Sex Nerd Sandra

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

MAGIC MIKE! Continuing last week's stripper theme, Sandra and webcomic artist Erika Moen interview male strippers from Portland's new male strip club, Stag. On stage at Portland's Dante's, hilarity ensues. 

LAP DANCES! Recorded live at Portland's Dante's, it's a packed show. FIRST, enjoy stand-up comedy by Matt Kirshen. THEN comedian Kira Soltanovich joins for a rousing debate about whether strippers are like comedians. THEN, artist, cartoonist and guest co-host Erika Moen (OJST) and Sandra share their very different fascinations with strip clubs. FINALLY, lady strippers Hazel and The Baroness teach Erika and Sandra how to work in a strip club, give a lap dance and as a customer, how to behave. Listen in to Part 2 -MALE STRIPPERS!  

PIMP GIMP! Disability advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie sets Sandra straight about loving and having autonomy over your own body, no matter what the circumstances. TOPICS: Types of disability, Cross-disability, Spinal cord injury, Sex with paralysis, Being special-special, Robin's rare birth defect, Physical therapy sex ed, BDSM, Sex and dating, Person-frist language, Vocabulary: "able-bodied," "crip," and "gimp," Confidence, Feeling broken, Disabled-not-desperate, Self-driving cars, independence, Tindr, Disclosing, Cane, Masturbation, Dr. Marylou Naccarato, Sex toys, Loving yourself and our brains as a sexual organ!

TRIPLE A! Sandra joins a group of asexuals (Aces) at Occidental College to find out about this invisible orientation, including being asexual, aromantic and/or agender. TOPICS: Allosexual, Sexually Repulsed, Amatonormativity, Romantic coding, Coming out to family, Dating, Being lonely, Friendship, Intimacy, Visibility, Ace pride float hopes, Robot assumptions, Cheek kissing, Trying to be sexual, Consent, Resources and so much more! Checkout the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and The Thinking Asexual for more info and meetup groups near you. Watch asexuality videos at Aces Wild on YouTube! Thank you to everyone who joined us for the recording!

DILDO INCEPTION! Sandra marvels at Ox & Jesus of Oxballs, a predominantly gay hardcore toy company. TOPICS: Anal play, Vaginal cul-de-sac, Fringe fetishes, Skyscraper dildo, Straight market dongs, Nipple grippers, Art, 3D printing, Pushing balls forward, Cockring functionality, Bulges, Slings, The Hung, Longterm cocking wear, Penetrators, Goal-oriented size kings, Hollow plugs, Matterhorn lube slide plugs, Foreskin enthusiasm, Toys popular in Japan, 50 Shades of Grey tampon, Pigs & Otters, Kink lingo, Kitty play, Penis sheaths and Ball stretchers!

NO RANCH DRESSING! Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon and performance artist Marriah Moonkindred teach Sandra how to throw a party. TOPICS: Hot lesbian action, Activities, Bar area, Friendly door, Sex and social anxiety, Accidental sex parties, Welcome circle, Kinky Salon, Betty Dodson, Jack & Jill Offs, Other parties, In front of friends, Bonobos, Organic vs planned sex, Giving permission as a host, Beacon of Permission. THEN: Creating your container, BDSM, Swinging scene, Curating guests, Strap-ons, Intention setting, Pre-party orientation, Consent and boundaries, Party zones, Music, Sunday Fun-day, Jealousy, Men hosts, Cuddle Party, Deep throat, Invitations and the perfect snack table!  

KEEPING SECRETS! Sandra seeks therapist & author Dr. Tammy Nelson's wisdom for creating intentional monogamy, especially after infidelity. TOPICS: 2nd Marriages, Occupations that cheat, Fixing yourself, Transformative sex, Redefining relationships, Surviving affairs, Fixing marriage, Explicit vs impact agreements, Committing to forever, Unconditional love problems, Love as a choice, Desexualizing your relationship, Planning sex, Anticipatory eroticism, Arousal before desire, Types of affairs, Monogamy continuum, Betrayal, Integrity, Getting more of what we like and Opening your frontal cortex.

SACRED SEX! Storyteller, author and speaker Charles Eisenstein (Sacred Economics) explores the leverage point of sexuality as a path to a better world.  TOPICS: Artificial sex and money scarcity, Patriarchy, Jealousy, Changing the world, Believing it's possible, Heightened authenticity, Intimacy, Love as expansion of self to include another, The war on yourself, Nature, Revolutionary pleasure, Conquest of flesh, Reuniting with nature and body, Community, Joint creativity, Consuming fun, Primal gifts, Giving and receiving, Rumi, Profound intimacy, College sex, Soul's ego, Experts, Play, Sacred moments, Changing narrative, Demolishing your story, Relationships, Mistakes, Tamera eco-village and Separateness.

SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis.  TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions, Flirting style, British accents in America, Accidentally poly, Crying & waking = Cheching, Detailed list of partners, Therapeutic sex, Pussy Cat Dolls of Dicks, DWI, Burning Man and Exhibitionism!

CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgetting Sex, Anger, Drowning, Treatment, Sex Drive, Insensitive Doctors, Staying Sex-Positive, Connecting with Pleasure, Advocating for Yourself, Medical Mystery Solved, Genital Numbness, Erectile Dysfunction, Conscious Sex Decisions, Control, Foggy Headed, Giving Up, Mental Illness Taboo, Robin Williams and Superhero Sex Stores. 

THE FINGER TEST! Sandra investigates multiple orgasms on all bodies with the help of sex expert Rebecca Alvarez of Body Feminine, filmmaker and drag performer Joshua Grannell (Peaches Christ) and even a little Allison Moon (Girl Sex 101). We explore questions about different kinds of multiple orgasms, who can have them and how!  TOPICS: Drag celebrity superhero, Undercover sex, Drag gender, Sissy, John Waters, Rocky Horror, Heels vs Tucking, Corporate, Popular sex questions, Masturbation stats, Mirror test, Combo vs Back-to-back, Refractory, Ramping up, Male orgasm separation, Advanced Keeling, Bucket list, Penis towel exercise, Vaginal peace sign test, Penis popping out, Wet-small-and-weak, Tight college bag, Sufficient foreplay, Vacation sex, Uterus lifting, Male multiples, Anal orgasms, Touching the C,G,N, A and U spots, Peeing at ejaculation mystery, Spots on men, Million dollar spot, Taoism, Inguinal Canal, Spermatic Cord, Muffing, Spelunking and Tucking! 

ANAL G-SPOTTING RETURNS! Sandra responds to listener voicemails on virginity at 27, orgasm issues with partners, fear of sleeping with someone you actually like for once, dating while visually-impaired, repeatedly being repulsed by dates until broken up, fair-trade free-range cage-free porn, anal g-spotting, opinions on what's important for the first time having sex, will you be alone?, sex party selection and how to prepare a nervous partner and a series of beeps. Keep the magic alive. Leave Sandra a message at (310) 928-3261.

WOLVERINE VS MYSTIQUE! Sandra takes on any question from the NYC Sex Nerd Meetup group, then she fires back a few. TOPICS: Internal Orgasm, Kegel Elevator Exercise, Squirting, Kegelcisor, Sex Books: "Blow Him Away," "Red Hot Touch," "SM 101," "Guide to Getting it On," "Urban Tantra," Asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction), Visibility, Morrissey, Wolverine vs Mystique, Flash vs Superman, Nerds on Sex, Sex-Negative Drama, Nervous Partner, Tantric Sex, Yoga, Podcast Drama, Sex Nerd vs Educator, Jon Stewart, Catholicism Journey, Number of Sex Partners, Double Standard, Poly Processing and Hump Day as our sacred day.  If you're in New York City, join the NYC Sex Nerds monthly hangout on Meetup.com!  

YELLOW FEVER! Comedian and storyteller Kevin Allison (Risk!, The State) stashes his favorite sex toy and poppers away and tells us how he got into and might get out of his kinky rut. TOPICS: Risk! Storytelling, Gay Before Kindergarten, Sex Clubs, Rimming, Njoy Pure Wand, Kink Aware Professionals, Mollena Williams, Poppers Addiction, Gay Male Culture, Skipper & Gilligan, Bears & Twinks, Giving Away Power, Wanting to Please, Service Dom, Daddy Coach, Sexy Guilt, Raised Catholic, Erotic Hypnosis, Jazz, Pandora's Box, Dark Odyssey Kink Camp, Asian Men, Telling Stories, Taking Care of Yourself, Switching, Sex Therapy, Daddy/boy, Matchmaking and Healing.

SLUT PROTOCOLS! Recorded live at SF Sketchfest, Sandra explores the good, the bad and the messy of benefitting it up in our friendships. Standup comedy from Eliza Skinner at the top of the show. TOPICS: Bad at it, Benefits, Ruining the Friendship, Friend's Future Partners, Unrequited Love, Brain Juices, Pretty in Pink's Duckie, Transactional Relationships, F*** Buddies, Facebook Input, Insular Lesbian Community. Tea Party Nightmare, Wanting Something More, Psychopaths, Changing Situations, Awkward Conversations, Breaking it off, Being Nice & Respectful, Inept & Insecure, Sluts, Mitigating Love, Limerence, Sex Once a Month, Dopamine, Facebook Stalking, Sleepovers, Weekend Getaways, Group Sex, Eye Contact, Learning from Porn Work and Avoiding the Weird.

Sandra responds to listener voicemails about birth control, getting a girlfriend, the problem with cowgirl, dating with too much armor on, and what to do about your erotic portrait displayed at your ex's place. TOPICS: Virgin STDs, Trusting Yourself, IUD, Withdrawal, Intimacy, Professional Driving, Dating Site Disappointment, Self Worth, Self-Esteem, Empty Dating Site Inbox, Activity Partners, Meetup.com, Seeking Medical Attention, Clit Lacerations, Embitterment Toward Women, Deal with Past Hurt, Ex-Casual Friend, Fear of Seeming Dishonest or Untrustworthy, Obligation and Tasteful Nudes.      If you'd like to ask Sandra a question, leave a message at (310) 928-3261. 

SCISSORING DEBATE CONTINUED! Sandra finds out how comedian Cameron Esposito's new album title, Same Sex Symbol intersects with pop culture, LGBTQIA visibility and the key to dating. TOPICS: Rhea Butcher, TV Specials, 10 Years a Comic, Lesbian, Dating Boys, Women Friendships, Obvious Child, Vaginal Birth, Biological Clock, Dogs vs Babies, #murphthederph, Lesbian Sex Symbol, Not Butch or Femme, Fashion Advice, Uniqlo, David Bowie, Varied Gender Expression, Confidence, Transparent, Jeffrey Tambor vs Jared Leto's Acceptance Speeches, Trans Visibility, Brokeback Mountain, Improv, How to Be a Lesbian, Secrets in the Improv Details, Becoming Dateable, Your Source of Power, Survival Tactics, Men's Gender Norms, Working on Yourself, Shy, BDSM, Becoming Funnier, Joke Secrets, Dreaming in Jokes, Talking About Feelings, The Comedy Bible, Feminine Comique and Double Dildos!

MILF, GILF and TILF! Japanese plus size porn star Kelly Shibari answers prying questions about porn lingo, vaginal stamina and retiring well from the industry she loves. TOPICS: James Deen, Asian Age Progression, Growing Up in Tokyo, Getting into Porn, Bucket List, Plus Size Sex Ed Video, Jessica Drake, Star Showcase, First Anal Scene Preparation, Cervix Punching, Cuddling, Tease Footage, Couples Porn, Defining Gonzo, Reverse Bukkake, Dress Sizes in Fashion vs Porn, Terms like: Thick vs Chubby vs BBW vs SSBBW, Beyonce, Niche vs Mainstream, Alexis Texas, Spinner Height, Women of Size, Face Sitting, Weight-based Restraint Play, "Stripping Across America," Men in Porn, Evan Stone, The Nineties, Xander Corvus, and Exit Strategies!