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Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to overcome our fear of negotiating and make deals that benefit both sides of any arrangement. The Cheat Sheet: Why everybody's price is an f-you price, according to Alex. (11:15) How to emotionally prepare for awkwardness of negotiations. (23:20) BATNA: what is it and why is it so important? (31:10) Why women are better at negotiating than men. (32:30) When to apply the silent strategy. (35:05) What's the nuclear option in negotiation and how do you know when to push the red button? (48:30). And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-art-negotiating-episode-326/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn

"A day of pain is worth a lifetime of pride." - Jon Vronman The Cheat Sheet: How he invested his last $4k and how it motivated him. The 53-mile double marathon that changed Jon's life. Do you have to be an extrovert to be in the front of your life? The 3 people you admire most: a life evaluation exercise. What is one of the most powerful questions on Earth? The reason most people don't achieve their life's purpose. And so much more... If you imagined your life playing out like a concert, where would you want to live it: the front row or somewhere in the upper deck? The front row of course - that's where the action, energy and enthusiasm is happening. Jon Vroman has built a business and a life around teaching people to live like they're in the front row and he's our guest for episode 306 of The Art of Charm podcast. Join us as we talk about what it means to live life from the front row, how to reframe experiences in a positive way, why your networks are so important and how to be a contributor who makes ever

Imagine what you could do if you could always know what someone else was really thinking - no matter what they were saying to you. How would that change your work life, your life at home and your relationships? Here to help you do just that is Vanessa Van Edwards of the Science of People, a human behavior research lab. She's joins the Art of Charm podcast to give us the inside scoop on human behavior, micro-expressions, being a human lie detector and how to read people like a book. MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW: Vanessa Van Edwards has long been fascinated by people's behaviors. In fact, she thought she would work for the CIA or the Secret Service, until she realized that would mean interrogating people. Instead she opted to combine her interest in people with self-help for the business world, which eventually led to her joining the Science of People. The work she and her colleagues do there has been recognized around the world and has been featured on such notable media outlets as Fast Company, Forbes and NPR Busines

"Nobody ever got rich working for a living." -Grandpa TipsIf the 'World's Most Interesting Man' were a dad, he'd be Charlie Tips. Charlie gives parenting and life advice to those of us shooting for the stars, including:-How to educate your kids to be 'billionaires'-Why public schools actually teach poor mindsets inadvertently-How a 12 year old kid created his own high school packed with world-travel and won two Emmys by age 30-Quora takeaways from article: no prep schools, teach generosity, love of work, and how to be worthy of wealth-How trading time for money is a losing battle, and how a total schlub learned the skills and mindset of capitalism and put it into actionHere's the original answer on Quora You'll also like:-The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTune

"If you don't like the way the world is, you change it. You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time." -Marian Wright Edelman James Swanwick of Alpha Male Club swings by to discuss: -Why fear of success is just as real as fear of failure -Bluffing his way onto ESPN and into a job as a SportsCenter anchor -How to formulate a plan and take action despite your fear ("feel the fear and do it anyway") -Recognizing sticking points (fear) and moving forward -Why failure is an integral part of success How he stopped drinking and you can too (if you decide to do it, that is!) You'll also like: The Art of Charm Toolbox Best of The Art of Charm Podcast   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordanh@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888

“You cannot run away from weakness; you must some time fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you stand?”—Robert Louis Stevenson We've all heard of 'flow'. That mysterious in-the-zone state that athletes, performers and other professionals consummate in their craft seem to attain when they're really crushing it. But what is it and how do we get there deliberately, calling forth flow when we need (or want) it?We'll cover that and more in this episode of The Art of Charm Podcast with Steven Kotler, including:-The flow genome project (can we ENGINEER flow?)-What is FLOW?-What happens in your brain during flow?-How do we trigger flow and harness it for ourselves?-How flow saved Steven’s life and helped him recover from Lyme disease-The flow cycle which is a roadmap for flow as well as practical things we can do and work on to make this cycle a reality for us-More bullet points, likely all including the word 'flow' at some point ;)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art

"Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be." Hal Elrod died and came back to life. But, he didn't just want ANY old life...In this episode, we'll talk about:-How Hal went from dead for 6 minutes to ultra-marathoner to RAPPER to speaker and trainer (and yes, we have Hal freestyle the rap -don't worry)-How we cause our own emotional pain (the gap between what we wish were true and what is, and how much we wish we could change it)-Remaining positive even in the face of death and disability-Why an acute case of impostor syndrome in your career can be worse than death-The best way to structure your morning for productivity, happiness and your best shot at getting in the zone (hint: it’s not coffee and it’s not just exercise)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there

“To be in the 1% you have to do what the 99% won’t.” -Unknown Noah Kagan got fired from Facebook...and proceeded to kick ass, again and again.Noah Kagan of Okdork.com was a cubicle slave at Intel, #30 at Facebook (AND GOT FIRED), #4 at Mint.com and has gone on to start two 7-figure businesses, his latest is AppSumo.com.In this entrepreneurship-oriented episode of the show, we'll discuss:-Why scarcity mindsets hinder growth-How networking REALLY works and why you need to do it no matter what industry you're in-Tips from the pros on how to ‘get known’-How to “give value” even when you think you have nothing to offer-Digging your well before you need it-Why it’s “all about who you know” and why this is a GOOD thing-Why spending your time with high-quality people is crucial-How to reverse-engineer anything and work backwards from what you want-How to engage your creative brain and defeat creative block-Where to start when creating and running a new business-Finding out who has your customers-Where to look for and

"Either you run the day or the the day runs you." - Jim Rohn This one starts off a little scattered but gets fun and goes deep quick. Jordan and Jordan (yes, we've not doubled but SQUARED the Jordan in this one), discuss:-What men have been led to believe women want in a relationship vs. what they actually need-How to get and give relationship feedback in less than 5 words-Why waiting behind self-optimization is a fallacy when it comes to finding your significant other (aka "I'll start dating again once I'm healthier/richer/etc.")-Why investing in your love life is the greatest thing you can do for your health, wealth, and happiness-How to open your woman sexually and emotionally-How and why to give your partner consistent praise and appreciation.-Why it's important to let your partner see every side of you.-How to never stop dating your partner.-How to cut out habits from your life that you know aren't serving youThis is a great one so grab a notepad and enjoy!You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of

“The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.” – OshoBrace yourself for some woo-woo-ness in this episode as Jordan Harbinger and Mike Hrostoski discuss:-The death of Mike's mother, how it affected him and spurned him into a deeper way of experiencing the world-Honesty versus vulgarity (open vs closed heart)The mens movement and our place in it-‘Holding space’ -what this means and why Jordan let this fly on the show-Exercises such as "1 month to live" How to decide which friends to keep in your life as you work on yourself.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscrib

"Wishful thinking is NOT a strategy." -Josh Shipp Josh Shipp is a motivational speaker and author with an awesome story (in both the good and the bad way).Jordan and Josh uncover:-The journey from depression and criminal behavior to successful entrepreneur-How to ditch the victim mentality-The importance of mentors and how to get them-Breaking things down to baby steps and WHEN to get training (and what kind) in order to overcome your hurdles-How to deal with critics and hatersJosh Shipp is a former at-risk foster kid turned teen advocate. His TV series TEEN TROUBLE (A&E / Lifetime) documented his work with teens in crisis. He is the author of “The Teen’s Guide to World Domination“, and was listed on Inc. Magazine’s 30 under 30 list. He helps adults understand teens & teens understand themselves.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all

"Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." -Muhammad Ali Men's Journal Contributing Editor Daniel Duane discusses friendship between men, why we suck at it and why it can kill us.-Why men suck at friendship-How many friends do we need?-The Different types of friends-What is the Male deficit model and why you should care-How friendships between men and women differ-Study: men are bad communicators AND we suffer as a result-Having no friends will kill you. Literally.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We

"I know not every mom is a secret KGB spy, but every mom has this whole other life. Every dad and every person has this whole other life." -Keri Russell Robin Dreeke is an author, teacher of social engineering (sometimes with The Art of Charm's Jordan Harbinger) and the chief of the Behavioral Analysis Program at the FBI. Opinions and concepts expressed on this show are his own and not that of the FBI (just to be EXTRA clear on that).Today, we'll discuss:-Pretty much nothing about being the chief spy catcher for the FBI...and a lot about how to build trust and rapport-How to get paranoid/sketchy people to trust you-How to refrain from judging others and why this is so powerful-Attaining our goals with people in the face of our own emotional resistance-How to build tolerance of others avoid becoming collateral damage of other people’s insecurities.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us

"I'm just starting to scratch the surface of what really makes me happy and it's taken me a while to admit that acting like a little child and being a jerk and a punk is fun." -Leonardo DiCaprio Best-selling author, investor and a-hole extraordinaire Tucker Max graces us this time around.We'll cover:-Being a best-selling author, selling millions of books-Why he retired from the party-animal way-of-life-Emotional pain in Tucker’s childhood-“Growing Up Tucker Max”-"Emotional promiscuity” and how it fills a hole in our psyche-The layers in Tucker’s writing and how we see those over time and at different ages-Parenting advice from Tucker Max (yep, you read that correctly)-Why what happens to you is not your fault and what you do with that afterward is up to you.-Why emotional health is one of the most important things in any relationship.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  Th

“The cost of being wrong is less than the cost of doing nothing.” - Seth Godin Ben Greenfield is kinda crazy, but in a good way. You'll see what we mean when you listen to Ben & Jordan discuss body-hacking, natural supplements (and not-so-natural supplements as well), along with:-How we absorb metal and toxins through our daily life-Metal detox and why you might need it depending on where you live-Underground training tactics (packing hard workouts into short times during your daily routine)-Detoxyfiying your organs and gut-Compression and why it’s not just for old people-Ice baths and metabolism-Why its important to be PHYSICALLY uncomfortable at some point every day-How to optimize sleep and get the highest-quality z’s possibleThere's more, but we'll let you discover it as you learn & laugh during this episode of The Art of Charm Podcast.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a revie

"Love is the expression of one's values, the greatest reward you can earn for the moral qualities you have achieved in your character and person, the emotional price paid by one man for the joy he receives from the virtues of another." -Ayn Rand AJ & Jordan Harbinger discuss the age-old conundrum of where to meet & attract high-quality women in the age of internet culture and digital dating.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph

"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." —Leonardo Da Vinci Habit-Change maestro James Clear knows about habits, the good, the bad, and how to change them for the better, every day.During this episode of The Art of Charm Podcast, Jordan Harbinger and James will uncover:-Why habit is more important that goals and outcomes-Why you're building habits every single day, good and bad, whether you want to or not-Meeting Richard Branson and how he advises us to keep it simple-How "the chosen ones choose themselves"-That failure is the cost you pay to be right-How to treat failure like a scientist-The benefits of a low-INFORMATION diet-How our language affects our behavior...and more!Free downloads and goodies for Art of Charm listeners: http://jamesclear.com/aocYou’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out

"Every action is measured by the sentiment from which it proceeds." -Emerson Mild-mannered yet Super-Human, Elliott Hulse both terrifies and delights small children (and adults).He also drops serious knowledge on The Art of Charm Crew, including:-Why its important to become strong (Calm down -it's not what you think)-How do we become the strongest version of ourselves?-Much of our intelligence is found in our bodies, literally-How to find our own path to strength-How your body and mind are inseparable, and actually the same thing-How to breathe, for real-Exercises to stretch out muscular tension that we carry all of the time that impedes proper breathing-How the Eastern mind and Western mind differ, and how we can absorb some of the lessons that will make us stronger emotionally-Body-psychology therapy, mattress-humping for a healthy lifestyle and emotional clarity (Yep. Really.)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please

“Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” -George Carlin Men are apt to say that "women are crazy." And while some women are truly off kilter, many of the reactions men experience in women's emotions have a valid underlying reason. So what's truly crazy? How can you tell if the girl you're dating is a head trip, or just expressing her emotions? How much of that is your responsibility and caused by your actions? And what situations are you being "made wrong" for that have no validity? Relationship Management expert Susan Winter to the rescue.Today, we're talking about some biggies, such as:-How to decide on and screen in the girl you want for a relationship-How to answer the “what are we?” question-How to set up personal boundaries within a relationship How to handle conflict within a relationship-How to handle bumps in a relationship after the first few months What to do when you feel your partner is pulling

John Corcoran of Smart Business Revolution tells us how to systemize our networking and relationship-building process, including: Why it’s all about who you know and why that's a GOOD thing (instead of something to whine about) How to start developing a network like a ninja How to network even when you don't know anyone, “have nothing to offer” and don't have any money How to spark interesting conversations and connections Finding the RIGHT people to connect with at events and parties Getting over the ‘fear of being fake’ Following up with connections and making them count How to measure your networking ‘results’ and ensuring you're getting ROI for your time and efforts building your networkYou’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to