Evoke Therapy Programs

Guest host Judith Sadora, L.M.F.T. welcomes renowned thinker Angela Tucker to the podcast. They discuss transracial adoption and centering the adoptee. They talk about how adoptees carry trauma along with any gratitude they have for their adoptive parents. Angela gives her thoughts about transracial adoption and the responsibility of white parents who adopt children of color. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from audience members. Topics discussed include attachment with neurologically atypical children, how we can set boundaries without appearing selfish, and how to cope with loss (or missing a child in treatment). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks trauma, trauma responses, and how the brain works. He explains how we discover our historical trauma by looking at our fight/flight responses and tracing them back. Flexible responses are contrasted with trauma-based, rigid, knee-jerk, reactive responses. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about healthy detachment, boundaries, and letting-go of outcomes. He points out that healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy attachment and that to move away from codependency, we must be willing to do battle with our guilt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about preparing for your children coming home after treatment. He explains the principles of a good behavioral contract; he also talks about the value and the pitfalls of contracts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions on objectifying your children, what to focus on when your child gets home, and how to intervene when siblings are estranged. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro in the first of a series of episodes talking about parental anxiety. Sanford talks about fixing children versus treatment. He talks about how wisdom from working with learning disabilities can be applied to the general population. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about awareness and accountability and how we focus on one or the other for parents and children. He talks about the place that children occupy in a parent’s mind vs. the weight of the parent in the child’s mind and psyche. He talks about the qualities of a good apology and the gift of an amends or an accountability letter. He talks about paradigms of power in families and how parents who are hesitant to write an accountability letter to their children are held hostage by family systems that emphasized right and wrong over the development of the self. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about coming out as and LGBTQ+ person. He talks about the impact of how family members, parents in particular, respond and the impact that has on the young person. He talks about the approach from a therapeutic lens in contrast to other paradigms such as religious or cultural. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy defines narcissist wounding as the wound of not being seen. While narcissism is used casually and often as an insult, it comes from deep childhood wounding and attachment fractures. He debunks myths that suggest that narcissism comes from overindulging children or permissive parenting. Dr. Reedy explains that we all have some wounding and all have some attributes of narcissism. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions on trust children, coming home after wilderness, and parenting control. He talks about suicide and learning to listen to children as if they are telling you about their dreams. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy discusses the common ways people exhibit borderline patterns of thinking and functioning. Ge talks about the divisiveness and trauma present in our culture and how borderline thinking, all or nothing/black and white thinking is a sign of trauma. He talks about how we make the badness external to make ourselves feel comfortable instead of focusing on and owning our own issues. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Dr. Harriet Lerner to the podcast. In this interview, they talk about the history and culture of mother-blaming, developing self-compassion, and how an authentic apology leads to healing for both parties. Dr. Lerner uses her personal story and her unique voice to talk about how she got into therapy and writing. Brad asks Harriet about how triggers don't equate to blame and Harriet talks about how to "not take yourself too seriously." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy share research on child development and parenting and how talking about race with our children makes a difference. He suggests that we not wait to talk about race with our children and that the uncomfortable discussion is important to have. He suggests that we learn to listen to others (and our children) so that they don't think that violence is the only way they will be heard. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This broadcast was inspired by recent events. Largely based on J.D.Gill's book, Seeing in Intimacy and Psychotherapy, Dr. Reedy talks about how to see past behaviors, symptoms, and rebellion to the wound that lies beneath. He talks about how "othering" people is a way to deal with pain and anxiety. He talks about how a transformation of Self creates an ability to hear and truly see others and how psychotherapy can facilitate this change. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Judith Sadora, primary therapist at Evoke Therapy Programs. Judith talks about transracial adoption and attachment. She talks about Narcissism, holding space for others, and the need to do our own work. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy talks about how attachment theory informs therapy at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about how attachment wounds and fractures can be repaired by a therapist creating competing experiences for the client. the client must re-experience themselves in the context of a capable, empathic other in order to heal. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jamie Goodman, of Pilcrow Advisors, joins Dr. Brad Reedy to discuss Parental Guilt. They discuss how guilt is not a valid measure of right and wrong and how we pass on to our children a susceptibility to peer pressure when we model guilt or use it to change behavior in our children. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From his recent book, The Audacity to Be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self, Dr. Reedy talks about 12 myths of being human and being a parent, including the myth the guilt is related to morality. He also talks about the keys to enlightenment, including "learning to lose" and "knowing your mental illness." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from viewers. He talks about criteria for coming home. He discusses the sensibility shift parents make as they get into recovery from codependency. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.