is harmful to women.  It teaches men to devalue wom

Things Men Don't Want to Talk About: Our Feelings In this installment of a five part series titled “Things Men Don’t Want to Talk About” for the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about the way men don’t like to talk about their feelings. https://youtu.be/SBorfu0MRIc Dr. Amanda Rose of the University of Missouri did a survey of 2000 school aged boys and girls to explore feelings. "For years, popular psychologists have insisted boys and men would like to talk about their problems, but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak. However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn't express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys' responses suggest they just don't see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity." The reason men don’t like to talk about these things is not because of a deep shame or a fear of opening up. We don’t talk about our feelings generally, because

Cancel Culture is a Crock In this episode of the Manlihood ManCast, Josh Hatcher of Manlihood.com talks about Cancel Culture, and why we need to reevaluate our current culture of outrage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fg39KfPIqoE There are things worth outrage. I have a right to freedom of speech. That includes what speech I’ll tolerate on my platform. Pointing fingers at someone we disagree with, calling or boycotts, calling to shut people up, demanding that people be silenced, is not going to change anyone’s mind. Freedom of speech has responsibilities. The simplest solution to speech that offends you is to walk away or turn it off. Get REIGNITE:  A MAN’S FIELD GUIDE TO TAKING BACK HIS LIFE http://www.manlihood.com/reignite/ For more: http://joshhatcher.com  | http://manlihood.com Join the ManCave Today:  http://facebook.com/groups/manlihoodmancave ---------------- Do you have a question you'd like to have answered on The Manlihood ManCast? Send it to us here: http://manlihood